I'm in college now and meeting people and I met such a nice guy. He is so sweet, caring, cute, and gay! But when I ask him out he turned me down. We are friends... and I did ask him why... he said he wasn't sure. I just don't know what to do; I've tried asking out two other guy since then, you know... trying to move on... and I've been turned down both times. I'm trying to move on... but I just can't... any advice?
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Liking a guy who doesn't like you...
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If you look anything like Drew Fuller, I wouldn't know why you were being turned down. Maybe it's your attitude or personality. Maybe your appearance (the way you dress etc.). I guess look at ways you can improve on these things.
Although if you are happy with how you are, then I guess all I can say is to meet other people. There's so many people in this world and I guess the hard part is finding that one person to love and loves you back the same way.
Although if you are happy with how you are, then I guess all I can say is to meet other people. There's so many people in this world and I guess the hard part is finding that one person to love and loves you back the same way.
That's the thing... I've tried to move on and I just turned down again! It's so annoying...
I wish!
I wish!
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It is annoying. Isn't it ... lols. If only we could make anyone love us. Sadly, that isn't how the world works.
I wanted this guy to like me too, but unfortunately he didn't feel the same way. So I had to accept that. Even though it was annoying, I really had to learn to accept it and move on.
Hmmm ... Maybe don't think of it as being turned down, maybe you could say to them in some way that you really didn't like them that much anyway ...
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I wish I had a better answer, but I don't. Even though being rejected is painful, you've just got to pick yourself up and ask someone else. The answer may not be what you want it to be, but maybe you could just be their friend. Great relationships usually start out when you have had a great friendship with someone.
So maybe try to be someone's friend first?
I wanted this guy to like me too, but unfortunately he didn't feel the same way. So I had to accept that. Even though it was annoying, I really had to learn to accept it and move on.
Hmmm ... Maybe don't think of it as being turned down, maybe you could say to them in some way that you really didn't like them that much anyway ...
.. lolI wish I had a better answer, but I don't. Even though being rejected is painful, you've just got to pick yourself up and ask someone else. The answer may not be what you want it to be, but maybe you could just be their friend. Great relationships usually start out when you have had a great friendship with someone.
So maybe try to be someone's friend first?
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Damn man..... just don't give up....
I give you credit for trying, just keep at it. Guys like you are not common I think. You don't go around looking for quick sex, you are looking to date and get to know someone. That is a very fine thing man, at least in my book.
It's definetly tougher for gay guys because there are fewer of us, but you will no doubt find what you are looking for man. I just know it. It cannot be helped, you are caring and smart and IT WILL HAPPEN.
Trust me on this one....
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It's rough...I know how it is. And I've only had one person turn me down around here. It seems hard to find others around here, especially those not just looking for quick sex, but for more. Unfortunately, the guys I've met around here have all but one been taken, and the one just wanted to be friends because, in some way, I was a kind of friend he had always wanted or something.
Anyway, I can just say do what i've done: Keep your head up and move on. There is someone out there for all of us, I believe that. It's what keeps me going and trying.
Anyway, I can just say do what i've done: Keep your head up and move on. There is someone out there for all of us, I believe that. It's what keeps me going and trying.
The usual agony aunt advice is to keep trying and to increase your options.
Keep trying because you have to kiss many toads before you find your prince. The guy who's turning you down simply isn't the fantasy of him that you've created, if only because he isn't into you in that way. The positive side of being turned down is that at least you know now what many people find out many years into a relationship.
Increase your options by putting yourself in situations were you come across gay guys interested in the same things as you are and not necessarily in a sexual context, e.g. amateur theatre, sports, politics. That kind of stuff not only makes you more interesting and attractive to the right guys when the come along, but also to yourself.
Keep trying because you have to kiss many toads before you find your prince. The guy who's turning you down simply isn't the fantasy of him that you've created, if only because he isn't into you in that way. The positive side of being turned down is that at least you know now what many people find out many years into a relationship.
Increase your options by putting yourself in situations were you come across gay guys interested in the same things as you are and not necessarily in a sexual context, e.g. amateur theatre, sports, politics. That kind of stuff not only makes you more interesting and attractive to the right guys when the come along, but also to yourself.