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I'm such a fucking douchebag.

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There's a friend of mine that I slept with a while back and afterwards I started having feelings for him. o I persued him and it was a long and akward process, but we did end up starting a realationship. Problem is since then all the chemestry and desire is gone. Like completely. Turns out I am one of those fuckheads who just likes the game or whatever. I really don't get it myself...I was really into him, but now it's just...I don't know, tedious if I had to pick a word.

I don't know what to do. I can't dump him...not after they way I persued him, I can't hurt him like that. I'm such a fuck.
 
It's possible you are addicted to the chase. Once you make the conquest you're on to the next one. Search online for SCA, Sexual Complusives Anonymous. Perhaps you'll find some answers there.
 
I don't know if you were looking for advice or not, and I really don't know how to give advice on this, but I wish you luck in finding your answers (*8*)
 
Either:

Stick with it and try to make it work for a while to see if you can develop feelings for him,

or break up with him and tell him you're a fucking douchebag.

Then don't date anyone else until you've gotten some help to figure out how not to be this way.
 
Your two best options have already been laid out. You could also suggest an open relationship kinda thing. I know I usually remember my attraction for someone when I see them with someone else.

The chase can be very hot. I don't think you are a douchebag. I think you may be a man who doesn't quite understand what he has when he has it. Work to appreciate the thrill of the catch.
 
Went back and read my response--to clarify, I don't think you're a fucking douchebag. I was just using your own words if you think that's what you are. Sometimes we get what we want, and we realize it wasn't really what we wanted. It sucks for all parties involved.

Question: is this the same guy who you had the love/hate/assholes friendship with? Just curious, because that might add another dimension to the dynamic. Is it the chase that you wanted, or is there perhaps a part of you that's attracted to someone who treats you poorly, but then interest is lost when the mistreatment turns to something less conflicted?
 
You shouldn't enter a relationship until you have your psychological issues worked out.
 
Nomenclature said:
You shouldn't enter a relationship until you have your psychological issues worked out.
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And, I also think a person shouldn't necessarily jump to ending a relationship until all his psychological issues are worked out either.

If people can be deluded into thinking they have fallen in love (which is the premise of this thread) then they can also be deluded into thinking they have fallen out of love.
 
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