is there such thing as 'love' for gays?

[M4P]

I found the love of my life on Dec 31, 1996. Eleven and a half years later and we're still going strong. Not without hiccups but we're committed to eachother and the relationship

Yes, Dear JUBer, there is love for gays

 

[Yuki Sohma]

is there such thing as 'love' for gays?

As for me, I am not sure.....but.....I do think maybe.....Yuki

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, of course there is love for gays.

It isn't like the Easter Bunny or Santa; it really does exist

I am however distressed to find out there is no Easter Bunny or Santa Claus. Thanks for ruining that for me, rareboy

 

[G-Lexington]

Then perhaps we need to say "The potential for love exists for all gay men." That doesn't mean it will happen, or it won't.

Our ten year anniversary party is next month. You're all invited, of course.

Lex

 

[M4P]

Our ten year anniversary party is next month. You're all invited, of course.

Congratulations!

 

[DonSade]

This might sound cheesy, and I may not have much experience in the love thing myself, but have you seen Dan in Real Life? There's one line Steve Carell's daughter's boyfriend in the movie says that kinda expressed a bit of what love is "Love is not a feeling. It's an ability."

Love is most certainly a feeling, but perhaps the ability to be able to give love and receive it is the most commendable of all "loving" tasks and most certainly the hardest. I fell in love with a guy, and I can attest that never before in my life have I felt so not my own, ever! He OWNS me... plain and simple. He owns my attention, he owns my thoughts, my breaths, my joy and sadness; he owns my reasons to be alive. And he seems to reciprocate. We take care of each other in non-intrusive ways; we can talk for hours on end about nothing and still feel satisfied! We can sit on a couch and know what the other is thinking without saying a word. We say the same things at the same time so often that's its normal! We try our best to put a smile on each other's face whenever we have the chance... and we're not even really a couple yet (although we live under the same roof) but the feeling is just there. It's as solid as a thick steel wall that I know I can't simply ignore even if I tried. There's no sex involved and he actually has a boyfriend at the moment (the reason...), but still, it doesn't detract from me feeling all this for him! We just have this air of mutual understanding that feels so mature. Yes, it’s complicated, but who says love is simple? It's a gift we've all been entitled to harness and its one of the few things we simply know exists because of pure instinctive reasoning because the brain is much too weak to explain it on its own!... and much too stubborn to take it for granted.

You don't look for love; you don't beg for it; You most certainly don't force anyone to provide you it. Love simply is. And as I found Sam whom out of nowhere had the ability to change my life with so little and absolutely no reason in the world to do it, I truly believe love finds you and not the other way around. You just have to let it be and even though you might deserve it so much as to want to indulge yourself in it, you have to be patient, or you might overlook the finer things that really give you access to it.

 

[texan_slant]

.I don't want to 'date around' anymore...i want to find real love...

Yeah - it exists, however, a lot of the times, it happens not when you're dating around; not when you're "looking" for it; but when you least expect it.

 

[Alive and Free]

At 24 years old I have never been in love, I truly wonder if it will ever happen.

 

[iamthesean]

most of the time, especially with gay men, the more i get to know them, the more i fee like i'm thinking "ew.....really?" finding out what they like, what they've done, what they do, what they wanna do etc. etc...

i feel like this whole being gay thing is fien, i like men...problem is, I wish it was more specifically men that like men...i'm almost only ever attracted to straight men..its how i can usually pick out a straight guy in a gay bar...anyone asks how i know they're straight i can say "well, i found them attractive"

 

[lovrboy24]

I think you could ask this question for all sexual orientations and not just gay. i myself, as a pretty open bisexual, notice love isn't always prominent in a relationship. girls who have wanted to be with me are just there for the sex and this "idea" society has put in the heads of straight people that you have to marry and have children. there was no love in these relationships, just the fact that they wanted the "idea" and wanted to be in a relationship. i think in gay relationships it is hard because lots of guys see the detachment and the inability to marry as a reason to be promiscuous. girls in heterosexual relationship will attest to the fact that lots of guys are just there for sex as well. ultimately, i think it is hard for anyone to find true love. that why the divorce rate is so high!

 

[Letterbomb]

You know, even thought I still suffer from heartache because my ex broke up with me, but I still didn't lose faith in love. I'm still deseperately trying to build a relationship with my über-horny date which I kinda always have known.

You, you are, oh you are
The little boy made for me in the stars
In the star, that's why I can't let you go
The little boy made for me in the stars
That's why I love you more the further I go
And before this existence you were always there
Waiting for me
You are, you are the realest thing I know
Hands down
The realest thing I know

From a Nelly Furtado song, you should listen to it, that's the song that always prevents me from losing faith in homophilia in a conservative society which tries to make us believe we are overly promiscuous sluts with an disability to build a relationship/family and that our only goal is having as much sex as possible. That's why there are more successful LGBT relationships in Europe. Their society ain't that narrow-minded.

It is working together to achieve a dream, whether it be a company, a home, travel, academinc achievement, adopting a child or a dog.

Oh mon cher prince, couldn't you have separed these two?

 

[rareboy]

It could be the bisexual thing that is clouding the issue for you.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

you have to be lucky to find love

 

[slnattak]

i feel like this whole being gay thing is fien, i like men...problem is, I wish it was more specifically men that like men...i'm almost only ever attracted to straight men..its how i can usually pick out a straight guy in a gay bar...anyone asks how i know they're straight i can say "well, i found them attractive"

Sexuality doesn't exist in a vacuum. You find straight men attractive because society is built for them. They are pampered and given special rights... it would be easy to find them attractive. Look at all the movie star heroes and books. All the heroes are usually straight males that save the world/day and get the girl and be the macho stud. That's why I loved Buffy. While it wasn't quite the same as being a gay male hero, at least the hero got to be an open-minded, gay-friendly straight woman.

Also a lot of men want love without returning it sometimes. Also you need to be with somebody that accepts you for your sensitivity and other issues. Problem is most gay men reject each other and treat each like flith. Have you ever tried acting like the dream man you want to meet? Be honest with men and you might start slowly attracting what you want.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Most gay people don't have to face the stigma of a divorce so it is easier to break up.

Stigma? There's still a stigma concerning divorce? Seriously, gay people do not have to deal with the legal ramifications concerning divorce, because most states do not allow gay marriage. If people could get divorced without having to deal with monetary issue, I think the divorce rate would be even more than it currently is.

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

Is there such a thing as love for the dirty straights? n/o.

 

[tallguy297]

At 24 years old I have never been in love, I truly wonder if it will ever happen.

Well mate... it took me till 36 to find what really was love... and it was with a guy... something I thought would never happen.

I thought I had been in love... I was nearly engaged once. I had had a number of serious relationships with women...

I'd tried to be in love... I'd been infatuated and in lust. I'd "done the right thing" by partners...

and then I found it.

But I'm now convinced love is a moving target... and your definition of love changes with time. Your needs change, your desires, your wants. The things that seemed less important suddenly are and others not so much.

But the really weird part is you dont know that. You dont know what your definition of love is... until you find it.

So is there love for gays... shit yeah. But dont expect to know what it looks like or where you will find it... thats beyond your control or understanding. Just make sure you are open to it, accepting of it and willing to chance it a little to make the most of it.

Because as sure as my bum points to the ground its out there... waiting for you.