The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

Internet dating!!!

A

Angel101

Joined
Jul 22, 2010
Posts
20
Reaction score
0
Points
0
Hi, so I met this really nice old guy online and he wants to get together for coffee! Every time I'm in a situation like this where it's to meet someone I kinda chicken out. Am I being crazy! I've always been a romantic and I definetly want a monogomous and loving relationship!! But here in portugal most gays are online trolling for sex or are in a relationship but want to have a 3some! Am I being stupid? Should I meet him despite everything that I feel? Why do some couple find the need to not be exclusive? Why do I feel so nervous about meeting some I met online?

Thanks
 
Those guys online trolling for sex, most likely want the same thing you do, they're just not online trolling for relationships.

So, how do most guys get in a relationship, they met some guy in some situation and hit it off. I find it odd that guys who go out of their way to tell people that they are only interested in relationships don't understand why they get a wary reception.

That's just as extreme as only looking for sex, and every time I got in a relationship, I wasn't interested in dating, until I found someone I wanted to date - if you see what I mean. That didn't stop a lot of other guys from being a lot of fun, or being a good friend along the way. Sure most guys are looking for sex - straight or gay, but that doesn't mean they aren't willing to try something else if they find it.

If you really want to maximize your potential for finding the right guy, go meet as many guys as possible in real life. The net is no substitute for actually meeting the guy. How high are your chances if you don't put yourself out there?
 
I've met a lot of guys online and had no real problems, except for one or two guys. But I don't know how it is in Portugal.
 
I think a lot of the time people on such websites just look for sex and keep their options open unitl they meet someone for a quick shag. But the shag turned out to be good so they met again and realised they had stuff in common and before you know it, they were a couple.
 
anchihiro said:
I think a lot of the time people on such websites just look for sex and keep their options open unitl they meet someone for a quick shag. But the shag turned out to be good so they met again and realised they had stuff in common and before you know it, they were a couple.
Click to expand...


I disagree. In my experience, sex at the forefront always sets the wrong precedent.
 
Interesting

I agree that if sex is the first thing you do or rather the basis for the first thing you do .............. odds are prob not good for a long lasting relationship

that's my take anyway

that said

have met guys online who I'm still friends and friendly with

being online and looking for sex is nothing to be ashamed of but I agree with TX that personal experiences - getting out there - is the answer for meeting someone you might want to get to know better

good luck

meet him - no real harm - as long as you meet in public first
 
DBSKIsMine said:
I disagree. In my experience, sex at the forefront always sets the wrong precedent.
Click to expand...


Only once have I dated a guy I didn't have sex with already. That didn't work out obviously.

There are no absolutes, saying there are is misleading.

This idea that somehow having sex with a guy early, negates your chance for connecting with him is bupkis.

I think that guys who think that, are choosing the wrong guy and blaming the crash on the sex, or in some other way building the situation into something it never was.

Anyway, what happens with sex that it immediately takes a guy you would have had a chance with, and turns him into a guy you don't?

Nothing, if there is no chance, not fucking him leaves you in the exact same place. No chance, he's not interested in dating you.
 
My ex and my current bf were both guys I had sex with on the first date. I would be open to not doing that in the future if I broke up with my bf and was single again. I would also be open to having sex first. It really depends on the guy and how he and I both feel.
 
I've been on two nice dates with a guy from a dating site. Both were very traditional and romantic. I've also also been on a first date with someone from here.

A study showed 10-15% of relationships started online. I'm a supporter of online dating as long as it done smartly and paired with real world dating.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top