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I'm feeling terrible today

sixthson

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You are in love and while your bf gave you permission to do what you did, your heart did not. I'd listen to your heart, if I were you.
 
If anything, by your honesty, you have just done yourself and your b/f a big favour by both of you proving where your loyalties lie, and they lie with each other. Your b/f handled it well and so did you by talking to him about it. So don't beat yourself up, revel in what you have. (*8*)
 
Well, you may feel dirty from having 'cheated' on your bf, but here's the thing. He gave permission.

So you learned something.

Your old bf must realize that he isn't providing everything a 20 year old guy may need.

Where I think you cheated is that you went looking for another daddy figure and have gone a good distance to finding romance with yet another old guy. It is like you went looking for someone new to fill your heart and not your ass and mouth. That has to hurt your bf.

Why not play with guys your own age but reserve your emotional involvement and romance for the guy that fills the void you have for a daddy? That might work for both you and your bf.
 
Deciding "let's have an open relationship" sometimes seems like it'll solve everything. No jealousy, no boundaries, win-win, right? The thing is - there are guys who apparently aren't interested in an open relationship. They DO want to be monogamous, even if their partner isn't "satisfying their needs" or isn't able to perform.

Open relationships aren't for everyone. Perhaps you're not one of those who wants one.

Lex
 
sixthson said:
You are in love and while your bf gave you permission to do what you did, your heart did not. I'd listen to your heart, if I were you.
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Couldn't have said it any better.

Don't beat yourself up. You tried something thinking it would fill a void with the bf's permission. It didn't. Now look at it as a learning experience.
 
you boyfriend is old enough to relize he can't stop you and that you have needs and need to play the field before you can really be together. it's unconventional but it's smart.

however, you need to reassess your future with him. do you continue to do what you're doing. or do you do stay exclusive or do you keep trying other guys as it will eventually get easier to feel less guilty.

what I would do? work on my future with my career and keep at school. You're 20, where's your summer career internship? You need that to guaranty a job after college.
 
You are young; you have feelings; you are horny....all good! lol!

I couldn't have said it better...sometimes you can be given permission and the autopilot is turned on. You can have sex but sex is not love. You found the difference at an early age -- too many people confuse sex and love and think having one all the time will produce the same result.

There is nothing that will replace love....
 
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