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Isn't this cheating?

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Hey all,

Got another question to ask.

So I have this friend of mine that I flirt with. He has a bf.
They broke up 5 months or so ago but got back together.

But my friend wants to see my "gun" if you know what I mean.
And he also said that he would show me his "gun."

I told him that this would be cheating, but he said that it is not cheating unless he wants it.

I don't know about him, but to me, that's cheating.

What do you guys think?
He wants me to show him on thursday, but I don't know.

This is a guy I kind of have a history with.
I posted about it a few months back.

Cliff notes version:
We met
we flirted
we kissed
I liked him
he liked me
he didn't want a relationship and got cold feet on us flirting
Ignored me off and on(yes a jerk lol) but got jealous when I interacted with other guys(gay or straight)

I've liked him and still thought we could have had something. But after I heard he got back with his ex, I started to move on from him.
So another problem is that I might start liking him again if we did this kind of stuff.

I mean, I flirt with other guys and have shown it a couple of times, but they were single (2 guys).
I still flirt with my friend for fun, but I am not getting attached to him (at least I hope not).

I really don't know :confused:

He still seems to have something for me (according to my friends)
but he has a bf and should not be like that.

Ok I went off rambling again...haha.

So what do you guys think?
If you need more info, ask and I will answer - thanks! =)
 
I was playing around and saying that he won't get a show if he doesn't stop hitting me with his umbrella
and he started talking about it

I thought he was joking too until he was really asking me
and he said he didn't ask, but if I showed him, he wouldn't stop me.

So I told him that I will not show anyone who does not want to see in the first place.

He then says that he does want to see
I'm like wth lol

I really don't know what is up with him and his boyfriend
but if he does have some feelings for me still, he needs to get over it.

If that's how it is then I will have to stop flirting altogether.

He is very confusing...lol

Thanks for your input Volcom1206 =)
 
The definition of "cheating" depends on the couple. For some, you can fuck a new guy every night, and as long as you tell your boyfriend about it, it's not cheating. With others, even talking to another guy in an overly friendly way can be considered cheating.

A good rule of thumb for "is it cheating?" is "do I want my partner to know about this?" Not necessarily all the details, but just the fact that it happened. If your friend doesn't want his boyfriend to find out, then I'd say it's cheating. If he doesn't care if the boyfriend knows, then it isn't.

You aren't responsible for the definitions and morality of others. You can feel free to "flash your gun" or have sex with everybody who asks. But frankly, this guy sounds like an asshole of the first waters. I'd not only not show him my gun, but I'd wonder why I was hanging out with him in the first place. He sounds like drama on two legs.

Lex
 
It sets the stage for cheating, at least. Sometimes that is just as bad.
 
If you feel that it's cheating then you have your answer right! Regardless if there's sex involved.

In the end...what you think is all that matters. Better safe then sorry I say! Good luck!

Don't forget to....

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G-Lexington said:
The definition of "cheating" depends on the couple. For some, you can fuck a new guy every night, and as long as you tell your boyfriend about it, it's not cheating. With others, even talking to another guy in an overly friendly way can be considered cheating.

A good rule of thumb for "is it cheating?" is "do I want my partner to know about this?" Not necessarily all the details, but just the fact that it happened. If your friend doesn't want his boyfriend to find out, then I'd say it's cheating. If he doesn't care if the boyfriend knows, then it isn't.

You aren't responsible for the definitions and morality of others. You can feel free to "flash your gun" or have sex with everybody who asks. But frankly, this guy sounds like an asshole of the first waters. I'd not only not show him my gun, but I'd wonder why I was hanging out with him in the first place. He sounds like drama on two legs.

Lex
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Thanks Lex. He doesn't seem to care if his boyfriend knows or not.
He is ok as a friend but as someone to be in a relationship with, I would think twice lol

I have already made up my mind that I would not take him back if he wanted me in the future.

So all is good Lex, thanks =)

and thanks to everyone who gave me your input ^^
 
Tell him next time he is single to call you about the "gun show"

But he actions seem like he dont care about cheating on someone now he may not care alos when he may be with you.

Be carefull and watch your back.
 
Wait...so, if the friend saw you naked at the gym and saw your gun...you class that as cheating...hmm

I have seen friends of mine naked before and they have a BF and I dont class that as cheating.
 
It isn't cheating to have a look at each others guns!! However if he wishes to take it further then it would be and as we all know most Gay Guys do have a knack of getting into trouble from the most innocent circumstances.

I think you have already made the right choice and now you need to stick with it.
 
>>>Wait...so, if the friend saw you naked at the gym and saw your gun...you class that as cheating...hmm...

Seeing a guy's dick at the gym is a side effect of being in a locker room together. It's what happens there - guys have their clothes off. I find that a bit different from "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." One is standard behavior - the other is a sexual play.

>>>Thanks Lex. He doesn't seem to care if his boyfriend knows or not.

Then tell your friend you're cool with it as long as you get the boyfriend's permission. "Sure, we can check out each other's junk, so long as Fred says it's OK." And if he says Fred won't mind, fine - go ask Fred. "Steve wants us to show each other our equipment. You cool with that?"

Lex
 
lonewolf said:
I don't know about him, but to me, that's cheating.

What do you guys think?
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If you think it's cheating, then it is cheating.

What anyone else thinks is irrelevant.

You have to look at yourself in the mirror every morning. You need to do whatever it takes to ensure that you keep your morals and self-respect intact.
 
Alrighty, thanks guys for your input.

I will stick to my decision

thanks again

=)
 
G-Lexington said:
Then tell your friend you're cool with it as long as you get the boyfriend's permission. "Sure, we can check out each other's junk, so long as Fred says it's OK." And if he says Fred won't mind, fine - go ask Fred. "Steve wants us to show each other our equipment. You cool with that?"

Lex
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Or make sure Fred doesn't find out....


MUAHAHAHA.


Devil's Advocate! Devil's Advocate!
 
I think as long as the guns aren't fired, it isn't necessarily cheating.

In fact, just go to a place where gun enthusiasts' hang out and show one another your guns.

If he wants to handle your gun, or even worse, jam it in his mouth, just remember there is a chance that it might go off accidentally.
 
I told him that this would be cheating, but he said that it is not cheating unless he wants it.
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That's cheating in my book. Of course he's gonna say he doesn't think that's cheating because he realized you got a problem with that and he wants you to do it.

But I say that's definitively cheating.
 
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