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Killing a Lethal Attraction

  • Thread starter Thread starter Zildjian
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Guys,

Even though Rob and I 'made up' after that first email and we're now at a understanding with each other, do you think he secretly thinks there's something wrong with me mentally?

Do you think he secretly thinks of me as a 'quack'?

What can I do to totally reverse his opinion of me to show that I'm a caring, generous, intelligent, SANE, young man as he is? Or is it the lack of action and/or words that will do that?

Do I need to stop all communication (even calling him) until he gains interest to call me first?
 
^ Oh, no. #-o

You do realize you're manifesting these same mental insecurities under a different context, right?
 
You come of as nervous, insecure, and anxious. Don't let your worries get the best of you. Focus on being happy and building a great relationship with this guy. Believe in yourself!
 
Always easier to be the one giving advice in believing yourself but when we're in this person shoes it's never fun now is it. ;)

I don't think you need a therapist personally. Most are crap, and you may have to go through dozens not to find a quack. They just get money out of of other people's problems. Whoever said to just go get therapy doesn't understand that all you probably need is for somebody to listen to you. And well.... see, we would be your friend like jesus but we're all busy trying to deal with our own self hang-ups!

You have the tools to deal with this yourself. You just have to want it badly enough....I want *you* to tell me what makes you happy. I think you know, you just don't want to say yet because it's socially unacceptable. You sound like you have the traits of a Sexual Healer.

A therapist will only go with the social norms, not against them. Fight against the tide.
 
slnattak said:
I don't think you need a therapist personally.
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*Am trying very hard not to flame this post*

That is what therapists/counsellors are there for - to listen to you in a safe and confidential environment, to give you some feedback, but to help you find your own answers to things, not to prescribe how you should live your life.

I went to a counsellor who was like this. This is what they are trained to do. It's what I had in mind. Is there a semantic distinction between a consellor and a therapist that I'm missing?
 
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