Letting him know I'm interested

[hotlatinchulo348]

Okay, so there is a guy that lives in my hall that I was actually interested in is in fact gay. In fact he told me and my friends his whole coming out story. Anyways I am trying to figure out how I can let him know I am interested even though he ( and most of my friends) don't know I am bi. Any ideas?

 

[veryhotguy]

Just look him in the eyes when you pass him, and give him that piercing look that goes straight to his soul... Or just spend a lot of time with him, and you'll grow closer to him.

 

[PabloZed]

If that pic is of you I suspect he is wondering and hoping you are interested in him. I agree with VeryHotGuy - spend some quality time with him, but make sure its the type of one-on-one time that won't be confused for something else.

 

[thermodynamics]

Just look him in the eyes when you pass him, and give him that piercing look that goes straight to his soul... Or just spend a lot of time with him, and you'll grow closer to him.

Make eye contact, and lots of it. And SMILE! Eye contact & warm smile are a sure-fire way to communicate that you like him.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Haha. I will definitely have to try these things. I just feel really dumb sometimes cuz my mind freezes everytime I see him and I can never say much more than hey hows it going or cool or what are you up to. Lol

 

[KaraBulut]

How much do you care if your friends find out you are bi?

 

[PabloZed]

Awww, hotlatin has a crush. That is the weirdest feeling, being around someone you like, stealing glances.

 

[Blueboy369]

Say something like"Hey maybe we should go see a movie or something. Do you want to"?

 

[martin6]

If you are seeing an out gay dude, you're not gonna be in the closet. It just doesn't work that way.

So if you want to get with this out gay dude, why should you keep yourself in the closet?? Just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Well, his door was open yesterday and just waved as I passed but then some strange confidence in me emerged and I turned around and talked to him for a little while. Anyways, we made plans to play tennis some time and he asked for my number and gave me his. That's the good news. Bad news is I think he is starting to see someone... so I am going to try and take a step back and just try and become good friends with him. If we have enough in common and we click it will be cool to have a friend. If somewhere down the line that leads to something else, fine. But for now, I know I have to morally take a different stance with him.

And replying to the question whether I would care if I my friends know about me.... I don't know. I told my roommate this year and we still pretty much act the same around eachother and we are really good friends. I think my fear is that if I tell them I am bi they will automatically tie me to all the gay stereotypes. Sooo idk. What do you guys think?

 

[KaraBulut]

And replying to the question whether I would care if I my friends know about me.... I don't know. I told my roommate this year and we still pretty much act the same around eachother and we are really good friends. I think my fear is that if I tell them I am bi they will automatically tie me to all the gay stereotypes. Sooo idk. What do you guys think?

If your friends know you, there's no way that they will tie you to "gay stereotypes".

One of the positive things about being out is that you get to define yourself instead of having others define you.

Just something for you to think about...

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Ask him out. On a date. Dinner and a movie.

I mean, regardless of how he finds out you're interested, he's gonna have to find out before you get to step 2, right?

Why not just blind-side him with a "Hey... would you like to go out to see a show with me?" Sounds like a pretty cool and confidant thing to do... men love that.

I can't because like I said, he is already starting to see someone. I can't moraly do anything about that.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

I can't because like I said, he is already starting to see someone. I can't moraly do anything about that.

Or can I?....lol jk

 

[KaraBulut]

People who are dating are allowed to see movies.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Well, we were supposed to play some tennis this morning but he texted me last night saying that he was super tired and he wouldn't be able to play today. He said we definitely will play soon though.
I just feel like I am at a major cross roads. He is getting into his first relationship with a guy which is always fun and exciting but I can't help but almost KNOW that it won't last very long anyway. Is that horrible of me? I guess I am just very bitter about how short my past relationships with guys were. It's as if a part of me thinks that a gay relationship never has a real chance of lasting very long. Which should also then tell me that I should probably not put myself in another one anytime soon.

 

[KaraBulut]

It's as if a part of me thinks that a gay relationship never has a real chance of lasting very long. Which should also then tell me that I should probably not put myself in another one anytime soon.

Look around you. I'm afraid the reality is that relationships in your age group don't last long. It doesn't have anything to do anything with being gay or straight.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

This is true. I guess I didn't really look at things like that..