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So... i have this question in mind and i need to get the answer

Can shyness, reserve, lack of confidence, complexes or anything lead you somehow to check out guys, enjoy gay stuff and think that you're attracted to guys, whereas you're not??

omg... it's weird, isn't it?
especially when i reread it, but anyway i submit
 
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Hello Stitch627!

Well to answer your question, well I think I understand your question...umm in regards to "Can shy, reserve, lack of confidence guys attract gay guys? Is that what your asking? Cause if it is, then yes. I find myself becoming more attracted to guys who are shy and as for lack of confidence, well that just means you have to treat them with little more tender loving care to show to them that they do have confidence and that they are worth it. If I'm talking to you and smiling then your definately worth my time.

Does this help?
 
sure it can, it most likely will make one take a lot of sneak peaks cus your to shy to begin with and one may be oggleing them to compare stats with one to see how he measures up to the other.

it could be seen as a good thing for some guy's that are looking for someone like that, were they like the shy type.

others may not like it as they want someone more stronger and more confident.

So it can go in many ways.

Lack of confidence to me seems very hurtful to one as you never get the nerve to do certain things one would like to do, beit work,school, guy's, anything really.
 
That's not how I read the question. To me, it sounds like (and forgive the first person singular) "Am I checking out guys because I'm too shy/nervous to talk to girls?"

And my answer to that would be "no". I can imagine that being overly shy can lead people to find "alternate sexual outlets", but I'm guessing that would be more along the lines of porn and strip clubs. I can't picture a guy getting attracted to guys because he's too shy to approach a girl. That simply moves the problem to "how do I approach a hot guy?"

Lex
 
It's a chicken-egg question.

It could be argued that being attracted to anyone - male or female - is more likely to make you shy, awkward and reserved in their presence.
 
Lexington got it right

What i meant was... i dunno but is it somehow possible that if you're too introverted for ex you happen to make a kinda transfer to guys??

But i guess the answer is no... i don't really believe to it myself
 
Stitch627 said:
So... i have this question in mind and i need to get the answer

Can shyness, reserve, lack of confidence, complexes or anything lead you somehow to check out guys, enjoy gay stuff and think that you're attracted to guys, whereas you're not??

omg... it's weird, isn't it?
especially when i reread it, but anyway i submit
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No, shyness, reserve, lack of confidence, complexes, or anything can lead you to a great psychologist if you have too many issues. It'll also lead to a lack of dates as well. If you're attracted to men, you're attracted to men.
 
Stitch627 said:
Lexington got it right

What i meant was... i dunno but is it somehow possible that if you're too introverted for ex you happen to make a kinda transfer to guys??

But i guess the answer is no... i don't really believe to it myself
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I think I see what you're getting at. Plenty of (straight) guys might find, say, going on a date with a girl to be more stressful than hanging with their guy buds. Think about it this way: You might be really nervous because you like her, pressure about what to do and say, expectations, the plans for the evening, or whatever. Meanwhile if a guy hangs out with a guy friend or a group of guys, it might be way more informal and less pressure because there's no romantic worry or interest.

So said guy might say he "prefers" hanging with guy friends because there's less awkwardness surrounding the dating situation. But that's not even necessarily the person, just the situation. If it were two guys on a date, perhaps it'd be just as awkward. And if your guy friends know you well, and take you as you are, that can be different than a date where you don't know each other that well.

I think it's more the situation or expectations. You can meet anyone of any gender or your preferred gender whom you just "click" with in the right scenario.
 
"I can't picture a guy getting attracted to guys because he's too shy to approach a girl."

Exactly...Either that type of guy is Bi or gay or has other issues...But I've KNOWN Shy straight guys that WANT Girlfriends but have difficulty getting dates, but Dick is not on their minds...
 
Stitch627 said:
Lexington got it right

What i meant was... i dunno but is it somehow possible that if you're too introverted for ex you happen to make a kinda transfer to guys??

But i guess the answer is no... i don't really believe to it myself
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But I sense you do WANT to believe it. I think that's the problem, Stitch.
I've told you a bunch of times to stop trying come up with excuses (yes, that's what it is.) regarding your clear, obvious attraction to guys. You're never sexually attracted to chicks but you're sexually attracted to guys. Um...hello?
I'm sorry but it always sounds like you're trying so hard to come up with a way to "cure" your homosexuality, bisexuality or whatever. By placing the "blame" in your shyness, you figure that if you can somehow solve your issues regarding shyness you'll be able to be sexually attracted to girls instead of being attracted to guys (aka cure).

Stop worrying about labels so much. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. It's clear you're not acceptant of your attraction to men and you're overanalyzing it to the point of exhaustion. Just allow yourself to FEEL!!!
 
Fucker29 said:
But I sense you do WANT to believe it. I think that's the problem, Stitch.
I've told you a bunch of times to stop trying come up with excuses (yes, that's what it is.) regarding your clear, obvious attraction to guys. You're never sexually attracted to chicks but you're sexually attracted to guys. Um...hello?
I'm sorry but it always sounds like you're trying so hard to come up with a way to "cure" your homosexuality, bisexuality or whatever. By placing the "blame" in your shyness, you figure that if you can somehow solve your issues regarding shyness you'll be able to be sexually attracted to girls instead of being attracted to guys (aka cure).

Stop worrying about labels so much. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. It's clear you're not acceptant of your attraction to men and you're overanalyzing it to the point of exhaustion. Just allow yourself to FEEL!!!
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this is straightforward...
 
>>>this is straightforward...

No, it's gay-forward.

And time for you to do the same.

Why not just try it on for size? Look in the mirror first thing in the morning, and tell yourself "I'm gay". And then, for the rest of the day, just let yourself be gay. If you find yourself thinking gay thoughts, or looking at a guy, let it happen. Don't try to force anything. Just try living as gay for a bit, and see what happens.

Lex
 
and assuming that you may be right, what am i supposed to do?

what Lexington suggested?
 
Well, I'D like to think the suggestion is sound, but since I wrote it, I guess I'm not the best person to ask. :) But why not give it a try? I've found that a lot of people suddenly feel a lot more "natural" once they try it on for size. If it doesn't, hey, no harm done.

Lex
 
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