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In love? Obsesed? Give your 2 cents (kinda long)

Jesus.

Stop being so obsessive when you have sex with someone.

You're scaring the children.
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eso es lo que le dije a la puta que te parió, pero le encaaaaanta la verga! con razón saliste así de pendejo!
 
Ghost of MoltenRock said:
Oh dear!

Rareboy is rather direct but means well.

After reading your last post (well not the spanish invective one, the one before it) I do wonder/fear that you will simply just obsess on the next boy you meet and have sex with when you head off to college. Your behavior has red flag warnings all over it. You are 18 so still very impressionable as you move thru your first sets of boyfriends/relationships. You don't want to start your next relationship in this same manner, as it will doom that one from the start. Young people thrive on drama, and that's ok, but there is a fine line between youth drama and seriously unhealthy behavior. Your thoughts and behavior in this first "relationship" border on or are quite unhealthy for you.

Let's face it most (none) of us don't like to look in the mirror and admit faults, but if you do an unpleasant task now it means you have years of better relationship interaction down the line. A small price to pay for some long term happiness and a better shot at making the next guy you like or fall in love with a healthy partner.

Make sense?
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I guess you could think that, but really, this is not something that happens everytime. I've had sex before, believe it or not, and I'm telling you, this hadn't happenned before. This guy had something that just made me lose it. I don't know what it was. I'm 22 not 18, which is probably not a good argument #-o but really, I'm just as surprised by my reactions as u were scared (I'm a bit scared too). Still, I do think is not healthy to react that way. But I guess I'll have to do some deep search to find out why it was like this. Actually that was one reason why I looked up for your advice, I knew this wasn't right, I needed some guidance. I believe I did it right by coming to you guys. Thanks.

And I'm sorry for the angry reaction to rareboy's comment, but I really wasn't in the mood for that. Anyways, guess this sad sick story is over now. Gotta move on. Be healthy! :rolleyes:
 
That's what I told the bitch that bore you, but (she) loves the cock! Rightly. So leave, asshole!
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Forgive my translation skills. My Spanish is rusty.

So, anyway. Apology accepted. And on behalf of my mother, who is with the angels.

And from your last post, you apparently have realized that you not only were scaring the children, but yourself as well. So hopefully you will think about this the next time that you find yourself not in control of your emotions and reactions.

As you say, move on and be healthy.
 
You may have had great sex and chemistry with him but there's an endless supply of guys where that's possible and easy.
 
Great sex does not equal great relationship potential. The best sex I ever had was with a guy you couldn't pay me enough to date. He was unreliable, played fast and easy with the truth, and had this gigantic fear of intimacy. But the sex was explosive.

You seem to be returning over and over to the one comment he made about him possibly being able to fall in love with you. It's been my experience however that guys communicate far more clearly with how they act, that goes for both of you. You're not really going to endear yourself to someone who just wanted a fuck by excessive angsting or low grade stalking.

Move on, this guy is just a kid anyway no matter what he's been through, and you're not really that much beyond being a kid in the grand scheme of things either. It's probable that neither of you really know what you're after. So go out, have a beer, have some fun, and let it lie.
 
man....ive been there. it sucks i know how you feel. truth of the matter is, he is not into you. i have been in both your shoes, and his. im now saying that he is a bad person, but you did say he was young. when i was 18 (now im 20) i was insecure, and did not want to love anyone.

idk, i would say move on
 
Aww :) well I'm sure we'll find what we're looking for...eventually! lol

I actually don't think it's possible to quit cold turkey...but it's possible to take small steps to stop thinking like the way you're thinking right now. You'll eventually find someone worth it :) Just for now, at least, you know that something's up
 
mxbearboy said:
I know! But for me it'll be "the one who got away" or something like that.
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All of the romance of this kind of statement is caught up in the fantasy built in your own in your own head.

"What might have been" is you getting strung along by a kid who isn't ready for any kind of commitment who ultimately dumps you for the next thing that comes along.

Personally, I'm not given to excessive sentiment, but even if you are, if you're going to rehash this over and over, at least rehash a realistic scenario. I know you want to think that there was a possibility you'd run off into the sunset with this guy, and you're mourning that possibility you think you lost; but you didn't run off into the sunset with this guy, which pretty much means there was no possibility of that occurring after all. If you're going to torture yourself, at least torture yourself over a realistic assessment of the situation.
 
You're an online dater's worst nightmare.

Get some professional emotional help (being a necklace to "tag" him on the second meeting; I'm fairly certain that's in a Stephen King novel. Seriously) and leave the guy alone.

Seriously.
 
I'm back at college now and having a really good time!
I hadn't thought about the guy in a while now but yesterday he was online and as soon as I got online too he said hi, we started chattin', he said he liked talking to me so I guess I didn't freak him out that much!
now I don't find myself constantly thinking about him, got many other things to think about and to do.
I don't know what happened to me before, but I'm handling things pretty well now. I feel more balanced.
It's nice to know that the guy still likes me, but I'm no longer obsessed about if he's going to be online or if he's blocked me (now I know he didn't). I already thought he was lost for me.
Anyways, It's all good now. I'm gonna keep having fun and studying. We'll see what happens next. Paaaarty on!
 
Glad to hear that life is back in balance.
 
Oh yeah, totally not in love. Obsessed might be too strong of a word... infatuated?

"He's just not that into you."

Think about it... just the same way you are, if he was equally as into you, he'd be making some moves wouldn't he?

Take heart though, you met him on manhunt. You got what you were supposed to get out of it. And you didn't end up being roofied, killed and/or raped (in that order). Mazel tov!
 
terps420 said:
Oh yeah, totally not in love. Obsessed might be too strong of a word... infatuated?

"He's just not that into you."

Think about it... just the same way you are, if he was equally as into you, he'd be making some moves wouldn't he?

Take heart though, you met him on manhunt. You got what you were supposed to get out of it. And you didn't end up being roofied, killed and/or raped (in that order). Mazel tov!
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Infatuated? you think? That might be it. I thought it was obsessed but I don't think it was that strong either.

Remember, it is not rape if you cooperate! :rolleyes:
 
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