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Long distance dilema

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Ok, I met a guy on an online datinge site who I've been talking too for a while. He lives far, really far. Anyway, we talked literally everyday for like a week and a half. We did the webcam thing and everything. We both were really liking each other. But then he had a moth long vacation planned, and so we lost contact. The night he came back, we talked and he told me he had slept with someone on vacation. Ok, it sucked to hear that, but I thought it was good that he told me. I mean he could have easily have not told me about it. He said he stil likes me and he was very sorry about the whole thing.

I asked him if he wanted to be wiith the other guy. He seemed very confused about what he wanted, but eventually said yes. But we decided to still be friends. Which was cool with me becuase he's a really chill and funny guy.

After that conversation, we didn't talk for almost 2 weeks. I figured he was avoiding me. But it turns out he was waiting to hear from me. Either way, we chatted for hours just like we used to. It was strange though, because there was a lot of sexual tension, and inuendo. He asked me if I had been talking to anyone else and I have. So I told him about my new guy, and he seemed jealous. Which was kinda nice to see, because I wouldn't mind trying again with him. It obvious that he still likes me, but he says he wants to try things with the other guy, who just happens to live just as far from him as I do. The problem is he still flirts and compliments me, and I dont want to tell him to stop becuase i like it, but at the same time its frustrating because it can't lead anywhere.

I dont know what to do because I dont want to stop talking to him, but I dont want to be played. :confused:

Did that make sense, lol
 
It u feel talking to him make u happy, and so he is, keep talking to him.

All u need at the end of a busy day is having someone to talk to, and that guy can understand deeply and can share with you what ever u worry about.

U can have sex with everyone, but not many guys can be ur soulmate.
 
It doesn't sound like either of you particularly wants an exclusive relationship, and anyway why would you want that with somebody you've never met?

Enjoy your online chats but don't assume it's ever going to be much more than that.

If you do ever get together in person you'll have a better idea how you feel about each other. In the meantime it's silly to be jealous if the other one has a (non-virtual) hookup.
 
You have a friendship with the guy. If you want it to be more than that, go see him. You're both young and horny. Either you're going to have sex together or you're both going to have sex with other people. A long-distance relationship is almost never exclusive -- at least not for long.
 
I was in a long distance relationship once, and it didn't work. Well, it DID work, as long as the distances were involved; being actually together was another story.

If what you have with him works, fine. I'm not sure it does for you--in the long run--but you seem to enjoy his company, chatting and camming with him, and even his attention. If that's good for you, then you have something good.

If you want a boyfriend, who's a real-time companion and sexual partner, then that's going to be difficult to achieve with him, unless you go to him, or he comes to you.

I know of several couples, by the way, who sustain productive long-distance relationships. They travel to each other as best they can, and it works for them. I've also seen others fall apart, within a few months. It's harder than it looks, but I think it also boils down to what each person wants at the end of the day.

Good luck!
 
I would let it go completely as online is really an entertainment so just forget about him and get a real life

seriously
 
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