Interracial Dating?

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

Looking for something new. Where are some best cities or states for interracial dating?

 

[Seasoned]

I would think you're living in one of the best.

 

[Hidden Element]

I would say the internet might be ur best friend look to see whos about

 

[checkinthingsout]

Looking for something new. Where are some best cities or states for interracial dating?

what exactly do you seek? Just someone with a different skin color? Why do you think you would need to look anywhere besides Atlanta?

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

I would think you're living in one of the best.

Atlanta is a big joke, when looking at the big picture. I thought the same thing before I came here. The diversity seems like it could be here, but it isn't. They tend to look down upon it. I don't get it..... Tons of superficial lifestyles and all everyone thinks abt is sex, sex, sex.....so tired of the same bullshit. #GetsOld

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

I would say the internet might be ur best friend look to see whos about

I been doing a lil research online, but not really finding much. I see more things about straight couples, but nothing abt the other lifestyles.

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

what exactly do you seek? Just someone with a different skin color? Why do you think you would need to look anywhere besides Atlanta?

I'm open-minded, not really sure what i'm looking for anymore. Keep seeming to run into the same results with liars, flakes, unreliable, no car, no job, etc.....smh....A dude with similar interest would be cool to find.

 

[checkinthingsout]

I'm open-minded, not really sure what i'm looking for anymore. Keep seeming to run into the same results with liars, flakes, unreliable, no car, no job, etc.....smh....A dude with similar interest would be cool to find.

Where are you looking for guys? How are you presenting yourself? How are you approaching these guys? I met plenty of guys with Cars and Jobs when I lived in Atlanta. And FYI, most cities where gay dating is accepted, so is interracial dating. I don't think any one city is better than another in terms of interracial dating. There are just more guys to choose from where the population of the city is larger.

Instead of discounting all the guys in Atlanta, why dont you use this post to explain more about your experiences dating and your specific frustrations from those experiences, and we can provide advice on the root of your issues.

 

[hotatlboi]

Atlanta is a big joke, when looking at the big picture. I thought the same thing before I came here. The diversity seems like it could be here, but it isn't. They tend to look down upon it. I don't get it..... Tons of superficial lifestyles and all everyone thinks abt is sex, sex, sex.....so tired of the same bullshit. #GetsOld

You just need to get out more and keep an open mind.

I'm white and met my boyfriend who's asian at jungle.

It's going good so far and like you, neither of us is really about sex all the time.

So Atlanta is just as good as any other city, and definitely better than many.

 

[mcbrion]

What is it that makes you want to date a guy of another ethnicity? That should be the VERY first question you need to ask yourself. Do you like the culture of a specific ethnicity? Are you interested in them or just the 'experience,' of dating someone whose ethnicity is different than yours?

 

[Pyscean]

OP..so..what ethnicity/race are you if I may ask? It's hard to advise on places that you might have increased opportunities to date outside of your race without knowing it. Also, if you're a gay black male, then I'd agree with you that dating outside of your race can be a bit of a struggle in Atlanta. Mainly from the perspective that the percentage of gay non-blacks that are willing to date a black guy is pretty low in Atlanta.

I've has pretty good dating experiences outside of my race (gay black male) in Texas--Dallas, Austin and San Antonio in particular. Over the last three years I've had the opportunity to live in or near these cities and I've met quite a few guys who are open to interracial relationships.

As for all the negative baggage you mentioned, all of that transcends race and location. You're going to find that no matter where you go.

 

[truszgold]

That iis by far the most beserk racist thing I have heard in 20years. Fro that question alone I see why you are single. You need a clinical Psychologust PhD.. That is one of my degrees.

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

Where are you looking for guys? How are you presenting yourself? How are you approaching these guys? I met plenty of guys with Cars and Jobs when I lived in Atlanta. And FYI, most cities where gay dating is accepted, so is interracial dating. I don't think any one city is better than another in terms of interracial dating. There are just more guys to choose from where the population of the city is larger.

Instead of discounting all the guys in Atlanta, why dont you use this post to explain more about your experiences dating and your specific frustrations from those experiences, and we can provide advice on the root of your issues.

I have tried the club scene, online, and also a few networking through friends. I'm more of the laid back type of guy. I'm somewhat a shy guy at first, and I dress masculine (since everyone does labels). I have yet to go on a real date down here. Seems like it is impossible.

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

You just need to get out more and keep an open mind.

I'm white and met my boyfriend who's asian at jungle.

It's going good so far and like you, neither of us is really about sex all the time.

So Atlanta is just as good as any other city, and definitely better than many.

I went to The Jungle for the first time the other night, and was very disappointed.....lol It was too twink-ist for me.

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

What is it that makes you want to date a guy of another ethnicity? That should be the VERY first question you need to ask yourself. Do you like the culture of a specific ethnicity? Are you interested in them or just the 'experience,' of dating someone whose ethnicity is different than yours?

I have always had a better connection with other ethnics. Can be anything from music to movies, since I been down here I been more open to my own race as well. Cause everyone is from somewhere different, just finding the connection with someone on your level seems to difficult.

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

OP..so..what ethnicity/race are you if I may ask? It's hard to advise on places that you might have increased opportunities to date outside of your race without knowing it. Also, if you're a gay black male, then I'd agree with you that dating outside of your race can be a bit of a struggle in Atlanta. Mainly from the perspective that the percentage of gay non-blacks that are willing to date a black guy is pretty low in Atlanta.

I've has pretty good dating experiences outside of my race (gay black male) in Texas--Dallas, Austin and San Antonio in particular. Over the last three years I've had the opportunity to live in or near these cities and I've met quite a few guys who are open to interracial relationships.

As for all the negative baggage you mentioned, all of that transcends race and location. You're going to find that no matter where you go.

That is very true, u will that everywhere. That's a shocker for Texas, maybe I should think about visiting the area to get a feel for things. (and, yes I'm black)

Just like the other day, some of my friends and I got tested and the dude was telling us how bad the black men in Atlanta are with not getting tested on the regular, and so many on the DL. It's scary and nerve-racking, because you don't wanna catch anything. (I have heard ATL's STD rate is super high)

 

[Pyscean]

I can't speak to whether or not gay black men in Atlanta are more or less likely to get tested. I'm really not in a place to even guess. Prior to my 15 year relationship with my last partner, I had only dated three other guys. During that brief period of dating, I did it make a point to get test regularly. Now that I'm back in the dating pool, I get tested pretty regularly. There's no excuse really not to especially since many tests can be done in complete privacy with a home test.

As for Texas, it's a big state. And Dallas is much bigger than Atlanta which means a much bigger dating pool. Dallas, Austin, San Antonio all have a significant hispanic populations, moreso Austin and San Antonio, so there's that. Still, I was able to meet quite a few, cool guys (outside of my race) that were interested in dating. The greatest obstacle I've encountered in dating non-black guys is getting beyond stereotypes. Way too many mandingo-seeking guys out there.

 

[mcbrion]

I have always had a better connection with other ethnics. Can be anything from music to movies, since I been down here I been more open to my own race as well. Cause everyone is from somewhere different, just finding the connection with someone on your level seems to difficult.

It sounds like you'd be better off just making friends, then, if it's just activities like "music to movies." Dating guys of another ethnicity involves seeing the world thru their eyes and feelings, and it's going to be pretty jarring if you're not used to hearing perspectives you've never even thought of before (which applies very often if you're White). It's not something as simple as liking a guy because he's hairy, or short, or has blue eyes. You need to have an appreciation of their culture, because without that, you're in danger of interjecting degrees of unconscious racism into the relationship.
Your initial line "Looking for something new," made me look at the page with concern. I'd hate to just be an "experience" for a guy, no matter what his ethnic background (I'm Black, by the way, and 64). I've been thru the entire phase of guys (including a few former boyfriends who had heard Black guys were more "accepting"). Well, yes, we are, because we've been thru the ringer, but we also are pretty fierce about demanding the truth and "keepin' it real" and that's where many White guys lose it. They were looking for the "fun part," without considering the difference in the life experience and perspective of a Black man (straight or gay) and the life of a similarly aged White gay man. I'd suggest, if you find an interest in Black men to be your thing, and you're going to pursue it, you read, "Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria: And Other Conversations About Race." Crossing ethnic lines is not the simple thing so many White guys are used to, and it's a shock when your Asian boyfriend turns out not to be the "submissive lotus flower" you believed him to be (this was directly from the Pacific Gay Asian Alliance co-chair, back in San Francisco in 1996, as we discussed being a "novelty item" to White guys). Sorry if this is too much for you (and others) to digest, but it's what's real, and to think otherwise. Well, that would put your squarely in the camp starting with the "R" word. So tread lightly. Explore, but be conscious about it.

 

[mcbrion]

Okay, went to make changes after I saw in your profile you were black, but the time limit to change the post expired, so here's what I tried to re-write:
It sounds like you'd be better off just making friends, then, if it's just activities like "music to movies." I read your profile and realized you're Black - which is hard to tell in the initial post. If it's easier dating brothers, because they don't trip on you being Black, that should make it a lot easier. It can be pretty hard getting past the unawareness you get when you date White guys (no offense to those of you who might be acquainted with Men Of All Colors Together, or you have many Black friends who keep you real, but otherwise? It's a LOT of work.) As you've discovered, a lot of guys talk talk, but then see you're another ethnicity (Black/Asian/Indian) and then they split. I hope you find people who are cool with you, the person, and not you, the-person-of-color.