Less sex = more cock cravings

[Curio39er]

I’m finding that as my marriage goes on and we have sex maybe only once (twice if the stars align) a month my gay/bi desires grow. I’ve tried to talking to the wife about it countless times, and yes there’s age and hormones, and kids, and tiredness, and stress, and me not doing enough romancing, and any other number of excuses (which are all fair in some ways, and NOT in others), but all that aside I just find myself craving cock more and more as time goes on.

I’ve questioned my sexuality for most of adult life, and have had the occasional online chat and cam wa*k with a few guys before I was married (which was always super sexy and would love to do again). I wonder if the cravings are because I just want to be wanted and lusted after, which I don’t feel because of the dwindling sex life.

Any other curious or bi married guys get this?

 

[Danash]

You are in good company. I can relate to that and I guess there are many here who can. As for me I finally realized I was gay and decided to go for that. Where you ll be heading is up to you, but enjoy the ride!

 

[BiBtm64]

I’m finding that as my marriage goes on and we have sex maybe only once (twice if the stars align) a month my gay/bi desires grow. I’ve tried to talking to the wife about it countless times, and yes there’s age and hormones, and kids, and tiredness, and stress, and me not doing enough romancing, and any other number of excuses (which are all fair in some ways, and NOT in others), but all that aside I just find myself craving cock more and more as time goes on.

I’ve questioned my sexuality for most of adult life, and have had the occasional online chat and cam wa*k with a few guys before I was married (which was always super sexy and would love to do again). I wonder if the cravings are because I just want to be wanted and lusted after, which I don’t feel because of the dwindling sex life.

Any other curious or bi married guys get this?

You're not alone. Sex often declines in straight marriages for all the reasons you say - she's tired, stressed, busy, feels poor body image, or is just sick of fucking the same guy over and over. You still love her and want to keep her around for many reasons - family, shared resources/money - but you're frustrated and still sexually charged.

So we start to think more about our deeply hidden urges. Bisexual urges stay buried in our younger lives when the sex is good and plentiful, then as we get older we start to think "is this all there is", and start to feel the desire to enjoy different experiences while we still can, before we get too much older. We want to feel desired, to feel attractive, and feel the touch of another person who wants to enjoy. It's normal and natural to feel wanted and lusted after.

Many of us take the next steps and experience any level of connection with other like minded guys. There are many guys in the same situation who are also looking for fun. You could satisfy your desires and give yourself the enjoyment you crave, harmlessly and without her needing to know. If you're comfortable in your own mind about cheating on her, then the world is your oyster. There are plenty of guys out there in the same situation looking for fun.

 

[BiBtm64]

Actually, looking back at your posts, I see that I've answered you before in some detail, and I've been ignored every time. So yeah whatever, good luck.

 

[Curio39er]

You're not alone. Sex often declines in straight marriages for all the reasons you say - she's tired, stressed, busy, feels poor body image, or is just sick of fucking the same guy over and over. You still love her and want to keep her around for many reasons - family, shared resources/money - but you're frustrated and still sexually charged.

So we start to think more about our deeply hidden urges. Bisexual urges stay buried in our younger lives when the sex is good and plentiful, then as we get older we start to think "is this all there is", and start to feel the desire to enjoy different experiences while we still can, before we get too much older. We want to feel desired, to feel attractive, and feel the touch of another person who wants to enjoy. It's normal and natural to feel wanted and lusted after.

Many of us take the next steps and experience any level of connection with other like minded guys. There are many guys in the same situation who are also looking for fun. You could satisfy your desires and give yourself the enjoyment you crave, harmlessly and without her needing to know. If you're comfortable in your own mind about cheating on her, then the world is your oyster. There are plenty of guys out there in the same situation looking for fun.

Thanks for the reply, and assuming that’s your butt in your avatar… nice ass.
Yes, it’s a tricky one. I don’t think I could cheat on my wife, but also I don’t know how I will cope with the urges and need to have sex as part of my life for the next 30 or 40 years! Sex for me isn’t just a nice to have or optional activity, it’s a vital part of my

You're not alone. Sex often declines in straight marriages for all the reasons you say - she's tired, stressed, busy, feels poor body image, or is just sick of fucking the same guy over and over. You still love her and want to keep her around for many reasons - family, shared resources/money - but you're frustrated and still sexually charged.

So we start to think more about our deeply hidden urges. Bisexual urges stay buried in our younger lives when the sex is good and plentiful, then as we get older we start to think "is this all there is", and start to feel the desire to enjoy different experiences while we still can, before we get too much older. We want to feel desired, to feel attractive, and feel the touch of another person who wants to enjoy. It's normal and natural to feel wanted and lusted after.

Many of us take the next steps and experience any level of connection with other like minded guys. There are many guys in the same situation who are also looking for fun. You could satisfy your desires and give yourself the enjoyment you crave, harmlessly and without her needing to know. If you're comfortable in your own mind about cheating on her, then the world is your oyster. There are plenty of guys out there in the same situation looking for fun.

Thanks for the reply, and assuming that’s your butt in your avatar… nice ass.
Yes, it’s a tricky one. I don’t think I could cheat on my wife, but also I don’t know how I will cope with the urges and need to have sex as part of my life for the next 30 or 40 years! Sex for me isn’t just a nice to have or optional activity, it’s a vital part of who I am and my need to connect and feel wanted.
And also, the sex I do have is always the same and mostly very very boring tbh. I think I’ve had one BJ this year, and sex is 99% missionary and 1% she climbs on top. Maybe there was one time from behind this year but that’s my lot. It’s at a point where I’m mostly thinking about guys now when we do have sex, to make it feel naughtier and more adventurous. When she touches my dick I’m imaging it’s an older guy and I’m letting myself go.

Appreciate the response. x

 

[snakeeater1]

If I go 4 or 5 days without busting a nut I start to get a craving for a cock, in my mouth! After about a week I start to get desperate, and start to look in my old address book for the phone number of a old “suck and go” buddy. I’d give him a call and say “hay guy, you wanna go out and have a few drinks?”

He usually laughed and answered, “oh, so we’re horny again, are we? The only time you call me is when you want to suck my cock!” I’ll answer “whats the matter with that, you love it don’t you?” He’ll usually say OK but your buying the drinks!

We’d be having a few drinks at our local bar and he’d catch me looking at his crotch and shake his head. “you got to let me have a few drinks so that I won’t cum so fast, I know you like it when I last last a half an hour before cummin!”

When we finally get to his place he says “take off your pants, but leave your briefs on so when you cum it won’t be on my rug!” He strips off his pants and undies and sits on the edge of a big chair and spreads his legs and says OK! “you know I haven’t cum in about a week and its gonna be rough tonight, I’m gonna fuck your face until you can’t see straight! but as always, you already know that!

I get down on my knees, between his legs and take him in my mouth and gently suck him until he’s good and hard (did I mention he has a VERY big dick) then he puts both hands on my head and starts to fuck my mouth. After about 20 minutes of me gagging and him moaning, he says “here it cums, grab my balls and give um a squeeze!” The minute I touch his balls he starts dropping that load in my mouth!

After I suck him clean he looks down at the big wet spot in my crotch he laughs and say “well I see that you enjoyed yourself, I don’t know how you can let a guy use you like that and still cum in your shorts! I’d never let a guy do to me what I just did to you, but you’ll probably come back in a week or so and ask for it again!….

 

[Chillbro513]

I’m finding that as my marriage goes on and we have sex maybe only once (twice if the stars align) a month my gay/bi desires grow. I’ve tried to talking to the wife about it countless times, and yes there’s age and hormones, and kids, and tiredness, and stress, and me not doing enough romancing, and any other number of excuses (which are all fair in some ways, and NOT in others), but all that aside I just find myself craving cock more and more as time goes on.

I’ve questioned my sexuality for most of adult life, and have had the occasional online chat and cam wa*k with a few guys before I was married (which was always super sexy and would love to do again). I wonder if the cravings are because I just want to be wanted and lusted after, which I don’t feel because of the dwindling sex life.

Any other curious or bi married guys get this?

So you and your wife need to get a gentlemen your comfortable with and have a threesome. 2 guys and your wife, just make sure the guy is bi serial you he dont freak out when you blow him or he blows you and she is involved. It would brave you feel better about you questions you have.