Is it bad that my boyfriend has more experience than me???

[superboypr]

Well, last night I was talking with my boyfriend and I ask him how much dicks he has seen before me and he told me 8, he's older than me and we are on our early 20's. That kinda shock me because I have seen only 2 before him. And sometimes I feel that he has more experience than me, which is true.

Should I feel bad about that?

BTW, he does not seem o care about that. Sometimes he says that his favorite thing of my personality is my innocence.

 

[bankside]

Maybe it is you who has more experience, and that helped you be more selective when you pick someone to be with. Maybe he was naive before, and made more mistakes about finding the right person than you did.

 

[landers]

Of all the things to worry about in a relationship, who has more experience should be at the bottom. I've learned from experience that your number of times in the sack isn't necessarily tied to you skill. Besides, every guy is different so there's always a bit of a learning curve when figuring out what makes this guy go crazy in bed.

 

[Seasoned]

Don't make this an issue. My husband and I eventually shared everything about our pasts. I'm not sure I'd recommend that to anyone else. It did provide for some hot times but it can also lead to insecurity. Neither of you have had a huge sexual past. Just enjoy each other and bring new things to the table. Both of us had been around the block several times but we still manage to find things we hadn't done with anyone else. Happy exploring and may you have a joyous relationship for many, many years.

 

[superboypr]

@Seasoned, everytime you respond my posts brings me joy and calm. Thanks a lot ;-)

 

[Seasoned]

It's all from the heart and I enjoy communicating with gay people of all ages, all backgrounds and from any country. We share something special. I don't know everything, but I feel as if I have felt everything in my 65 years. Thanks. Keep communicating with that man of yours. That's the magic key.

 

[TX-Beau]

If it doesn't bother you, why worry, but then you are in here asking so it must be on your mind for a reason.

Neither of you are all that experienced. Anyway numbers don't always equate to experience. A guy who's been with 8 guys once will actually be less experienced that a guy who's been with one guy a hundred times.

 

[Sigma-taylor-E]

Why should that matter? I'm 19 going on 20 and I've seen (touched, sucked etc..) at least 35~50. Whereas mine has seen less. I don't make a big deal out of it

 

[Delphi124]

Contrary to what some others have said, I totally get why you would be slightly insecure about this. It is kind of threatening to realize that your BF has slept with bunch of guys before you. You can't help but wonder if that makes you less special to him, especially since you may not be as "good in bed" as those other guys. That being said, 8 isn't 800, and sex is only one part of a healthy relationship. You being slightly insecure is perfectly normal, and in reality he may value the fact that you haven't been with a lot of guys. If you are meant to be together, things will work out so don't let this be something that gets in the way of your relationship.

 

[Corny]

8? I would have seen more dicks before I was 18. That is in the sauna or under the showers.

Just saying, because you talked about dicks seen, not sex partners ..

 

[glasvegas]

You shouldn't worry at all. The fact he chosen you as a bf, you seriously mean something for him. Yes, some guys love the innocence part. I was commented that my innocence is alluring to him.

 

[Delphi124]

8? I would have seen more dicks before I was 18. That is in the sauna or under the showers.

Just saying, because you talked about dicks seen, not sex partners ..

I assume he means seen while making out or have sex. If not, yeah, 8 is nothing.

 

[chrisw87]

Meh, out of all of my partners, everyone save for 1 has been 'more experienced' than me.

Doesn't make one bit of change on being good in bed though! The least experienced (and well a virgin) was actually the best. Didn't try to haphazardly do random things that are unnecessary and fail in the processes hah.

 

[superboypr]

Contrary to what some others have said, I totally get why you would be slightly insecure about this. It is kind of threatening to realize that your BF has slept with bunch of guys before you. You can't help but wonder if that makes you less special to him, especially since you may not be as "good in bed" as those other guys. That being said, 8 isn't 800, and sex is only one part of a healthy relationship. You being slightly insecure is perfectly normal, and in reality he may value the fact that you haven't been with a lot of guys. If you are meant to be together, things will work out so don't let this be something that gets in the way of your relationship.

Thanks a lot pal, that sums up the way I feel sometimes. And, yes sometimes I feel insecure about that, but I know that this is something that doesn't matter at all.

 

[StlKj]

General rule of thumb regarding sharing details of past sexual experiences: less history, more mystery.

 

[Incognito]

Look at this way, your the only one of those 8 guys in a relationship with [your boyfriend]- so you must be important in that regard, and that's all that should matter

Truth be told any guy you meet will have a varying level of experience, some far too much experience. I find it's good to either not approach the topic of past sexual experience, or to just be open minded and not dwell on the details. Otherwise you're just going to upset yourself over things that shouldn't matter.

 

[Kulindahr]

If that's to be counted as bad, I'm doomed.

 

[Ninja108]

IMO,it's only natural to feel insecure if your bf has more experience.
However,he's with you so the other guys shouldn't even be an issue.

 

[Rolyo85]

Every guy is different in bed. Just because he's been with more people doesn't mean he will compare you to them.

 

[Ninja108]

It's only bad if he compares you to his past lovers. Short of that..don't worry about it.