Lingering straight/bi/gay question

[Twistedup]

So much on my mind today...

OK, so a guy who I used to flirt around with like a year ago...and went as far as sleeping in the same bed as...but we never really did anything...has taken to sending me pictures on my phone of him. A couple of them have been shirtless...asking me how he looks. And a few have just been pictures of him smiling, with no text message at all. I think total I have gotten 5 of them in the past 2 months. Well it was about 2 months ago that I came out to him and his girlfriend- both very good friends of mine.

Is this normal? I think that, since discovering I am gay...even though I'm pretty sure he has known for a long time...he takes great pleasure in the fact that I think he is way hot and yet untouchable, and actually enjoys tormenting me in a friendly but mean way. I would like to think, though, that he is hinting at something else.

Is it normal for straight male friends to ask if you think they are hot? I thought only chicks and homos did that.

geez I can not get my mind straight today. Well maybe you all can help me resolve these issues.

 

[looseliam]

Some are just attention whores.

If it bothers you, I would ask him to stop.

 

[MrWright]

I agree with the above post. Turn the tables mentally...how many gay men like to seem ridiculously attractive and untouchable to straight girls? (alot...me included at times)...

It's the attention whore complex.

 

[spencer]

My straight friend Bobby, used to send me pictures of him in his underwear. He lost his virginity to his new ladyfriend last weekend. He turned down any inferences of experimented or anything that I made clear I wanted. His answer, you can't have everything.

 

[TX-Beau]

I think almost every straight guy I know has asked me that in one form or another, plus if they looked good if they're going on a date, they ask for help picking out clothes, on and on, and the funny thing is, they only ask because I'm gay, I probably have just the same sensibilities they do.

 

[backpacker]

It's hard to say why he's sending the pictures. He may just be an attention whore, he may want to tease you or he could be interested in experimenting. If it were me, I would start responding to his pictures with comments about how hot he is and how you want to hook up with him. I would do it in a somewhat joking way. He will either like it or it will take the fun out of teasing him. Say things like "I know you want me, but you can't touch this." or "Too bad you have a girlfriend or I might just give you what you want." The other thing you could do is respond that it looks like he's getting fat, out of shape or whatever. The idea is to turn the tables on him. He will either become so uncomfortable that he stops sending the pics or you will get a much better idea as to why he is sending those pics.

 

[pasacon]

Well the stereotype goes that men are more superficial when it comes to looks as opposed to women. Women put attractiveness and personality into consideration, while men put more stock heavily on the attractiveness factor. So if you, a guy, find him not... then in his mind it means he's indeed hot. He's probably looking for an ego boost.

 

[spencer]

do what guys do to get girls, pay them a little compliment but then jab at something harmless that is wrong. He'll wonder, wtf for sure Hey really nice shirt, would fit better if you worked out a little more.

hey, he started it, lol.

 

[rareboy]

I agree with Spencer.