Learning to bottom is PAINFUL!

[Kyle3000]

I've only ever done it four times, and each time it just hurts. I get 'loosened' up at first although then after, it just becomes a nightmare and painful and leaves me with (what I think is) a haemorrhoid in the morning. Then I wait a couple of weeks before it goes and then try again and then we just go back round in circles. We do use plenty of lube too and I try to make myself relaxed during so it feels

For my boyfriend, its different, he takes little 'loosening' and then everything goes in within about a minute and it's fine.

I don't see what I can do, I keep having these haemorrhoids on my ass and they're painful and don't go away for weeks.


Any tips?

Thanks.

 

[Darted]

It's less about not having pain, but getting used to that pain and turning it into pleasure.

 

[palemale]

I've only ever done it four times, and each time it just hurts. I get 'loosened' up at first although then after, it just becomes a nightmare and painful and leaves me with (what I think is) a haemorrhoid in the morning. Then I wait a couple of weeks before it goes and then try again and then we just go back round in circles. We do use plenty of lube too and I try to make myself relaxed during so it feels

For my boyfriend, its different, he takes little 'loosening' and then everything goes in within about a minute and it's fine.

I don't see what I can do, I keep having these haemorrhoids on my ass and they're painful and don't go away for weeks.


Any tips?

Thanks.

Eat plenty of fiber, i.e. fruits and veggies, and yoghurt. Stay regular. Hard bowel movements are leading cause of hemorrhoids. So is excessive use of enemas. So, don't douche before bottoming. Drink lots of water and eat right and you shouldn't be leaving piles of shit on the dick.

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, to put things into perspective...

Learning to [STRIKE]bottom[/STRIKE] ride a bike is PAINFUL!
Learning to [STRIKE]bottom[/STRIKE] workout is PAINFUL!
Learning to [STRIKE]bottom[/STRIKE] speak a foreign language is PAINFUL!
Learning to [STRIKE]bottom[/STRIKE] ski is PAINFUL!

There's a whole host of activities- particularly physical activities- that leave you feeling like you got beat with a stick the next day. But, if you stay with it and keep practicing, it gets better, it gets easier and after a while, it gets to be pretty fun.

Getting fucked in the ass is like any of these things.

There are some guys who take to getting fucked like a duck to water. They naturally end up with their ankles around their ears or face-down-ass-up and they're ready for all comers.

The rest of us had to learn to like it. It takes some practice to learn to relax. It takes some time to get past that feeling like you need to take a shit. It takes some time to know how much lube, when to say "stop!" and to know what positions/angles/speed works for you.

In the All About Ass sticky, there's some threads about some of the questions that are asked fairly often along with suggestions on how to get from beginner to asswhore. Take a look and see if those threads help.

 

[mbamike]

I am a total bottom. I love getting ass fucked. I rarely experience any pain.

I wore a butt plug around the house a little each day until I could wear it comfortably for two hours. Now, I don't have any problems taking a big cock. Try this to see if it will work for you.

 

[EphGuy]

my first couple of times were agony but i was still growing when i started having sex so i guess my hole grew open as i grew up.

 

[AlmondMilk]

palemale's advice is very true. It's better to take a poo when the poo is soft rather than when it's hard. I don't need anyone to hear my painful grunts :/

 

[AlmondMilk]

Forgot to mention... how about a warm bath/shower before sex?