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actually he likes being around with u thats fo sho!!! cause some str8 dude does that. but txting saying ur cute thats weird maybe yeah his bi. ask him if he ever mess up with other dude!! if he say yes!! his bi or gay..
 
I've known dozens if not hundreds of straight young guys and none of them act like that.

I've known many bi guys who lean towards girls and therefore have a girlfriend, but still have attraction to guys. They often jokingly flirt with gay guys. That's what it sounds like he is.

Unless he has a very playful nature doesn't seem likely he's truly straight, probably bi, but if he hwas a a gf, well, what can ya do?
 
all i can is i wish i had a job where i can swim play basketball and take showers with hot guys all day ahaha... BUt seriously after that remark about he like both sides of the net or what not i would send him a text the next time he says something of that sort saying "do you like me or something" i would totally take it a step further if you are not out at work it is also a huge risk but from what you are saying i dont think you have anything to lose. please take the next step and then let us know how it works out we love success stories!
 
after you change in the locker room next time send him a txt "you looked good nude" and see what he does.......
 
You said he never talks about his girlfriend. Do you know if she even exists or perhaps she's just a front?

I would say he has bisexual tendencies. The "shooting both ways" comment was so blatantly obvious. I say flirt back with him in person and see what happens. The text you sent could have been easily viewable by his girlfriend and he didn't want want her to get suspicious if he replied something equally flirtatious?

And always keep in mind he has a girlfriend. Don't mess with relationships. Respect them. Even if it's a girl. But it doesn't hurt to find out where he stands.
 
Be careful I have known a lot of guys like that, but when it comes down to actually participating in sexual activity they freak out. Closeted straight guys can be a real headache and a lot of drama, unfortunately I had to learn that the hard way.
 
Slap his ass next time you're naked together in the shower and see if anything comes up.

He doesn't even sound bi, he sounds totally homo to me.
 
Just_Believe18 said:
You said he never talks about his girlfriend. Do you know if she even exists or perhaps she's just a front?

I would say he has bisexual tendencies. The "shooting both ways" comment was so blatantly obvious. I say flirt back with him in person and see what happens. The text you sent could have been easily viewable by his girlfriend and he didn't want want her to get suspicious if he replied something equally flirtatious?

And always keep in mind he has a girlfriend. Don't mess with relationships. Respect them. Even if it's a girl. But it doesn't hurt to find out where he stands.
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thats not true maybe he wants out of the relationship and wants a man so this is your opporunity or maybe she is okay with the bi situation find out fast
 
volcom1206 said:
It sounds like he likes to joke around a lot to me. He sounds straight, but there is only one way to find out. YOU have to take the initiative and come out to him. See what he says after.

Playing games never works (just read the 800 other threads similar to this one).
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Volcom is right.
There are about 800 similar threads to this with people in similar situations and they never get closure until the person involved finds out for himself. You need to ask him if he's just joking around or being serious. It'll be awkward and difficult at first but after you'll be glad you did.
And if he was being serious, you'll be extra glad you did :)
 
You live up here in the most gay friendly city in Canada and you aren't out????

Come out already and tell him first... that way he will know for certain and if he is bi or gay will probably end up asking you out...

Without you taking that step this is just going to be you and him playing games and no one is going to be satisfied...

The other possibility is that he knows already and has been hinting at you to come out and that he has no problem with it.
 
when he texts you again and tell you you're cute or something respond in a fun joking tone a line that goes like "You keep on joking like that -I'm gay you know!"

See how it goes
 
Best way to do this is to be nonchalant about it...

And play it cool...

Ask him if he and his girlfriend want to join you for some beers at Woody's on a Saturday night and see a drag show....

This will prompt him to probably ask if you are gay... at which your response should be ..."What? You didn't know?"

By asking if he AND his girlfriend want to go it will make him think a) you are not trying to pick him up which will keep him comfortable...b) you are completely comfortable with yourself that it was never an issue and c) gives him the opportunity to go alone if he so chooses.
 
you're right!
seen mine b4!?!?!?1

I have/had the same situation! This guy i liked would hugged me the 1st day I a=barely started talking to him and we became closer friends later! he would joke about havin sex with me and doin dirty stuff! :)
Well I was so sure he was gay/bi that I came out to him (1st person I ever came out to)
and he was totally ok with it only that he isn't gay/bi! He's straight!

another one was this other b4 I he grabbed my ass and dick, cuddle with me in bed and wed sleep tother, he chwed and sucked on my ear and this dude turned out to be completely STRAIGHT! (THAT BASTARD)

But my point is the only way you can and will find out if you come out to him, cause we take any joke seriuosly! think about it
 
Ryder11 said:
Jo-thin, you're right. I do agree that sometimes straight guys do just joke around like this, and it means nothing and that we, especially myself, takes every flirtatious joke seriously. sigh. I just read someone elses thread and it turned out bad, it makes me not want to bother coming out. Just keep him as a friend.

But, at the same time, there is only four weeks left of the summer. At the end of those four weeks we are both moving to different cities across the province, so it feels like I'm running out of time. I don't know what I expect. I suppose I'd prefer to stay friends with him at the end of the summer than come out to him and possibly screw things up.

You know what would stop this from continually happening, is if I grew some balls and just walked around as an openly gay man!
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I agree but till this day I'm not out!
And I know why! Because I do care what people think about me, thats one of the reasons gays/bi's don't come out! cause they care and I can admit that I am scared! I have so many friends like theres a rage of 10 of us that like to go out and do stuff almost every Friday and 1 out of 10 knows I dig guys! I just never told him that I like him! Things between me and him hasn't change one bit! It felt good to come out...... but honestly I'm not planing to come out to everyone! I live where it's a bunch of masculine guys!

Now you don't have to come out to him it's your choice! I never said to tell him, if you really want to know then you can but you don't have to tell him! If you do don't tell him you like him, but I do understand, and till this day I'm stuck in the same situation over and over and over again......
 
Have you observed how he acts around other guys? Does he sit close to them and touch them like he does you? If it is just you that he is that way with, he might be trying to tell you something. I think I would watch him around his buds when you go out drinking with them. I can see one of three things happening.

1 - He could treat you and his buds the same way he has been treating you. That would mean that he is that way with everyone. In that case, don't expect a relationship to develop.

2 - He could back off with you and treat you and his buds like you would expect males who are just friends to interact. That could mean that he has been flirting when he is just with you. A relationship could develop.

3 - He could sit close to you and touch you like he has been doing but interact with his buds like you would expect males who are just friends to interact. I think it would be highly unlikely that this would happen unless he is gay/bi and is out to his buds. In that case, go for it.
 
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