kinda falling for a guy for the first time

[justndav]

Roll with the flow DMI if he's been "with" you he's obviously interested in you in some way shape or form. Just take it easy sometimes baby steps are best. Don't run your life by his schedule, ie...waiting around for his calls and not going out with other friends or doing things you need to do.

In due time it will happen for you be it with this guy or the next one down the line. I was much in the same situation as you a few years back. I learned to live my life and whatever happens happens, you will find happiness and love, relationship it just takes a little time. I hope that you and your guy friend get to spend lots of time together in the future and keep us updated!!! Take care and welcome to JUB!!!

 

[BlondeCanadian]

Im sorry but how can you have not have time for a relationship? you guys are already fooling around and hanging out... what more is there other than making it official?
or is he not around enough that you need to get off other places? or vice versus?

 

[genthree]

All this business about being too busy for a relationship is crap ! It is just a way of avoiding any decisions or commitment.
Ring him and tell him you will be there in 10mins.

 

[shahmask]

Wow, do you two live in a dream world? I totally understand not having time for a relationship because I totally have the same problem. then again, the only guy ive ever gotten along well enough with and who i liked enough to even think of a relationship is involved with a girl. damn straightish guys. lol Hell, I don't have enough time friends/family/dog.

I see my best friend that lives 10 minutes from me maybe once every other week. He works 8am to 5pm during the week. he goes out of town during the weekend sometiems to see his family. I work at my store 3pm to 11pm and work most weekends. he's already asleep before i get home. i barely see my poor dog 2 hours a day when im not sleeping or working at home.

I had to schedule 4 weeks in advance so that i could get my car in for a 15 min appointment for a recall and i was going thru my emails while i waited. next thursday i have an appointment to see my dermatologist and dentist because that is the only time i could fit anything in.

I saw my mom and dad for the first time in 3 weeks yesterday and they only live like an hour away. and i was working part of the time.

I worked a this morning for an outreach event. im here posting while im waiting on a report to load for my seasonal new hire. i'll probably be in bed in a couple hours b/c im exhausted from getting up at 6 this morning. thank goodness i love my job!

i have reps that work 40 hours a week and are taking 12 hours of classes. in the past 2 years i have been at this store, ive seen 3 divorces from my reps and only one is involved in what is now a tumultuous relationship. then again, here in my city, we have one of the lowest rates of marriage in the country.

so, i totally understand. but, i love my job and i love working. my coworkers have become my friends. and they are the same way.

 

[tonyboy]

Wow, do you two live in a dream world? I totally understand not having time for a relationship because I totally have the same problem. then again, the only guy ive ever gotten along well enough with and who i liked enough to even think of a relationship is involved with a girl. damn straightish guys. lol Hell, I don't have enough time friends/family/dog.

I see my best friend that lives 10 minutes from me maybe once every other week. He works 8am to 5pm during the week. he goes out of town during the weekend sometiems to see his family. I work at my store 3pm to 11pm and work most weekends. he's already asleep before i get home. i barely see my poor dog 2 hours a day when im not sleeping or working at home.

I had to schedule 4 weeks in advance so that i could get my car in for a 15 min appointment for a recall and i was going thru my emails while i waited. next thursday i have an appointment to see my dermatologist and dentist because that is the only time i could fit anything in.

I saw my mom and dad for the first time in 3 weeks yesterday and they only live like an hour away. and i was working part of the time.

I worked a this morning for an outreach event. im here posting while im waiting on a report to load for my seasonal new hire. i'll probably be in bed in a couple hours b/c im exhausted from getting up at 6 this morning. thank goodness i love my job!

i have reps that work 40 hours a week and are taking 12 hours of classes. in the past 2 years i have been at this store, ive seen 3 divorces from my reps and only one is involved in what is now a tumultuous relationship. then again, here in my city, we have one of the lowest rates of marriage in the country.

so, i totally understand. but, i love my job and i love working. my coworkers have become my friends. and they are the same way.

Hey man..
Well you sound like a very busy guy.. busy is good.. far better than having nothing to do.
Sounds as if you have tons of energy.
And very fine that you love your job... holy cow, imagine having to work that long and hard for a job you hated? That'd be totaly misery.

you have plenty of time to find the right guy. just work hard. at your job, but not too hard. haha..
Keep time for leisure.
You sound like an A+ guy man. You love your job, love your coworkers... I'd guess that you are that sort of person that people just enjoy being around.. Good for you.
I like what you write on jub.
Keep writing.
Best to you.

 

[biguy0206]

Same thing happened with me. My current bf is the first guy I ever fell for. I ended up having to move about 3 hours away. We made it work by having online chatting dates each night, even if only to say goodnight to each other. It was quite a few months of that but we realized we learned so much about each other. Finally our schedules opened up and now we trade weekends visiting each other. Just a suggestion. Good luck buddy!

 

[natedogg323]

I have been in your exact situation! When I first came out I fell for a guy who really didn't want a relationship and used the work excuse. I tried playing along for a long, long time and then I pushed hard for a relationship because I got tired of my needs and feelings never being taken into account. I ended up pushing him away.
What I want you to understand is you are important and your feelings and needs matter as much as his. Enjoy the feeling of falling for someone and maybe things can work out in your situation but be cautious and please don't disregard your feelings to attempt to make this work.