Is physical attraction an important part of the relationship?

[sexibttm69]

I think it is but, i do not think that should determine whether or not u should have a relationship with that guy. I would rather have a relationship built off of other things than physical attraction but, my friends say that it is important. If you dont get a physical attraction you wont be physically connected with them or so I heard. Is that true? Can physical attraction affect being physical with that person?

 

[jaybuoy]

I perosnally think its important, like on this site for example, its strange that most people post pictures of there dick but in a way I would like to see there face as well, because I will find it hard to be attracted to that person otherwise.

Nevertheless its not just about looks, personality takes a huge role in making a relationship work, as well as communication.

 

[sdmister4]

complicated.. cause the way you see people changes once you get to know them. hard to say whether the physical attraction follows the personal attraction or the other way around.

personally i think the physical thing needs to be there, otherwise its just a little unsatisfying i guess..

 

[treanir]

treanir's theory of attraction, abbreviated version
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There are three forms of attraction:
- physical attraction
- mental attraction
- emotional attraction

For friends, either the mental or emotional attraction have to be there.
For good friends, both the mental and the emotional attraction have to be there.
For sex, there has to be a physical attraction. A slight emotional attraction may be a bonus, but it's not a requirement.
For a relationship, all three are necessary.

The three forms influence each other and a weak one may be compensated by a strong one. However, you cannot make something out of nothing.



Answer your question?

 

[GBirdie]

Wow.... never knew attraction in such a way.... haha, thanks for the thread starter and thanks to treanir for that description. I've always thought that physical attraction was quite necessary.... but your definition summed it all up. Thanks

 

[LoveIsNow]

I think if you're with someone a while and begin to bond emotionally with them, that can make you look at them differently and become physically attracted to them. You don't necessarily have to be physically attracted to them just because of their face or body. You can come to like the way they walk, or carry their head, or other mannerisms. Of course there has to be something that initially attracts you, but that still doesn't necessarily have to be physical.

 

[megustamyn]

I agree with LoveIsNow. I had always dated men who I was attracted to from day one. Not necessarily ‘love at first sight’ but certainly ‘lust at first sight’. The man I ended up marrying was not that at all. I’d known him for a several months but I never would have thought to ask him out. I first went out with him because he asked me and I knew he was a good man. Much later I learned that he had wanted to ask for a long time.

Anyway, we’ve been together many years and are very happy. We love each other very much. We are now legally married. There certainly are men who I find more attractive. That probably happens to every married person. But, I’ve already had the experience of being with beautiful men who were not as nice on the inside and I prefer what I have now. From a purely physical standpoint, I’ve had better sex but when you look at the whole package it’s much better to make love to someone because you love him than to do it because you think he’s hot.

 

[treanir]

Of course there has to be something that initially attracts you, but that still doesn't necessarily have to be physical.

I used 'physical' in the broadest sense of the word. Anything appearance-wise. Doesn't have to be the entire package - it can be the fact that he wears a fedora (can be v. hot on the right guy), or, like you said, the way he tilts his head.

It's also just a theory.

 

[Ekim23]

I used 'physical' in the broadest sense of the word. Anything appearance-wise. Doesn't have to be the entire package - it can be the fact that he wears a fedora (can be v. hot on the right guy), or, like you said, the way he tilts his head.

It's also just a theory.

I agree... Seems right to me

 

[LoveIsNow]

I used 'physical' in the broadest sense of the word. Anything appearance-wise. Doesn't have to be the entire package - it can be the fact that he wears a fedora (can be v. hot on the right guy), or, like you said, the way he tilts his head.

It's also just a theory.

I think they already have that theory; I saw it on a talk show. They use the words "attachment", as in feeling comfortable with someone, "love", and "sexual attraction", but they say that you really only need one to have a good marriage-type relationship, but if you have more you have a better, but you rarely have all three at the same time. You won't usually be as attached when you're young or as physically attracted when you're old.

 

[Lewis1]

Sdmister is right

unless you are a shallow person than getting to know the person can possibly make them more "sexy" to you

however i do not think this could apply to someone who looks like they had a train hit em in the face although its happened before

i was liking these 2 friends and i thought one was so hot & the other was average but the average guy was just the best personality wise and it made him physically attractive to me

 

[hotatlboi]

treanir's theory of attraction, abbreviated version
​

There are three forms of attraction:
- physical attraction
- mental attraction
- emotional attraction

For friends, either the mental or emotional attraction have to be there.
For good friends, both the mental and the emotional attraction have to be there.
For sex, there has to be a physical attraction. A slight emotional attraction may be a bonus, but it's not a requirement.
For a relationship, all three are necessary.

The three forms influence each other and a weak one may be compensated by a strong one. However, you cannot make something out of nothing.



Answer your question?

That's a very good answer.