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I really need some advice from you guys as I am new to this man to man relationship. So I usually frequent this Asian supermarket and there is this butcher I really like. He's a mature Asian (50s). I am around 27, straight looking, straight acting. Recently I tried to make eye contacts with him. When I made eye contact with him, he looked and then looked away. Then we made eye contacts again. This time , it was longer ( about 3 or 4 seconds). We were literally looking into each other's eyes. I broke it off and then walked to do my normal shopping because I was with someone. I am not sure how to interpret this because he usually seemed uninterested whenever I came to the meat section. He either ignored me and let the other butcher serve me or went about doing this thing. I only noticed him holding eye contact with me was when we happened to see each other at the check out or anywhere else other than the meat section. I am really confused. I dont want my feeling for him blurs my interpretation so I am seeking for some opinions. I really want to come up to him and ask him straight out but I dont want to embarrass myself if it is not what I think or hope it is. What should I do?
 
We weren't there, we don't know you or him, we don't live in his head, the only person with your answer is him, and you'll never know if you don't say something to HIM.

What should you do? That's a highly contextual question. I suspect he's not interested, your "evidence" raises red flags, but hey who knows?
 
Just looking at each other for 4 seconds doesn't mean much hence I would not risk and tell him directly that you like him. Maybe you can try to approach him with a general talk next time, something about the meat or just "how is it going?" and see if he is in the mood. But keep in mind that he is working and that probably he's not gay.

There's a cute mature butcher here but I never think to talk to him because I'm not good at this game and he's probably married. So... watch the knives!! ;)
 
Well, the long eye contact has happened a few times not once, but I do get what you are saying. That is what I am afraid of too. If I know hes married I wont be having this problem. Maybe next time I'll try the wink and smilw and see how he will respond.
 
;) He's a butcher. Tell him you REALLY like the way he handles his meat... maybe sometime he can give you a private lesson.
 
The best way to handle this in my opinion is talking to him about anything while at the meat counter. If he's interested he won't pass you along to another butcher. A lot of people "cruise," as we used to call it, with the eye contact technique to show interest. It's indirect and not likely to cause as much trouble as being blunt with the wrong person.
 
he's interested. he's probably just hesitant because you're half his age and way hotter, so he doesn't know if it's real. and asian culture is also more reserved (except filipinos) so you gotta make the first move
 
Just talk to him. Butchers love to talk about meat, plenty of room for safe innuendos. And you might learn something either way.
 
As Seasoned pointed out, just engage him in light conversation. You could ask him about what cuts of meat are best for certain types of cooking. Or, you can ask the best way to slice a cut of meat. Anything that wouldn't make his boss (if he's around) wonder why the conversation was going on for 5 minutes without you buying meat immediately. This is known as an icebreaker. People seem to think they need to "know" someone's interested without just talking to someone one human being to another. That is the best way. And NOT just for one conversation. Frequently. If he has an interest in you, he will attempt to prolong the conversation, if it's not too busy at work. You could also go sometime when you know it is going to be slow, so he can talk without worrying about looking like he's not doing his job.
I disagree with some of the other posters, as straight men will rarely look at you for 4 seconds without saying anything or at least giving you a "nod" as they recognize you as a regular customer. And they certainly don't do it several times, as they're usually aware that anytime guys lock eyes and don't look away, it could be construed as being "gay."
I don't know what part of the country you live in, because I haven't looked at your profile, but I'm speaking as someone who lived in San Francisco over several decades, and rarely saw a straight man hold my glance, although once, in a supermarket, another brother (meaning, another Black man [I'm Black, in case my icon doesn't show it clearly]) said to a customer, after I greeted him and walked by, that I had a great build. I only know because I passed him again, and he told me he'd said something to a woman who'd been nearby, and she asked him if he was gay. He told her, no, he wasn't, but that I had a great build and he admired it, that was all. And he was comfortable relating the conversation with the woman, but then, in Black culture, we're very pointed: for the most part, we say what's on our mind to each other. I can't speak for other cultures. But back to you: just engage him as a person, not as someone you're interested in maybe having sex with. That always works best (unless you're in a gay bar and you're cruising), and it's a lot easier to be cool and nice to someone and get results instead of approaching each encounter as though it's a now-or-never thing.
And, you could always mention that you need to learn how to cook meat, since you're alone and you're finally getting around to learning how to cook meats, and nobody else is gonna do it for you.
 
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