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Is it bad not wanting to be with someone???

It's perfectly normal, and it's especially good that you realize it about yourself (some don't).

People go through stages in which they want to date, and don't, want to be in a relationship, and don't, want to settle, or not. I know I did, as did most people that I know.

The only time someone has to worry about it is if, in the back of their mind, they think they might be avoiding dating or romantic situations because, on some level, they don't like the idea of who they are. Avoiding dating and romantic situations avoids that whole personally-unpleasant aspect of themselves. I doubt that's you (if your avatar is any indication!).

So, take comfort in the fact that you're self-aware, confident, and looking out for yourself. If only the rest of us were so lucky!

:wave:
 
Of course not mate. It's good to have time on your own and enjoy what you like doing. Besides you're quite young, don't even bother to think about this, when the time for finding a partner comes you'll know, just relax.
 
Nothing wrong with wanting to get your priorities inline first. And if that incl's those items mentioned then that's having a good head and mind on your shoulders.

You have set some goals and have them in the order you feel is best for you at this point in your life. Nothing wrong with setting your dreams and goals.

Everything will fall in place for you when the time is right for you and as long as you are happy where you are with your self, that's all that matters--- then great job--well done. Your are the one that got on the bus of life and it will take you were you want to go and only you can choose were and when and with to get off with.
 
Nothing wrong with it, just as long as you are happy, and that you have a network of loved ones in place.

I've always been single, and I'm 43, and still hope for that special someone at the right time, but also you have to be happy within yourself at the same time.
 
eh I am the total same way, between school, work, family I barley have enough time for a social life. So i do think this is normal at this age, imma do me than ill worry about other stuff
 
I've spent years telling guys I didn't want to date them, and it was true, until I found a guy I wanted to date, if you see what I mean there.

I'm actually kinda suspicious of guys who must be working on a relationship at all times, with all guys they go out with, that's just not natural if you ask me.
 
I think the OP post is excellent.
It is so refreshing to read a post from someone that knows exactly what he wants. It is okay to say you want to be single. I think it is smart to be honest because you know the truth about yourself and what you want right now in your life.

I am very single and I am not looking for anyone right now. My focus is on myself, achieving my goals and having a good future. I just don't have time to look for someone. I think I will down the road but I know I do not want a relationship right now or am I looking for one.
 
Hmmm. It is bad. But not for the reasons you think.

People make relationships out to be more than what they really are. It's just being with somebody that makes you happy. You guys don't get that yet. But if you're going to be so critical and turned off by other people and lack empathy like a typical narcisistic gay man and somebody who grew up in the ME ME ME ME ME generation... then well.

You say 'I have to make myself happy first' as if another person can effect your emotional mood enough either way.

You say 'I don't want anybody to take away my independence' as if that's actually physically or metaphysically possible??? It's not.

You're just being mean. You're just being a typical selfish spoiled ME ME american whore. You don't *really* love yourself. A person who really loves themselves isn't afraid to love others. You're just being defensive.

What faggots. (heh) But it's okay , I will love you even if you don't love me. I will love you and show you the way to love even if you can't do it yourself. I think you protest too much. Of course there's something wrong with not being with somebody. It's called narcisisstic personality disorder as well as antisocial personality disorder. Human relationships are healthy and normal. You're the one that's with the problem nobody else. Not society. Not straight people. Not religion. And they don't hate you cuz you're gay. They hate you cause ur an asshole.

i am so much like aimee mann. i am fascinated by the narcissists who can't love anybody. You guys remind me of this song, typical gay man with lots of money but no heart:

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TQF5CXV9cos[/ame]
 
I do not think it is a bad thing at all. You have to be emotionally and mentally ready to be in a relationship.
 
slnattak said:
Hmmm. It is bad. But not for the reasons you think.

People make relationships out to be more than what they really are. It's just being with somebody that makes you happy. You guys don't get that yet. But if you're going to be so critical and turned off by other people and lack empathy like a typical narcisistic gay man and somebody who grew up in the ME ME ME ME ME generation... then well.

You say 'I have to make myself happy first' as if another person can effect your emotional mood enough either way.

You say 'I don't want anybody to take away my independence' as if that's actually physically or metaphysically possible??? It's not.

You're just being mean. You're just being a typical selfish spoiled ME ME american whore. You don't *really* love yourself. A person who really loves themselves isn't afraid to love others. You're just being defensive.

What faggots. (heh) But it's okay , I will love you even if you don't love me. I will love you and show you the way to love even if you can't do it yourself. I think you protest too much. Of course there's something wrong with not being with somebody. It's called narcisisstic personality disorder as well as antisocial personality disorder. Human relationships are healthy and normal. You're the one that's with the problem nobody else. Not society. Not straight people. Not religion. And they don't hate you cuz you're gay. They hate you cause ur an asshole.

i am so much like aimee mann. i am fascinated by the narcissists who can't love anybody. You guys remind me of this song, typical gay man with lots of money but no heart:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TQF5CXV9cos
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you got it wrong and you sound too pissed for a no flame zone.
 
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