I've been fisted! Now What?

[mbamike]

I hooked up with this beautiful guy a few days ago! He is absolutely gorgeous! We spent six hours together kissing, sucking, fucking and to my surprise fisting!

He was rimming my ass and tongue fucking me. He told me he loved to eat ass. He told me my ass reminded him of a pussy. Whatever makes him happy!

After licking and tongue fucking me for several minutes, he asked if he could finger fuck me. I said, "Sure."

I did not feel any discomfort, just some pressure. Then, it began to feel really good. So, I pushed back on him as if I was going to fuck his finger. Then, I felt something sharp and some pain. That scared me so I pulled away from him.

We talked a bit about what just happened. He told me that he fisted me. I asked him what do you mean? He said he had his hand inside me up to his ulna. Lucky for me he has small hands!

I asked him, "Aren't you suppose to ask before you do something like that?" He replied, "You would have told me 'No!'".

He is a pre-med/nursing student at one of the community colleges. He gets all A's.

So, now what?

I've taken a hand mirror to look at my hole. It looks perfectly fine. No noticeable changes. As usual, once it has been abused, it has shrunk back down to normal. I've had a couple of bowel moments since the incident. No problems at all. I do have a lot of flatulents however.

My concern is I don't want to be one of those guys that blow their ass out and have to wear Depends because they can't control their shit, literally.

How much abuse can the anus, rectum, and sphincter muscles take before permanent damage?

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I asked him, "Aren't you suppose to ask before you do something like that?" He replied, "You would have told me 'No!'".

He is a pre-med/nursing student at one of the community colleges. He gets all A's.

He gets an F for Responsible Dating 101 at the Harke the Boeotarch College, oral and anal...

How much abuse can the anus, rectum, and sphincter muscles take before permanent damage?

Had two ´buds who did it a for years. One has one of his sphincters (probably the inner) damaged to the point it will not close correctly anymore although the other one still functions and he doesn´t need diapers... yet. The other one is still at it, I think. They should be approaching pensioner age, however. I assume a younger person could probably take more punishment.

 

[KaraBulut]

If you were relaxed enough to take his fist, then it's unlikely that any damage was done.

In most cases, it's an open, folded hand that is actually inserted into the anus, so it's not really as large as a closed fist.

When relaxed, the anal sphincter is pretty wide and can accommodate a large object. The key word there is "relaxed". Tears and other problems can be caused when the muscle is not relaxed. Even a small object forced into an not-relaxed sphincter can cause tears and other damaged, so size is not really the issue.

If you were relaxed and you didn't feel pain, chances are that no damage was done.

 

[mbamike]

^ Yes, I was very relaxed. At first, it actually felt good. Yes, it was an open, folded hand. He showed me how he folded his hand. I asked him while we talked. Thanks for info!

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

^ Yes, I was very relaxed. At first, it actually felt good. Yes, it was an open, folded hand. He showed me how he folded his hand. I asked him while we talked. Thanks for info!

Don´t forget the bottom is always in charge.

 

[Frankie13]

I personally have never tried fisting in any way as it does not appeal to me, but you definitely should talk to him about boundaries. He should have asked before doing something to your body that you might not be comfortable with. If the two of you decide this is an activity you enjoy, then great - but make it clear to him that communication and consent are very important when exploring new sexual acts.

 

[breathe]

Given that you didn't experience any bad pain or side effects, I don't see why you'd have a permanent issue from that. Although people doing it regularly seem to end up with all sorts of disastrous effects - I've stumbled across videos on Xtube that made me feel like I was going to pass out after seeing the condition of the guy's ass (prolapsed, etc.)

What I don't understand, although I could be wrong since I am not too familiar with vaginas, haha -- don't women's labias become more stretched/worn out looking after years of sex? I'm always worried that if years of sex does that to a vagina, what an ass would look like after years of bottoming. But I guess once the ass loosens to a certain point where it can relax and take a dick, it stays at that point and should be fine from then on...?

 

[joesman]

There is something to be said for not knowing a fist is going up your ass. The best thing to do, in my opinion is keep away from fisting often or you will end up with a butthole that looks like a drive thru.

 

[IceColdLover]

How did you not feel his whole hand glide into your asshole?

 

[luckynumbah7]

Don´t forget the bottom is always in charge.

Quoted for truth. Me, I'd be concerned he did something that he was under the impression you'd say no to without asking first. Dangerous behavior and not on.

 

[luckynumbah7]

What I don't understand, although I could be wrong since I am not too familiar with vaginas, haha -- don't women's labias become more stretched/worn out looking after years of sex? I'm always worried that if years of sex does that to a vagina, what an ass would look like after years of bottoming. But I guess once the ass loosens to a certain point where it can relax and take a dick, it stays at that point and should be fine from then on...?

That'd be a no. Labia don't get 'worn out', it's not a t-shirt. You can stretch the inner labia but that takes repetative tugging/pulling and people usually use weights to do it; piercings are also a popular choice to achieve the same affect. Labia cannot get looser or tighter as it isn't a muscle, it's just really elastic skin.

The answer to your asshole question is 'Yes & No'. There's muscles both in the ass and the vagina; you can stretch and tighten both via gradually larger objects in the first case (stretching) or kegels in the second (kegels involve retaining control of those muscles). That said, there is a limit to stretching; every body is different. Fer instance, apparently I can't do fisting vaginally unless the hand is rather small, despite being able to take some seriously large toys in the area. Has to do with the entrance and not the internal structure of the area. Left to its own devices (as in, not using larger toys) a vagina will return to its 'original' size, and rather quickly at that. The same can be said of the asshole; within, of course, reason. However, prolonged use of large toys in the ass does not have quite the same consequences as prolonged use of large toys in the vagina because the vagina is designed to recuperate from such items, while the asshole will permanently 'loosen' a bit, as it wasn't designed as an entrance. The key word there is 'prolonged'. Occasional fisting ain't gonna hurt anything, and a dick up there, even regularly, shouldn't cause an issue. It's the things like the regular use of 2 liters that tend to cause long-term issues.

 

[luckynumbah7]

-I should prolly point out that the labia is not the entrance to the vagina; they 'frame' the entrance, inner labia is just elastic skin and outer labia contain no muscle whatsoever. Entrance is muscle and mucus membranes, heard it described as 'rubber bands' the other day while the poor bugger was explaining why his hand didn't fit, decent summation.

 

[Hidden Element]

glad to hear u didnt suffer and pain and it seems that you too have a good communitcation after the act, just a shame it wasnt before. If u dabble in fisting i think u should be fine, make sure its well lubed up and work slowly. it didnt sound like it was slow from ur origianl post.