I'm ugly. Formerly anorexic. In therapy. On anti-depressants. Jealous. And sad.

[seven2go]

Nose job?
If it'll make YOU feel better.......but that's not it.
You AREN'T ugly.......wherever you got THAT idea from.......when you smile NORMALLY you're downright cute........
So you're thin.......BFD.......millions would KILL to be so thin. Luckily I'm not one of them........I'm pretty slim myself......
If you insist on changing your EXTERIOR.......start with the hair......
Your glasses might be a bit much for your face but a different hair style is cheaper.....
However.......trust me.......your troubles don't lie on the outside.......

 

[fetaby]

I do sincerely hope you find what it is your looking for, Will. I hope you find the strength within your character, to learn that it is only what you choose to think of yourself that is important.. I've looked for that same validation from others, while I wasn't focused so much on my looks, I was focused on the approval... I sought out the approval of the people around me, I stopped living my life for myself and instead under the delusion that I could somehow control the uncontrollable... other people

Try your best to not assume.... we can never know what is going on in someone else's mind... assuming we do know is a way of creating superiority, and shows a lack of respect.. ask your self how you would feel if you thought one way, and someone tells you that you are not thinking the way you are...

The most attractive people I have ever met... carried themselves with a level of confidence that was tempered by humility... they were humble of the gifts they were blessed with, but at the same time recognized their gifts as something truly great and were not afraid of them... like Thomas...

 

[soulseeker]

You are beautiful. Don't let your insecurity cloud your judgment. Beauty in the inside lasts much longer than the outside. To feel beautiful, you must believe that you are beautiful. Believe it, live it, and breath it.

 

[stebeng]

The hardest part out of this trap is conquering your own mentation. Mastering how you think, how you think about the world and how you view yourself is the key. The fashion/Coco Chanel quote at the bottom is very insightful. How important is it that you "look good"? What if the most important thing was that you "felt good"? or, better yet, that you "do good"?

And constantly remind yourself, we ALL go through this, each in our own way. My issues are around being overweight. Now I just don't worry about what I look like, I concentrate on my health.

I wish you the very, very best in 2010. May it be a year of discovery.

Hugs,

Steven

 

[Enigma63]

i felt like you in my teens , i was the only gay guy in a very small town, i move too the city and was amazed at how much better i felt when guys started noticing me, i wish you all the best and i hope you see the beauty in you that is in all of us, good luck ,i hope you fine what you are looking for.

 

[jizzeater]

IMO, you are a very nice looking guy. If you're a model, others must think the same. There's no way I would cut up that nose if I were you. It looks perfect to me.

If you aren't getting any attention, the only reason I could chalk it up to is a lack of confidence. Maybe, because of insecurity, you're giving off an aloof vibe? Maybe you seem unapproachable? Your cam pics portray a person who is fun and outgoing, so I don't know.

 

[gustischafer]

You are not ugly. You think you're ugly, that's why you appear to be ugly to yourself. The appearance is not everything! I am fat (20 kilos more than normal) and I don't think I'm pretty or something, but I try not to show people! I try to find ways to make me look nicer.

You could change your hair style. You could wear contact lenses instead of glasses. You could grow some facial hair. You could gain some weight (I wish I could give you some of mine! lol) You could work out to build muscles and generally a nice body. There are so many things to do! So get started!

My psychological situation is really bad. I feel terrible. And not only because of my appearance, but other things too. Just try not to think about it. Try to get over it! Try spending more time with people or things you like and make you feel better!

 

[youngnihilist]

Gay world's tough isn't it? Most of attraction is about confidence as you'll hear over and over again. Many who may not be conventionally attractive get whoever they want because of personality and confidence. You don't look bad at all. You may consider , as others have said, changing hairstyle (probably shorter) and getting contact lenses and it'll really bring out your best qualities

 

[xXSeanXx]

Im not doubting you have problems but nothing seems genuine to me. Attention seeking and compliment fishing yes, but dire need of help, no.

You point out all the negative things you do but no plan about what you are going to do to correct them. Apart from the nose job

Alot of things dont add up

 

[3nipples]

Other people's perception of how you look has more to do with your attitude or if you will, how you project your personality. Having surgery on your nose isn't going to help you any.

 

[sixthson]

Your value as a human being will never come via plastic surgery. I will not tell you that you are beautiful because it doesn't matter what I think about you. Your self esteem cannot come from others. If it does, that means they can also take it away from you. Do you really want others to have that kind of power over you?

It always seems ironic to me that the ones who most complain of having no self esteem are the ones most obsessed with themselves. Start putting others ahead of yourself in your life. You might find it works wonders.

Good luck.

 

[cityboy-stl]

I'm with Seven2go. Exactly the same thing came to mind when I look at your pictures. You are actually quite attractive and there's nothing wrong with your nose. If you want to do something get a haircut and those black oblong glasses do not fit your face at all.

 

[maxpowr9]

I will agree with the rest of the people here. A hair cut is in order and you need to lose the glasses (or at least get smaller ones). Big-framed glasses draw a lot of attention to your face and away from your sexy body. Not to mention they will hide beautiful eyes, not accentuate them.

 

[Shattereddreams]

Been there bro, been there ! Okay first it\'s so not about the way you look. It\'s all about confidence.

I tested this theory. You walk into the room looking all shy and weak and nobody\'s is even going to look at you.

You walk into the room with a smile on your face and your head held up high..everybody is going to notice you and want to find out more about you.

A smile can intimidate lots of people. A look can do even more ! Use the weapon that everyone has but not everyone uses !

Take all the great things about yourself and write them on a paper and keep reminding yourself about what makes you awesome !

Life is made up of different shapes, sizes and colours. We all play a part in the formation of our universe.

Without you the universe would be missing a piece which would make it ugly !

You are a brilliant human being. I have read your posts in many fourms and your a great person..don\'t you ever fucking forget that.

 

[El Masturbador]

this is sad. i hope you feel better.

 

[GEMATRIA12]

you look fine,count your blessings,

did u see that woman that was attacked by a gorilla,her face is destroyed!!!

you look ver good,i think you just need a style change,

as for why people supposdly find u unattractive,99 percent of the time,its because of personality over looks,try working on that,

because your looks are more than ok,

good luck!

 

[hotatlboi]

You are not ugly man. I'm not sure why you would think you are. Perhaps you have some self image issues that you need to work through in therapy.

Best of luck.