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Okay, I am going to try to keep this short and to the point.....
2014 I reached out to a personal trainer and liked what he offered so I began training with him. He immediately became unprofessional and started making passes at me which I resisted and I told him I would not be coming back. He asked me to meet with him a week later to discuss what happened. We met and talked for over an hour and he promised he would not cross any lines and remain professional, I returned and began training with him again.
A few weeks passed and he began making physical passes at me and making sexual comments and jokes and there was not one single day that I was around him that he would not bring up sex or brag about his "man hood" size and shape. I again had a conversation with him and he said he would stop.
Few months later, he came to me and told me he needed help breaking up with his girlfriend, he went on to say that he did not want to be with a woman etc. we had a friendly conversation, I told him to just be 100% honest with her and at the end of our meeting he hugged me and said I love you, and then made a sexual pass at me. I brushed it off and I told him goodnight and we both left.
3 months later he finally ended the relationship and he came to me and said that things would be different between me and him, (at this point I let my guard down) he started talking in terms of "us" and our things and our plans. He told me that he loved me and always wanted me in his life and that he never wanted me to leave him. We seemed to always have a strong emotional connection even before all of this happened so I thought "Maybe he really does want something more"
we would talk every single day, all day and night and he would always tell me he loved me and wanted to see me etc.
Okay, we eventually went all the way and became sexually active, money and gifts and all the above. I fell in love, he was the first guy I ever invested everything into and the first guy I ever fell in love with, so I felt like I was a train speeding down hill with no brakes, and little did I know that at the bottom of the hill was a brick wall.
He came to me recently and asked for help because he received a 24 hour eviction notice and I gave him my bill money to keep a roof over his head just for him to come to me and say "I never loved you, I'm not gay, I only did the things I did to get money from you, I admit I took advantage of you, used you and hurt you"
I was devastated, he told me that he realizes how much of an amazing person and friend that I am and that I was the only person he felt he could count on and that the entire time he knew my feelings were getting involved but that he was so busy worshiping himself that he didn't see what he was doing to me until it was too late.
He began asking to meet with me after that, we met a couple of times. I was extremely emotional every time I saw him. I told him I loved him too much to be just friends and that I couldn't understand why he would purposely hurt me and use me and lead me on. He again admitted and apologized but said "I don't want you to walk out of my life"
A couple of weeks passed and he wanted to meet with me he said we needed to catch up but when I went to his apartment (I arrived an hour early) he text me and told me he would be out in an hour because he had company and wasn't leaving "her" to come out and talk to me.
I went and knocked on the door and he came out mad and told me to leave and threatened me with police, I told him he invited me even though I realize I was early but I didn't feel like I did anything wrong. He stayed outside and talked to me for an hour and half , he told me he was in a relationship and really liked her and wanted to make it work and I cried and I spilled my heart out to him and told him I can't be friends because I will always love him as more and he said that he didn't want the friendship to be over, that he realized how bad of a person he was and what he did was wrong and he knew how much I was hurting . I hugged him and I turned and walked away.
He sent me a long text after saying "I couldn't stop myself from texting you, you don't have to respond, I care about you and our friendship. You can keep this text, I promise I'll always be in your life, I hate that I took advantage of you, used you and hurt you. We should take 90 days and have no contact, our bond will become stronger because we will be able to grow and get past this and be better friends, let's take the time and we will meet in a few months"
We haven't talked in a week, I just don't understand how he thinks I can be his friend after everything that happened, and tell me he's not gay and never was even though we were sexually active. I honestly love him to the point I cry daily and just want this to be over but a piece of me doesn't want to erase him completely. I guess I am just questioning his motive as to why he still wants to be friends after everything that happened.
2014 I reached out to a personal trainer and liked what he offered so I began training with him. He immediately became unprofessional and started making passes at me which I resisted and I told him I would not be coming back. He asked me to meet with him a week later to discuss what happened. We met and talked for over an hour and he promised he would not cross any lines and remain professional, I returned and began training with him again.
A few weeks passed and he began making physical passes at me and making sexual comments and jokes and there was not one single day that I was around him that he would not bring up sex or brag about his "man hood" size and shape. I again had a conversation with him and he said he would stop.
Few months later, he came to me and told me he needed help breaking up with his girlfriend, he went on to say that he did not want to be with a woman etc. we had a friendly conversation, I told him to just be 100% honest with her and at the end of our meeting he hugged me and said I love you, and then made a sexual pass at me. I brushed it off and I told him goodnight and we both left.
3 months later he finally ended the relationship and he came to me and said that things would be different between me and him, (at this point I let my guard down) he started talking in terms of "us" and our things and our plans. He told me that he loved me and always wanted me in his life and that he never wanted me to leave him. We seemed to always have a strong emotional connection even before all of this happened so I thought "Maybe he really does want something more"
we would talk every single day, all day and night and he would always tell me he loved me and wanted to see me etc.
Okay, we eventually went all the way and became sexually active, money and gifts and all the above. I fell in love, he was the first guy I ever invested everything into and the first guy I ever fell in love with, so I felt like I was a train speeding down hill with no brakes, and little did I know that at the bottom of the hill was a brick wall.
He came to me recently and asked for help because he received a 24 hour eviction notice and I gave him my bill money to keep a roof over his head just for him to come to me and say "I never loved you, I'm not gay, I only did the things I did to get money from you, I admit I took advantage of you, used you and hurt you"
I was devastated, he told me that he realizes how much of an amazing person and friend that I am and that I was the only person he felt he could count on and that the entire time he knew my feelings were getting involved but that he was so busy worshiping himself that he didn't see what he was doing to me until it was too late.
He began asking to meet with me after that, we met a couple of times. I was extremely emotional every time I saw him. I told him I loved him too much to be just friends and that I couldn't understand why he would purposely hurt me and use me and lead me on. He again admitted and apologized but said "I don't want you to walk out of my life"
A couple of weeks passed and he wanted to meet with me he said we needed to catch up but when I went to his apartment (I arrived an hour early) he text me and told me he would be out in an hour because he had company and wasn't leaving "her" to come out and talk to me.
I went and knocked on the door and he came out mad and told me to leave and threatened me with police, I told him he invited me even though I realize I was early but I didn't feel like I did anything wrong. He stayed outside and talked to me for an hour and half , he told me he was in a relationship and really liked her and wanted to make it work and I cried and I spilled my heart out to him and told him I can't be friends because I will always love him as more and he said that he didn't want the friendship to be over, that he realized how bad of a person he was and what he did was wrong and he knew how much I was hurting . I hugged him and I turned and walked away.
He sent me a long text after saying "I couldn't stop myself from texting you, you don't have to respond, I care about you and our friendship. You can keep this text, I promise I'll always be in your life, I hate that I took advantage of you, used you and hurt you. We should take 90 days and have no contact, our bond will become stronger because we will be able to grow and get past this and be better friends, let's take the time and we will meet in a few months"
We haven't talked in a week, I just don't understand how he thinks I can be his friend after everything that happened, and tell me he's not gay and never was even though we were sexually active. I honestly love him to the point I cry daily and just want this to be over but a piece of me doesn't want to erase him completely. I guess I am just questioning his motive as to why he still wants to be friends after everything that happened.
