Into a Friend I think he might be into me too?

[alexevan20]

I"m 21 in college I have this friend that I'm into I think he might be into me too, How can I find out? Sometime he gives me signs, one time when he was drunk he came over to my apartment and tackled me onto my bed when I was changing I was only in my boxers but before he did that he went into my roommates room, i think he was checking if he was there or not, he was not there and thats when he tackled me. I just laid there and rolled around kinda nervous waiting for him to put a move on me, and when he didn't I just got up, we went into the living room and he sat there and said I was a fag, we chilled for a few minutes walked to McDonnell's then after he went home. The next day I saw him I asked him, if he remembered last night he said no he was blacked out but he said he remembered walking to McDonnell's and nothing else I thought it was kinda weird like he was trying to cover it up.
Every time we talk he always look me straight in the eyes and smiles. He use to ask me every day to come over and smoke a cig with me, once he told me "we should do something else that makes us feel good" and smiled i was nervous and didn't respond to it, does that mean sex? Please help me.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Firstly, welcome.

Then... your mate... hmmm. Difficult to say.

Are you gay or bi, and does he know this or are you in the closet? And is he gay/bi or do you at least think he might be?

-d-

 

[ElmosToe]

"we should do something else that makes us feel good" and smiled i was nervous and didn't respond to it, does that mean sex? Please help me.

Could be, may also refer to spending some quality time with MJ.
From your perspective it does sound like he may be interested in wanting to experiment and he may be too nervous to make the first move.

Here's a couple things you can try, if you can be so bold...

Go for a long drive somewhere and have a Gatorade bottle or something in your car, tell him you gotta piss and ask if he would want to hold the bottle or the wheel. If he chooses the bottle, you have a pretty good idea of what else he may want to try with you.

Try playing 'possum with him, drink together and pretend to pass out before he does, wear some really loose, short shorts and position your legs to let him get a view of your junk. See where he takes that. If he starts playing with you, let him, don't "wake up", see how far he takes it.

 

[sumyungguy]

I"m 21 in college I have this friend that I'm into I think he might be into me too, How can I find out? Sometime he gives me signs, one time when he was drunk.....

Never assume that what happened was more than just horseplay when alcohol or other intoxicants are involved. If he's not making moves on you while he's sober, then you can't really take it seriously. Consistency is a good indicator of his intentions. Flirting is one thing in public, but if he's doing more behind closed doors, then you'll have something to work with, but only if he's sober.

Every time we talk he always look me straight in the eyes and smiles. He use to ask me every day to come over and smoke a cig with me, once he told me "we should do something else that makes us feel good" and smiled i was nervous and didn't respond to it, does that mean sex? Please help me.

This could mean that he's just bonding with you on a more comfortable level, that doesn't necessarily mean he wants to fuck.

It's always easier to know if a guy wants something from you if he already knows you're gay/bi. If he does know, just ask him when you're both alone together. It'll be a relief once you both come to an understanding, forcing or not acknowledging what's going on between the two of you just makes it awkward for the both of you and it could lead to disaster if he's surprised by an unannounced "act of passion" from you. When in doubt, just wait for him to make the move first before you make the advance.

If he doesn't know about you, don't jeopardize the relationship and your sexual privacy by sullying it with sex. Just leave it alone and spend more time on someone you know that clearly wants sex from you.

 

[KaraBulut]

Welcome to JUB and congrats on your first post.

We've moved your thread to the advice and support section of the site.

Never assume that what happened was more than just horseplay when alcohol or other intoxicants are involved. If he's not making moves on you while he's sober, then you can't really take it seriously....

It's always easier to know if a guy wants something from you if he already knows you're gay/bi....

Just leave it alone and spend more time on someone you know that clearly wants sex from you.

^QFT.

The subject of your thread gives away an important detail- that "too" indicates that this is as much about you being into him as it is about whether he's into you.

The first sentence in sumyungguy's response is an important piece of advice. This is a guy who came to your apartment, he was drunk to the point that he claims he blacked out, he physically tackled you and he called you a fag.

If a friend came to you with this scenario, would you think that the drunk guy was the kind of person your friend should be involved with?

You're attracted to the guy and you're looking for signs that he might be interested in you. But the bottom line is that the guy has some issues and he's not ready to deal with any possibility of a physical relationship with another guy. And the shame of it is that there's plenty of gay/bi guys out there who are interested in meeting you and it would be better for you to spend the time with them.

 

[alexevan20]

He didnt say fag in a mean way, the thing is that he hangs out with me everyday with my bf amd I but he doesnt know we are in a relationship. And one night he selpt over at my bf house with me , we were watching a movie in the livinv room untill 4 am and I thought he was asleep so me and my bf went into my room to hook up, the next day he told me about 3 ti,es how he was watching the movie when he was sleeping. So I think he was hinting he that he knew what do u think ? We have been friends for a year now and we hang out almost day

 

[Seasoned]

So, what's your goal? To you want to hook up with him? Would that be ok with your boyfriend? Why are you and your boyfriend not out to your friends? It's difficult to hide something going on under someone else's nose.

 

[alexevan20]

Yeah he's okay with it he wants to join us, we're just afraid that he might be werid and mess up our friemdship