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I'm not out but I'm looking for a relationship.

O-Sexy-O

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I just find it hard to find someone who is gay and is willing to have a relationship with me! :cry:
I just hope I find him soon!
 
They pop up when you least expect it. It is possible to find someone who is also in the closet. But I foresee problems. But it's been done.
Have you perhaps looked at some of the online sites?

I will, however, point out that it is easier to find someone when you yourself are out.

And might I say, the lips in your avatar are the sexiest I've seen! I mean, wow!
 
Well I hope you find what you're looking for but I'd never have a relationship with a guy in the closet.

I have all that pesky self-esteem that gets in the way.
 
It is possible! I had a short relationship while still in the closet! We did not have the same goals in life, so we ended!
You will just need to be discreet, and honest! You will find him when you least expect it. That happened to me!! Good Luck!
 
Well im not out and i would be interested to get into a relationship with someone who was also not out.Its just not a great time for me right now, even if i do find the right guy. Anyhow, i think being in the closet is not a negative attribute for you, im sure a lot of guys are not looking for the out gay guy, and would prefer a guy not out like u.
 
I found my bf through a mutual friend, we're both pretty deep in the closet. Unlike the poster above, we have so much in common both now and as far as future goals, so I have hope that this will last unlike some closeted relationships!! We both agreed that we would keep it completely discreet, but at the same time if people did come to their own conclusion about it that it wouldn't be the end of the world... and they may start coming to conclusions once we start living together in a pretty small college appartment and they always see us together.
 
If you ask me, you should spend your effort finding a way out of the closet instead of spending it looking for a boyfriend. You'll have much better options and less baggage once you're out.
 
Hey o-sexy-o,

Like Liam said... friends and lovers pop up when you least expect them...

Dont put too much pressure on yourself....dont make any rash decisions...let time run its course and soon enough you'll find yourself with someone you'll care about.

There are plenty of guys around the same as you...who feel the same way. Someone will soon fill that void... you've just got to be aware of the what the world has to offer and to be ready to make the most of the opportunities that come your way. Dont let fear stop you finding the happiness you deserve.
 
You're young. Probably most of the gay guys your age are still in the closet so I wouldn't worry about it.

But I do think its time to start working your way out into the light. There's more bf material there. I don't know how you'll ever find the ones in the closet. Good luck to you!
 
I'm half way out of the closet myself. But I've been looking for other gay guys around my area just as friends but alas most of them leave here after High School and head to the big cities like London, Ontario. Oh well if it's in the cards then it will happen and if not then it won't. But I'm also a big believer in "No Fate but What you Make!"

so who knows. Time will tell ;) Good luck to you and welcome to the boards!
 
Well, most out gay guys don't want to be with someone who's in the closet. :( On the chance, however, that a guy gets to know you and finds that he likes you even though you're still closeted and is willing to go throught hatw ith you and allt he complications it can bring, it can happen.

It's just hard for a gay man to go back into the closet for anyone, since they enjoy the freedom they've had since they came out themselves.
 
Actually if I meet somebody who I really cared for and we just clicked. I would have no fear of stepping out of that closet and embracing the light. Cause even if the storm hits...I've got somebody to help me through it!

So when I find that guy...I'm free! ;)
 
Thanks all for the advice. There's a lot to think about, I mean this is my life. So I'll see what the future brings!
 
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