Looking for the Right gift.

[Silentbutsweet]

So next week is my very very very good friend of mine's Birthday and I really want to get him something. The problem is I don't know what to get for him.

I definitely want to take him out for his Birthday and just have a good time.

He loves music, play's the guitar, was once in a band, he likes to joke around and make people laugh and he really loves his motorcycle. He just really likes to have fun and that's what I really like about him.

Just having a hard time of thinking about what to give him that won't be to weird for him but something that will show him how much I care about him...

Do you guys have any suggestions? What would you give to him if you were me, or what would you give to someone who you cared about?


-S.B.S

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

What kind of music does he enjoy?- Maybe get him a set of concert tickets?

Maybe get him some vinyl albums that he likes, along side of a old record player?

Guitar Picks, in a small jar, tied with guitar strings that he could use to fix his guitar if they break from playing.

A guitar sound effects peddle?

Umn..

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

Just make it personal, listen to things that they talk about, and see if you can link it together with a gift.

 

[landers]

Have no fear, I'm an excellent gift giver. No really, I am, in fact I don't have to get one friend gifts anymore after I gave him the perfect gift....but back to your problem, my gifts usually result from someone saying offhandedly "I really like _____" and me getting it, but if you can't think of anything, here's a few suggestions:

1. I have no idea if you can get personalized motorcycle plates, but if you can a plate that has some kind of guitar sound on it, like thwang.

2 Do some research and get him a fancy set of spark plugs for his bike.

3. You could also do tickets to a favourite comedian of his, make it a surprise for his day out.

The gifts I get for people aren't great because of the price but because of the thought and effort I put into them. The "perfect gift" I got was a year and a half from planning to delivery.

 

[Silentbutsweet]

I like where you guys are going. I just don't know if I can pull it off.

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

You are gay, of course you can.

 

[shainski]

Before we can answer adequately,

How long have you known him?
What kind of history do you two have with gifts?
Why is this year more special than other years? (or is it not?)
What kind of statement are you trying to make? Why are you trying to give him an exceptional gift this year?
Is he gay? does he know you are?


Now, why do i ask all these questions? It's unclear to me whether you have known each other all your lives or just me a few months ago. If you have a great history, then a great gift to celebrate a monumental birthday might be just the thing. But too good of a gift at a bad time can be detrimental to your friendship. So i ask how long you have known each other, and if he is gay, and if he knows you are gay. You post this in the "coming out" section, so it makes me wonder. I just don't want you to do anything that comes on too strong when he isn't expecting it.

 

[altlover85]

You post this in the "coming out" section, so it makes me wonder. I just don't want you to do anything that comes on too strong when he isn't expecting it.

It's also the relationships forum. That said, I think your questions are excellent.

 

[backseatboy]

For what ever reason you are trying to show that you care, I don't think you can go wrong with a good vinyl record of a band he likes. Hot Topic normally has a good selection, and if you have time order it online. Motorcycle parts are awesome, but if you don't know anything about bikes (like myself) I wouldn't risk gifting something like that.

I'm not going to assume too much about why the gift is so important, because I'm not too sure where else to post a question like this myself. Sure, I guess this could be a "hot topic". Pay for dinner, treat him to drinks, and give a unique gift. I think you'll send the "i care about you" message. Good luck!

 

[Silentbutsweet]

Before we can answer adequately,

How long have you known him?
What kind of history do you two have with gifts?
Why is this year more special than other years? (or is it not?)
What kind of statement are you trying to make? Why are you trying to give him an exceptional gift this year?
Is he gay? does he know you are?


Now, why do i ask all these questions? It's unclear to me whether you have known each other all your lives or just me a few months ago. If you have a great history, then a great gift to celebrate a monumental birthday might be just the thing. But too good of a gift at a bad time can be detrimental to your friendship. So i ask how long you have known each other, and if he is gay, and if he knows you are gay. You post this in the "coming out" section, so it makes me wonder. I just don't want you to do anything that comes on too strong when he isn't expecting it.

I've know him for 8 months now.
The gift doesn't have to be super exceptional or anything. I'm a student so I can't really go all out with gifts but definitely want to give him something.
It's hard to explain I guess, i consider myself Bi and he said he does and we fool around a lot but I don't know where his head is exactly. We're going to talk about some stuff soon.... hopefully.

Didn't mean to post it in the wrong section, didn't really know where to go to exactly but many people help a lot here so i figured why not.

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

If your interested in him- Maybe ask him if he'd like to grab dinner/drinks (even if it's just burgers or something) and go see a concert for his birthday. Could be a fun night out of town for the both of you regardless.

 

[Seasoned]

Don't know where you live or what kind of a bike he has, but if it's a Harley a Harley Tee or boxers would be appreciated. He'll appreciate just being taken out. Have a fun time.

 

[Corny]

don't gift him things. gift him memories. do something .. go out, go to some event, do something romantic, something memorable.

 

[Silentbutsweet]

I plan on asking him if he's got plans with his roommates cause I'm sure he would and see if he wants to do something another day. Been wanting to take him out and just have a good time for a while and I want to do my best to do that.

 

[Corny]

do you know his roommates? or his friends? i surprised an ex of mine one day with getting him into the car and driving to the beach (~200km) where all his friends were waiting with drinks and a barbecue. his present were new sunglasses, sun blocker and hot swim pants
he said before that he hadn't seen the sea for years, thus this became a birthday do remember

 

[shainski]

I've know him for 8 months now.
The gift doesn't have to be super exceptional or anything. I'm a student so I can't really go all out with gifts but definitely want to give him something.
It's hard to explain I guess, i consider myself Bi and he said he does and we fool around a lot but I don't know where his head is exactly. We're going to talk about some stuff soon.... hopefully.

Didn't mean to post it in the wrong section, didn't really know where to go to exactly but many people help a lot here so i figured why not.

Thanks for the replies. I didn't mean to imply that you posted in an incorrect section. I was just trying to get a feel for what you were asking.

If you were lifetime friends, and you all of a sudden decided that you were in love with him, but you didn't know if he felt the same way, then that would lead to very different answers than if you met him two months ago, and you two were quite an item.

The problem with gifts is that they can (as you seem to understand) make the recipient uncomfortable. If they are too grandiose, they can propel the relationship to a level that it isn't quite ready to support. You can also set up expectations that he would have to reciprocate with an equally grandiose gift at your birthday. So, sometimes gifts actually do the opposite of their intent.

An ideal gift is obviously crafted to the recipient. What he likes. And you know him a great deal more than you can convey to us. But something that tells him that you think of his interests - music, biking, etc would probably be well received.

I would probably stop in a music store that sells instruments and talk to the clerk. What would a guitar player like? Ditto for the cycle. I would probably get him a small gift in one of those venues. then as corny says - make it an event. A dinner where you can talk. he likes music - so a club or a concert or a comedy club. and a small gift - could be something as simple as a personalized pick. If you already have a romantic relationship, then something like the Harley boxers would be great - if not, then you might want to anticipate how they would be received.

have fun with it

 

[Silentbutsweet]

do you know his roommates? or his friends? i surprised an ex of mine one day with getting him into the car and driving to the beach (~200km) where all his friends were waiting with drinks and a barbecue. his present were new sunglasses, sun blocker and hot swim pants
he said before that he hadn't seen the sea for years, thus this became a birthday do remember

That sounds like a good idea. Don't know any of his friends or roommates. But the idea sounds very cool.
He mentioned one time that he wanted new sunglasses and I had bought some for myself and forgot that he wanted new ones so might go out again and find something for him for a small gift.

Thanks for the replies. I didn't mean to imply that you posted in an incorrect section. I was just trying to get a feel for what you were asking.

If you were lifetime friends, and you all of a sudden decided that you were in love with him, but you didn't know if he felt the same way, then that would lead to very different answers than if you met him two months ago, and you two were quite an item.

The problem with gifts is that they can (as you seem to understand) make the recipient uncomfortable. If they are too grandiose, they can propel the relationship to a level that it isn't quite ready to support. You can also set up expectations that he would have to reciprocate with an equally grandiose gift at your birthday. So, sometimes gifts actually do the opposite of their intent.

An ideal gift is obviously crafted to the recipient. What he likes. And you know him a great deal more than you can convey to us. But something that tells him that you think of his interests - music, biking, etc would probably be well received.

I would probably stop in a music store that sells instruments and talk to the clerk. What would a guitar player like? Ditto for the cycle. I would probably get him a small gift in one of those venues. then as corny says - make it an event. A dinner where you can talk. he likes music - so a club or a concert or a comedy club. and a small gift - could be something as simple as a personalized pick. If you already have a romantic relationship, then something like the Harley boxers would be great - if not, then you might want to anticipate how they would be received.

have fun with it

Well my Birthday was in February but he didn't get me anything. Wasn't expecting anything and that's fine because as long as I get to see that sexy face of his I'm happy.

Wouldn't mind taking him to a club or concert, but I know I asked him about it once and he said he's not much of a club person anymore. He likes a good laugh and I searched for anything in my location for comedy clubs but no luck and I know there's one around cause one of my friends mentioned it.

 

[altlover85]

Well my Birthday was in February but he didn't get me anything. Wasn't expecting anything and that's fine because as long as I get to see that sexy face of his I'm happy.

It sounds like an uneven relationship to me. Why not try and get to know someone that is as thoughtful as you are?

 

[shainski]

...Well my Birthday was in February but he didn't get me anything. Wasn't expecting anything and that's fine because as long as I get to see that sexy face of his I'm happy...

Then i would try to find a thoughtful, but inexpensive, gift. You can actually harm a friendship/relationship by making it too uneven. Let's say that you were to get him something extravagant. That might very well make him feel guilty that he didn't get you anything - or it may expedite expectations for this friendship.

Keep it nice, but low key. That will probably make him happier without a lot of stress and baggage that you didn't intend.

 

[Silentbutsweet]

I might just keep it simple with a Movie and Dinner/Drinks.