Life long relationships?

[jetsonboy]

I can tell you from my own experience that I think you should make as many friends as possible and focus on your long life ahead (studies, career goals, health), building and cultivating meaningful relationships with your family and friends and yes, enjoying a romantic interest and watching it develop. You will create long-lasting bonds that will continue to build your character and enrich your life, so when you find that one person who is 100% compatible with you, you will be strong and ready to committ to them. Enjoy life to the fullest; don't make a mistake by hurrying to settle with someone at your age!

 

[rickm28inil]

So Im probably weird but Im 18 and already want to find the one guy I wanna spend the rest of my life with. Dating around just doesnt cut it for me. And I have never seen a gay couple that has been together for over 5 years, let alone an entire lifetime. So Im wondering if you guys think it would be possible to find a partner that would want to stay with me for a lifetime, not just untill they get bored of me and find someone new.

No, you are not weird. I felt the same way. My partner and I know a female couple that have been together 20 years. And there are many members here who have been together for a very long time. So, yes, it is possible and also very rewarding. I cannot imagine not sharing my life with my partner.

 

[Eagle653]

I've been with my partner for 13 years. Our best friends just celebrated their 30th anniversary. So, yes, it's possible and life-time partners are out there.

I can't speak for you, but I think it would have been difficult to choose a life partner when I was 18. I was way too wild and crazy then, and settling down was the farthest thing from my mind. I'm kind of glad I didn't, because those I was attracted to at 18 would not at all be the types I'd want to spend the rest of my life with.

As you you, only you can decide what you want. Finding that lifetime soul-mate doesn't come about by wishing and hoping, though (unfortunately). But, it does require desire--which you have. So, live your life to the fullest and be out there and engaged, socially. When Mr. Right comes along, you'll know it and be ready.

Good luck!

 

[KaraBulut]

Wanting to find a long-term relationship is a great goal. However, understand that people change. The person that you meet and fall in love with today is not going to be the same person 5 years, 10 years, 20 years later. For this reason, you may find yourself in a relationship with someone who is no longer the person that you fell in love with.

It's hard to find stability at age 18. Most don't find it until they are well into their 20s- sometimes even in their 30s. It takes time to become a person that someone would want to spend the rest of their life with and most of guys aren't there at age 18.

With that said, there are several of the regulars (myself included) who have been in a relationship for 10 or more years. It's work but if you're lucky then it doesn't feel like work.

 

[Luka]

I am the saem way, I would love to find the one guy to be with for the rest of my life, i'm staying positive about it and hope he shows up soon!

 

[racer2438]

Yes you can find Mr Right. But you still need to be carefull and not always jump on the first one, but some times it works with the first as in the case with me. so always keep your eyes open.

Speaking from direct experiance myself>> I was not looking for a b/f. I was 18 and just happened to have met the love of my life. I was 18 and he was 24.

We have been together for 24yrs this last summer. There is some luck needed and trust and communication and a lot of love needed to make it work.

He was my first b/f I ever had and the last. I could not spend a day with anyone else. we have had the time of our life together and our sex has never been better.

so keep looking and be choosie. It can happen..

 

[SonOfSlobone]

Your chances of finding somebody at your age that you can spend the rest of your life with are just about zero.

But is does happen -- those two guys who own Anthropologie met in like 6th grade. (Anybody know if they're still a couple?)

Just relax about it, go out and make friends, don't have sex with anybody you don't want to. Don't put pressure on yourself to get tied down right away, you can waste a lot of time that way.

 

[cityboi]

I know of gay couples who have been together 30+ years. However, they met in their 30's. Most younger men like to play the field. Incidently, the couples I know are all in open relationships!

 

[G-Lexington]

You're not wrong to want it. But you're wrong to expect it. At least at the outset. It's a bit like saying, at age eighteen, you want a really high paying job that you can retire comfortably from. Yeah, chances are you can find one eventually in your life. But you're gonna have to start at the beginning. Which means dating, trying out some guys, finding out what's important and what isn't in a relationship.

Lex

 

[thermodynamics]

There are plenty of us around who just want to meet Prince Charming and live the rest of our lives together--It just seems that we're not to close together. But there aren't many at our age--that doesn't come to later for most gay guys.

 

[FLGG2007]

Everyone progresses at their own rate. 18 is a little young to make that decision, but then, on the other hand, in the st8 world, it happens all the time. My partner was 24 when we met. I was mmmm.... let's say over 45. I'm now in my 60's, and we're still together. So, it can happen at any time. It all depends on the people involved.
But, be sure you're always having fun.