G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
I guess that all depends. Lots of people have open relationships. Do you think yours is one that could be? Or don't you think you're both secure enough?
Lex
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Is Love Worth It?
- Thread starter G-Lexington
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Hi! Do you feel that something is missing in your relationship?
That asked, as long as they are fantasies and you don't act on them, I think it is still okay to have them. I think it would become problematic if you would start acting on them and become unfaithful you your bf.
That asked, as long as they are fantasies and you don't act on them, I think it is still okay to have them. I think it would become problematic if you would start acting on them and become unfaithful you your bf.
I agree with what you said in that if you are not open to the idea of an open relationship and still can't keep yourself from cheating, that maybe you just aren't ready to be in a relationship right now.
It sounds to me like it might not be the right relationship. I know it's probably scary if you've been together a long time, but if you feel so much is missing, it might not be the best thing to stay together.
And, yes. When you have a relationship that really works, it's totally worth it.
And, yes. When you have a relationship that really works, it's totally worth it.
Deandbn
Sex God
IMHO I think that people (gay & str8) fall in lust first and then sometimes they fall in love about 3 years later at which time the relationship becomes more normalized. I think you guys are prbably falling out of lust, but have not fallen in love yet.
jimm04
nom de strip
Love is for heterosexuals
G-Lexington
Lex. Icon. Devil.
>>>sometimes ill chat online with guys and cam with them. i see that its being unfaithful, but i think its better than physical contact. it somewhat fufills my sexual desires.
"Unfaithful" (or "cheating") isn't specific to the activity so much as it is with the agreed-upon terms. If a guy went out, found a guy, and had sex with him until the sun came up...but was in an open relationship, that wasn't cheating. Similarly, if a guy snuck out of the house just to meet up with another guy for coffee and a bit of hand holding, and he prayed his partner didn't find out, that IS cheating.
Perhaps you'd like to keep the relationship going, but don't feel you can subscribe to complete monogamy. In which case, perhaps something like "camming" could be made permissible within your relationship. You'd have to BOTH agree to all terms of it, especially when it came to frequency ("not so that it interferes with our sex life"), disclosure ("I want/don't want to know who you're doing this with"), and limits (no repeating guys, no camming with someone you've met IRL). Not necessarily an ideal solution, but you might give it some thought.
Lex
"Unfaithful" (or "cheating") isn't specific to the activity so much as it is with the agreed-upon terms. If a guy went out, found a guy, and had sex with him until the sun came up...but was in an open relationship, that wasn't cheating. Similarly, if a guy snuck out of the house just to meet up with another guy for coffee and a bit of hand holding, and he prayed his partner didn't find out, that IS cheating.
Perhaps you'd like to keep the relationship going, but don't feel you can subscribe to complete monogamy. In which case, perhaps something like "camming" could be made permissible within your relationship. You'd have to BOTH agree to all terms of it, especially when it came to frequency ("not so that it interferes with our sex life"), disclosure ("I want/don't want to know who you're doing this with"), and limits (no repeating guys, no camming with someone you've met IRL). Not necessarily an ideal solution, but you might give it some thought.
Lex