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Kind of a "sensitivity problem"

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Hello, guys!

I have a kind of a problem that is starting to bother me and I think it's a bit "serious".
I can't feel much pleasure when I'm having sex. I guess it has to do with my penis. It seems to be very "harsh" (I don't know the proper word) and I can't feel much pleasure. I am in a relationship with a great guy for a couple of months. When we are having sex (mostly I am the top) or when he's doing fellatio to me, I like it of course, but it's not enough to make me come to an orgasm. I have to masturbate in order to ejaculate. It's as if my penis is not as sensitive as it is usual and required. Most people get crazy when they 're getting sucked, but for me it's just nice. My erection is always good, there's no problem there.
I think it's some kind of sensitivity problem. Has anyone else had any similar problem?
I would appreciate any advice.

Thank you in advance!
 
I think you are the rule, not the exception. Many and perhaps most cannot come simply from being sucked and need to finish it off with masturbation. It may make a difference if you are circumcised or not. I know that in the porn videos, the suckee often shows great pleasure but much of it is faked.
 
there could be a few things. usually in this type of situation you've basically "trained" yourself to cum in a certain way. You're used to a certain amount of friction, the speed at which you masturbate, the position your hands are on your penis ect. All of these are factors. Also if you watch porn during your alone time you like a certain mindset and that plays into it as well.

What you can do is change things up. The same way you taught yourself to climax a certain way you have to teach yourself a different way. Have your bf. help. Tell him what you like. What feels good, the grip strength, speed etc. it's going to take a little while but it's not impossible. Try to not masturbate or "edge". You'll figure it out.

Good luck

Steven.
 
Are you taking any medications- particularly antidepressants?
 
Thank you all! Georgiadude, your advice is very helping!
KaraBulut, no, I don't take any medication or anything like that.
 
Georgiadude said:
there could be a few things. usually in this type of situation you've basically "trained" yourself to cum in a certain way. You're used to a certain amount of friction, the speed at which you masturbate, the position your hands are on your penis ect. All of these are factors. Also if you watch porn during your alone time you like a certain mindset and that plays into it as well.

What you can do is change things up. The same way you taught yourself to climax a certain way you have to teach yourself a different way. Have your bf. help. Tell him what you like. What feels good, the grip strength, speed etc. it's going to take a little while but it's not impossible. Try to not masturbate or "edge". You'll figure it out.

Good luck

Steven.
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I agree. If you've spent most of your life jerking off to porn frequently, you've trained yourself to only respond to a certain type of stimuli. You need to retrain yourself to cum from other stimuli.
 
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I agree. If you've spent most of your life jerking off to porn frequently, you've trained yourself to only respond to a certain type of stimuli. You need to retrain yourself to cum from other stimuli.
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Well, my whole life wasn't and isn't just jerking off (I'm young, anyway). I' ve had this problem from my first experiences. The point is: How can I train such thing?
 
Everyone's different. I've had BF's that I was NEVER able to make cum, orally or jerking them off. They seemed to be the only key holder to whatever magical motion it took to get them there.

Your problem could be purely physical, conditioning, psychological, or a combination of them. Not knowing your situation, or sleeping with you, I can only guess at possibilities.

You could try not jerking off for a while (a week?), and see if the lack of stimuli helps.
 
You're welcome. What I said could come into play even with limited experience. The climaxes you've been having are what you're used to. Its comfortable. Humans are creatures of habit. We know what we like and we get comfortable with whatever it is. You need to change things up. I've been there and am to a certain extent. I'd avoid any sexual activity for several days if you can. Then when you're ready Try something that is different than your usual routine. It may take a few attempts but I'd be willing to bet it will be successful. Good luck and let us know how it goes

Steven
 
Maybe trying different lube will help. The skin of your dick can get chafed and overall sensitivity gets reduced. The tissues are pretty elastic but can get stressed?
 
Thank you, all! I guess I have to stay away from any sexual activity for a couple of days or a week and see how things go.
 
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