Just something funny in my life right now.....

[GimmeADolla85]

^ I don't think he has low self esteem. This whole " thing " is not that serious and is nothing short of a game of cat & mouse (lol, something like that). Or some harmless flirting. If a couple of dates & drinks, or even a little suck & fuck can come from it - than great. But I honestly don't think it's nothing shamelessly serious. IMO, that's what I'm getting from it.

But, heh. I don't know. I'm just giving my two cents since I follow his " blog " every chance I get. I could be wrong.

 

[JNewYork]

True, and I could be wrong. I'm just going on my own experiences.

It bothered me that the man referred to him as an obscenity while looking at him. Very disrespectful.

And then to get involved with somebody like that is self-punishing. I've done it. In my case the dude said loud and clear to all I work with, "I know what Jay needs."

He was mocking me, saying I was gay by that remark. And what did I do? I began to get hooked into him and his flirtatious games, too.

In the end, he backed off when I moved toward him. He deserted me and I felt abandoned.

 

[JNewYork]

Oh, then I had it wrong as far as him being abusive.

But I would still proceed with caution. These "straight" dudes use gays in order to express their homo desires. But the expression of their desires usually does not go further than the flirtation.

The gay guy wants to take it further but the "straight" dude is not interested.

The situation is always painful for the unfulfilled gay dude while the "straight" gets everything he needs.

So just be careful you don't get hurt. You can make yourself available so that HE makes an offer as in Here's my phone number.

But I would not hold your breath. He's already got all he's looking for.

(I admit that there are exceptions to every rule. But understand I've seen this, I've experienced it. I'm not an expert, but I have seen it and it rarely ends up with the gay guy fulfilled.)

 

[GimmeADolla85]

You do make an incredible point though JNewYork.

It seems like now in days, the gay community is so hooked on a fucking straight guy. You see it everywhere. In porn. In personals. In chats - " Str8-acting guy, only looking for other str8s and/or discreet bi men. "

It's sort of sickening, especially when there's a lot of good gay men out there who just want to get involved with the right guy. But others seem so fixated on being with a straight guy who'll probably sell him done the river if a pretty piece of pussy walks by.

Sure, straight men may seem like the " forbidden fruit " but (in a long term perspective) I think I'd be more interested in getting involved with someone who wants me to know that they are actually interested, with no mind games on the side.

 

[JNewYork]

Excellent points!

 

[JNewYork]

It went as far as it was ever going to go. Further days of seeing him would not necessarily mean anything would have developed further than where it did.

If the man is REALLY as interested as he pretends to be, he will find a way to contact you and get with you.

Sorry to burst your bubble but I know it's not going to happen.

I've been there. Seen it. Got the lousy t-shirt.

Learn from me so you don't get your heart broken. Leave these players to play with themselves.

And if you REALLY want to FREAK them out, don't start looking at them when they play their staring games to begin with. They are people in NEED of you ogling them. Not giving them the satisfaction is INFURIATING to them and will provide you with preemptive revenge for the hurt they don't care you will experience by their game playing.

 

[JNewYork]

Not sure where your hostility is coming from. It's very rude, abusive and ungrateful.

If you don't want help or input then don't create the post.

Good luck.

 

[JNewYork]

Okay, if you want to see your experience as "positive" then who am I to intervene?

I wasn't offensive at all; just telling it like it is. I never said you were a moron.

You made the thread and entitled it "something funny in my life" as if it were a strange and positive experience. Since I've been exactly where you've described, I thought I'd share the deal--and what you can expect (or more accurately, not expect).

You resent my interfering and my "negativity" so I'm not going to bother offering my help any longer.

Good luck and Good night.

 

[fireside]

Okay, if you want to see your experience as "positive" then who am I to intervene?

I wasn't offensive at all; just telling it like it is. I never said you were a moron.

You made the thread and entitled it "something funny in my life" as if it were a strange and positive experience. Since I've been exactly where you've described, I thought I'd share the deal--and what you can expect (or more accurately, not expect).

You resent my interfering and my "negativity" so I'm not going to bother offering my help any longer.

Good luck and Good night.

Admittedly, you were doing it wrong. He did clarify that this was just coincidence and such that he was following.

Fear not, it's okay. I'm trying to type this and not sound combative, but it's text so you can say goodbye to any and all vocal inflection.

 

[ejbonk]

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

 

[jimbill]

Okay, if you want to see your experience as "positive" then who am I to intervene?

I wasn't offensive at all; just telling it like it is. I never said you were a moron.

You made the thread and entitled it "something funny in my life" as if it were a strange and positive experience. Since I've been exactly where you've described, I thought I'd share the deal--and what you can expect (or more accurately, not expect).

You resent my interfering and my "negativity" so I'm not going to bother offering my help any longer.

Good luck and Good night.

JNewYork, Jerry is right to get annoyed with you. You are projecting your stuff onto him. You were reading all kinds of subtext into his little flirtation. It started out as a cute post about some seemingly straight guy going out of his way to catch his attention. Jerry did not get his heart broken, he was just trying to score with some hunky construction guy at work. It wasn't "abuse" by Construction Guy Jerry and it wasn't empowering for straight guys to break the hearts of poor little bisexual men. Where do you get this stuff? You were obnoxious and now you're defensive, as you should be.

 

[JNewYork]

Bottom line: regarding a straight dude giving you the eye, Good Luck with that.

 

[stripes]

dude u don't know which way he swings. just cause you had a shitty experience doesn't mean it'll turn out to be the same for everyone else. stop being such a debbie downer

 

[GimmeADolla85]

I Can't Believe This Thread Has Died!!

 

[ziyingoliver]

Yeah, school started up again and the building doesn't open early anymore. Add to that my boss has cut the construction hours away completely, so though the jobs not finished, thats the way its gonna be.

I don't have a life anymore, just work and school (after only the first week of going back). I don't think anything else will happen here, with this.

Other stuff is happening to me right now, that is pissing me off, but I don't think I want to open that can of worms up (after being told off by members here.) I will say that its all very confusing and frustrating and I want to hit this person. So very annoying to me.

But yeah, Lol!

I'm really sorry to know that you both would maybe never meet again, I spent one hour reading your post hopefully to see you get him, anyway it's my fault to consider your story as a regular porno ,but I truthfully wish you and another Jerry best luck