I'M UGLY! HELP! I'm meeting someone

[glorff]

Are you meeting for s date or as movie buffs? Friends don't have to worry about looks and lovers shouldn't either. I have a friend that thinks that there is is something wrong with his looks because of his teeth and acne, but I think he is pretty damn hot.

Don't try to decide for somone else and don't worry about something you can't control. You are perfect for someone, so just don't scare him away with your attitude.

 

[MisterMajestic]

Hello,

I met someone on the Internet. I'm meeting this guy tomorrow and I can tell he's gay. Anyway, we're only supposed to watch a movie because we met from this movie forum.

The problem is, I haven't done it--this meeting strangers thing. The reason is because I have acne scars and a less than ordinary smile.


My question is, DO GAY GUYS care about other MEN/GAY GUYS' appearance? Would YOU care if someone you met online is ugly? I'm just totally scared of meeting in a rendezvous, then he sees me from afar, then backs out.

It's interesting that you're worried about your Physical appearance but you still planned the Meet and Greet...You did not say that you both discussed having sex with each other or anything of a sexual nature. So you've chatted online for some time, you're becoming friends, you plan to meet & watch a Flick.

What worries me is that you're expecting more than what this Guy is looking to give. I mean, what if he's an avid Movie Fan like myself and ONLY wants to watch a Flick with you then go home?

You need to tell us more...You say that you can tell "he's gay"...What are your expectations from him? Did you talk about being "Bicurious"? Did he say he's dated men?

What you need to do is NOT set yourself up. The only ground rules you've made with this guy is "watching a movie"..Nothing else has been discussed. Just enjoy the company. If you're wanting him to be interested in you then you'll have to wait and see if that happens. But if it does not happen then you're going to have to decide whether or not your method of meeting Guys is working...

Bottom line...You invite someone over with the intentions of a social visit yet you're wanting more. If you fail to be UPFRONT & tell a person what you're looking for and why you're inviting them over then you're setting yourself up for disappointment...

This Guy that you're going to meet will probably be the same guy you've chatted with..But to his surprise you MIGHT end up being someone other than the Guy he THOUGHT he chatted with about watching "movies"...You really have to talk to people and let them know your intentions..

 

[locksmithers]

No, no, I'm not expecting anything at all except watch a movie. I can tell he's gay because he called Robert Pattinson "fiiiiiine" (yes, with the multiple i's).

I'm just nervous because like I said I haven't done this sort of thing before. I've watched on the Tyra show about women meeting men online and then when they get to the location, they linger and when the guy is unattractive, they just leave.

I just don't want to be that guy who waits for 2 hours only to not realize that they already left.

I hope you're all right though.

 

[bankside]

locksmithers, only a completely arrogant and self-centred person would expect everyone to find him attractive. You don't strike me as being completely arrogant and self centred. This means you realize, like every healthy person, that some people just won't be into you. It is true for everyone.

So I wouldn't worry about trying to avoid that situation. Just think about how you would like to deal with it in a classy way.

Umm, by the way, are you locksmithers or jasonwade?

 

[star-warrior]

Folks, please note that creating other accounts on JUB is a violation of Code of Conduct guidelines, which is why jasonwade is banned.

Please address all further responses to locksmithers, since he's revealed his main and now only persona on JUB.

I'm moving this to Coming Out, Relationships and Bi-Sex Talk. Please note that this is a no-flame zone, please address only the issues raised by the OP who is locksmithers to locksmithers.

 

[spencer]

I think it's great that you put yourself out there. And people say you can't meet gays outside of bars or dating sites but you did.

I'm guessing you guys are meeting as movie buffs, so don't feel like you have to be a hunk. You have a common interest, which gives you an advantage. Keep you confidence up and keep the focus about movies and getting to know him better. You don't want to act timid or worse apologetic.

Question though, are you able to do anything about your acne? My health insurance paid for me to be on antibiotics and treatment back in my 20's. Look at Adam Lambert, he has acne scars and most people think nothing of his face.

 

[hackingnomberr]

Didn't you guys swap pics or cam or some shit?
Obviously if you have he doesn't think you're ugly!

 

[ridinghorses1]

Well it doesn't sound like a date to me, just friends seeing a movie together. So appearances don't really matter. If you two are going to hang out, shouldn't you two know what each other look like before hand?

 

[G-Lexington]

Do gay guys care about other guy's appearance? Yes, almost always. If they're looking for someone hot to fuck. But it apparently doesn't matter to this guy you're meeting. At least, not as far as a "movie friend" goes. If it mattered, he would've demanded a picture from you. That doesn't mean he'll fall in love with you, or want to go to bed with you, but as long as you're a nice guy, he'll probably at least want to keep going to see movies with you. The rest remains to be seen.

Lex