Is anyone else in my boat?

[weasley]

frank, i guess i'm kind of like you. with girls it's making love and with guys it's just fucking around. i only go for guys who i find attractive though.

 

[Orlandude]

If you are not attracted to guys but are turned on by the IDEA of having sex with a guy, it may be that you are simply attracted to a fantasy you may have about guys.

Perhaps Weasley is right. I don't know if going to a gay bar is going to resolve your issue. Unless you plan to be aggressive, you may get hit on and you'll need to decide how to respond to that. Then again, you may not get hit on. Then what? Just a thought.

 

[chobbs]

I'm in your boat buddy.

hots for guys, emotion for girls. its real common.

 

[evilmonkey]

I have emotional and sexual attraction to women and just a purely sexual attraction to men. I am in that boat with you my friend.

 

[TheTrish]

No, frankrizzo, you're not alone. There are plenty of others who feel the same way ... I'm one of them.

I notice women wherever I go and I love everything about them. I can drool over their bodies, their perfume, their pedicures. I can fantasize about what kind of panties they're wearing (or not wearing), whether they like to give blowjobs, what their orgasm sounds like. I can imagine being married to them ... my current wife notwithstanding.

But I don't do that for men. I might briefly notice that a guy might be handsome, but I don't go through the whole mental routine like I would for a woman -- does he wear boxers or briefs, is he a top or a bottom, etc.

And yet if a sexually charged situation presents itself, I'm open to the possibilities. When I hook up with another guy, it's exactly that -- a hookup. Not looking for a relationship, just looking to get off and maybe help another guy get off along the way.

You've heard the term "bi-curious"? I guess you can call me "bi-courteous". I'm more turned on by the situation -- such as playing in an adult theater or being a part of a MFM threeway, etc. Whatever seems to be the hot thing to do is what I'll do. I'll suck and get sucked; I'll fuck and get fucked.

I really don't seek out regular "fuck buddy" things ... I much prefer a one-time deal. I'd much rather have a blow-and-go than an ongoing arrangement. The way I see it, I'm already in one emotional relationship and I just don't have time for another. So it's strictly a physical release for me. I'll bet it's the same way for you and many others here on the "bi" board.

I play exclusively with other married guys, mainly because we're in the same boat -- we have to be extra safe and discreet because both parties have something to lose. It absolutely amazes me how many married guys are just like me -- simply looking to get off and/or help a pal get off but not looking to have an emotional attachment.

Good luck out there.

Hi, dick! WOW, that reply was HOT! hehe

But let me ask, cause your last sentence seemed to imply. If your wife sucked your cock every day, would you still feel the need for guys?

T

 

[pisces69]

I'm different in that regard. I can fall in love with a guy or a girl. It really doesn't make any difference. However, I prefer sex with guys. I enjoy sex with woman but it always feels as if there is something missing.

 

[BIMICHAEL4FUN]

Hi guys....married to a beautiful woman that I am incredibly attracted to...but have always enjoyed "fucking around" with sexy guys...I've always felt that attractive guys were hot and sexy, but I could never imagine myself in a long term relationship with another man...having intercourse or oral sex with them is a completely different story...cool thing is that my wife is aware that I enjoy sex with other men and is very supportive, as long as I also meet her needs...

 

[Sirramm]

OK, so with the recent discovery of one of my close friends being a lesbian, it made me question some stuff inside. Here is my situation.....I am emotionally and physically attracted to women, but am turned on just as much by the idea of sex with another guy.....but I have no attraction to guys.....if someone can understand what I mean there? I feel completely in my own category there, but am probly not. Like, I dont see a guy and say oh damn he's hot or something, but definitely will for a girl......well anyways, I think we might go to the gay bar to find out later this week

I TOTALLY KNOW AND FEEL WHAT YOU ARE SAYING!!! I am a married guy who is not remotely attracted to guys in general. I don't feel anything seeing a guy walk down the street or even at the gym pool. But if I see him naked and limp or sporting a huge hardon and his cock has that 'look' for me (usually a good strong veiny hardon perferably coated in my wifes juices of any kind) I go crazy! I love sucking a guys cock after he has just fucked my wife or eating his cum out of her well used pussy (relax guys! You know if the guy was hot enough even you would eat his cum from a girl! LOL LOL). I have no desire to kiss a guy, fuck him or let him fuck me but I'll drop to my knees in a moments notice if he's got that 'certian' look to his cock and balls! We must not forget about those!!!!! YUM YUM!!!

 

[Underdog]

1/2 and 1/2 , turned on by both sexes, just have sex with my wife tho.

 

[gameboy 11]

frank, i guess i'm kind of like you. with girls it's making love and with guys it's just fucking around. i only go for guys who i find attractive though.

You sound just like my cousin. He's bi and has a girlfriend at the moment but he said if he was with a guy, he'd have to be cute. ^_^

 

[gameboy 11]

Trish, darlin' ... it's always great to hear from you. When are we going to meet in Sebring? My wife keeps asking ...

Anyway, that's a very perceptive question you've asked. The short answer is yes, but not necessarily for guys.

I'm a very sexually oriented being ... it's not having sex with a guy that I'm interested in, it's having sex, period. It just so happens that I'm receptive to both men and women. The scientific word for it is hypersexuality, although I think that's a $5 word for being "an easy lay."

Given a choice, I'd choose women, although I sometimes do enjoy a hard cock to play with. But I've found it's more difficult to find women who enjoy playing to the same degree that men do, in terms of having no-strings-attached sex. So when the need is there, you have to find a willing partner, you know what I mean?

I think my sexual desires have more to do with being bored by monogamy than any need to get my freak on with another dude. If I were able to find women who would provide what I'm looking for when I'm looking for it, I'm pretty sure I'd hook up with them 99 times out of 100. (But, oh, that 1 other time would be something incredibly hot!)

That's the long answer to your question. I love my wife, but every now and then I like a change of scenery. I'd say that's a typical male response, but my wife understands and even enjoys a change of scenery herself. We have a great relationship.

So, seriously ... Sebring? It's just a straight shot up U.S. 27, halfway for both of us.

I'm so happy you said that, dicklipshitz. I was worried that you were cheating on your wife!

 

[conrad]

It's always enlightening to find out how different men arrive at different arrangements to live with their own unique sexuality. I'm in no position to judge; I have enjoyed both sides of my sexuality but never tried to keep both sides active at the same time--if you get wheat I'm saying. Sex to me is personal (one-to-one) and always very private. I prefer strict monogamy; it saves one from a lot of potential hassles.