Kids

[Peloso]

For those of you who aren't parents, how do you feel about children?

I don't particularly care for them.

Bonus question: I understand that the biological urge to reproduce is strong, but do you think it is morally irresponsible to bring a child into a world with such an uncertain but possibly calamitous future?

 

[cabinfever]

I don't have the desire to have children and even if I did I would not do it. My therapist years ago explained to me successfully how toxic behavior is passed from one generation to the next and I understood her completrly - and I am committed to the chain link fence from hell ending with me - I would not pass it on to any child.

 

[m1thousand]

Kids are good.
I used to babysit my niece. She was 9 years old when we were playing The Sims. She put her family in the pool and then she removed the stairs . . . they drowned because they couldnt get out.
Her reaction to hearing I was gay was funny. "youre gay!? youre gay !?

BUT its nice to be able to hand then over to their parents

 

[cityboy-stl]

No kids.

But I'm thinking about getting a dog.

 

[Peloso]

I don't have the desire to have children and even if I did I would not do it. My therapist years ago explained to me successfully how toxic behavior is passed from one generation to the next and I understood her completrly - and I am committed to the chain link fence from hell ending with me - I would not pass it on to any child.

Apparently my father was not as sensible as you.

 

[LeicsDom]

I don't have the desire to have children and even if I did I would not do it. My therapist years ago explained to me successfully how toxic behavior is passed from one generation to the next and I understood her completrly - and I am committed to the chain link fence from hell ending with me - I would not pass it on to any child.

I would disagree with your therapist's theory
I know from personal experience that while we are exposed to certain character traits by watching our parents we have the free will to either embrace them or rebel against them
I look back and can see several things that I have embraced but many I have rejected.
For instance, my mother, especially, was the complete antithesis of a domestic goddess and I am the same. So long as I can find stuff and it is not dirty I am happy
However, being the eldest of 11 I had no desire to follow suit and procreate. Not because I had any desire to fail to populate the country but rather that I did all my 'parenting' as a teenager and that sort of beat it out of me at an early age.

 

[backagain]

Kids are the future. They are the next generation.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Don't care for the biological process but I'm open to adopting, lotta kids need a good home and it's really not fair for us to hoard all our fabulousness and not pass it on to the next generation.

 

[Rickrock]

I liked kids (or thought I did) when I was younger, but now they would tire me out. A small dose (visit) is enough, the same way I feel about pets.

 

[Araucaria]

I think I would have been open to having kids if I had a husband who wanted them and we were reasonably secure financially, when I was a bit younger. Maybe it's because I'm now a bit older, or maybe it's because things are now really that bad, but I would not want to bring a kid into this world. I hope I'm wrong, but my thinking is that the new generation won't have any kind of a world worth living in.

 

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

I cannot stand to be near misbehaved children - and in today's world of don't correct your children they run rampant - I say no more children and beat and spank the ones that are already here

 

[Vannie]

Nothing but sacrifice.

I helped raise two of my Nephews that are the kids I didn't have.Two awesome married men now in their 40s.

 

[Charon]

 

[m1thousand]

I was up town and passed by a pre - school. The kids were cute.

 

[rareboy]

I have nephew and niece and now grand-nephews.

Children are pure joy.

 

[eddielee]

I had to babysit my nephews all of the time. One I practically raised. I'm fine with children, but I've taken care of them for enough years that I don't care to get involved again.

 

[ShadowCat]

I dunno I waver I hate kids but would love to have an actual family, but then I think I'm tied down now next to little freedom and How thats all I really want right now and don't want to be responsible for anyone/thing else but me! I think I'd rather have a network of very good close friends than have to take care of anyone!

 

[USEDCAR]

I like my freedom and being able to up and leave when i want too. I don't want to be tired down to kids. You have to be financially stable and have a good support system and people to want to baby sit the kids.

 

[MusicMan321]

I wouldn't want kids.....

 

[NotHardUp1]

It's too tempting to condemn procreating as immoral today.

Although population levels are stressing the planet, we have the technology and vision to fix that, and it does not necessarily require elmination of humans.

If we champion a woman's right to decide her own fate in regards to abortion, then we have to likewise respect a couple's right to decide their future in regard to offspring.

The defense of personal autonomy cannot be a cloak for our favored societal positions, but then be ripped away from those who act differently from us. That has frankly been the glaring fault in the GOP's Fundamentalist ranks. While they condemn government intervention in individual freedoms (at gunpoint), they are all too happy to then use the government to control the private lives of those in society who differ with them. The same has been true of their complaints about government spending. Double standards are double standards.