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Liking this guy, but can't date him???

lookin4sum1icantrust

lookin4sum1icantrust

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I need some help on this!!!!

This guy was talking to me online, and I was talking to him, and I like him, and he likes me too, but idk what i'm going to do because he is so much older than me. He is 47 yrs old, and i'm only 19 so idk what to do. I know age shouldn't be a factor. My mom would freak if she found out i'm dating a guy that is older than her. What should I do.

I wish he was my age, because we could hit it off perfectly. I wish guys my age were mature like him, but they just want sex, and no LTR. This really sucks!
 
lol I doubt a 47 yo would want anything more than sex with a 19 yo too.
 
Yeehaw said:
lol I doubt a 47 yo would want anything more than sex with a 19 yo too.
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True for some, but not for all.

While it's nice to say that age shouldn't be a factor, unfortunately large age differences often lead to relationship issues. Note, I said often, not always. You need to determine how much of an issue it is for you. I believe for some the age difference would be nothing, while for others it would be a big deal. That doesn't make one better or worse than the other.
 
Yeehaw said:
lol I doubt a 47 yo would want anything more than sex with a 19 yo too.
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definatly true that is kind of creepy, that could be a very ice breaking situation i suggest you find someone yuor own age!
 
I find it hard to believe that there is no one your age looking for a long term relationship.
 
Why not just take it one step at a time? You haven't even met him yet. If he sounds like a trustworthy guy (not going to put a rufie in your drink), get together for coffee or cocktails. Make it clear that you're not promising anything, but keep an open mind.
 
SonOfSlobone said:
Why not just take it one step at a time? You haven't even met him yet. If he sounds like a trustworthy guy (not going to put a rufie in your drink), get together for coffee or cocktails. Make it clear that you're not promising anything, but keep an open mind.
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He seems like a nice guy. He said he doesn't drink. He said he wants to take me to MCC (Gay Church).
 
najfus said:
I find it hard to believe that there is no one your age looking for a long term relationship.
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It can happen, but idk when it would happen. I truly believe their is someone my age that is truly compatible. No, I'm not talking about a sex buddy. I'm talking about that L-T-R. lol

I think I might say 5-10 yrs older to be my max.
 
This is simple:

If you're attracted to him and the age doesn't matter to you, then go for it.

But since you're posting on this forum, that seems to say you aren't comfortable with the age difference- so it sounds like you have an older friend that you can talk to.

Now, go find a boyfriend .
 
Quanchi, I believe he is making other peoples' issues to his issue. He does not want to go any further, because he fears what other people (and his parents) think of him.

But to the OP - let me tell you, you won't find YOUR perfect partner if you only listen to other people :)
 
I wouldn't do anything personally.

The main thing is... if u meet him and have any doubt or feel uncomfortable in any way, just move on. There are guys our age who want a LTR. I've never even had a relationship and I'm 21. Don't do something because just because you'd like to feel wanted, whether personality wise or sexual. Do something when you know exactly what you want.
 
Quanchi said:
I can't help to feel that my first post was ignored. You know that I mention I'm in a LTR with someone who's 25 years older than me and we're both very happy together.
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I heard you before Quanchi. I'm still trying to think. I also have been kind and didn't tell everyone about his health condition. He has had a dbl transplant, and he had to get his right leg amputated.
 
KaraBulut said:
This is simple:

If you're attracted to him and the age doesn't matter to you, then go for it.

But since you're posting on this forum, that seems to say you aren't comfortable with the age difference- so it sounds like you have an older friend that you can talk to.

Now, go find a boyfriend .
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I just decided to let him be a friend, instead of more. I guess my ideal dream car & technology fanatic boyfriend is out there somewhere.
 
Corny said:
Quanchi, I believe he is making other peoples' issues to his issue. He does not want to go any further, because he fears what other people (and his parents) think of him.

But to the OP - let me tell you, you won't find YOUR perfect partner if you only listen to other people :)
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Corny, I understand that. I mean the ages aren't really a problem. I guess because we are just from like three generations apart. He is older than my parents, his parents are just as old as my grandparents it's just kinda odd.
 
lookin4sum1icantrust said:
Corny, I understand that. I mean the ages aren't really a problem. I guess because we are just from like three generations apart. He is older than my parents, his parents are just as old as my grandparents it's just kinda odd.
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Nobody, I hope, is telling you that you should or shouldn't get together with this guy. If the age difference was a deal-breaker for you, you wouldn't even be asking us, right?

So take a chance already. Go to the MCC with him some time. If it clicks, go for it. If not, shake his hand and thank him nicely for opening you up to a new experience. And PS there are a lot of gay people at MCC so you might make some more friends as well.
 
SonOfSlobone said:
Nobody, I hope, is telling you that you should or shouldn't get together with this guy. If the age difference was a deal-breaker for you, you wouldn't even be asking us, right?

So take a chance already. Go to the MCC with him some time. If it clicks, go for it. If not, shake his hand and thank him nicely for opening you up to a new experience. And PS there are a lot of gay people at MCC so you might make some more friends as well.
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Ok, Maybe i'll try it. I just been under a lot of stress lately.
 
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