losing my virginity

[huntercub]

Hi guys - I could use some feed back on this one.
I'm 25 years old and I'm still a virgin. - Quick backstory. Grew up in Virginia, came out when I was 19, moved to New York at 24. Since moving here I've been with a few guys but never had anal sex. The guy I'm with now (who so far has been great) has offered to be my first (of course he has.) But here's the problem. I haven't had sex yet not because I didn't have offers but because I just wanted to wait till I found the right person. But now I'm 25 and feel like if I don't just do it and get it over with I'll never do it. The guy I'm with now (who by the way is as thick as a coke can) said I can top first and then see how it goes but I know I want to bottom. Do I wait till I find "THE" one or do I just do it SAFELY and get it out of the way? My heart and my cock are telling me two different things! Help!

 

[Homoerectus]

Hell, have some fun. Life is short, too damned short. At your age you should be having sex at least twice a day. Just be careful and use a condom. Now this guy is as big as a cola can? Be sure he takes his time, lots of foreplay, fingers, dildo, and lots of lube. When you do the deed, have him lay down on his back. You straddle him and you control the penetration. If he is a good lover, he is going to be sure you enjoy your first time. Good luck and good fuck!

 

[KennyD]

Do not force yourself to do Anal or ANY Sexual Act, unless YOU feel that you are TOTALLY prepared and ready for it ... Mentally and Physically ... and ... that this is the guy that you want to do it with .....
Then like already said .. use plenty of Lube, Good Condom, and you control slow and steady penetration ... expect some pain; but as it passes , it should become pleasureable .

 

[Ramindra]

Follow your heart--it won't lie to you. Your cock will. And, when you know you're ready, follow the advice given by Homoerectus.

I agree 100% You will know when the time is right and with whom to do it.

 

[looseliam]

I didn't sleep with a guy until I was 24. I wanted to before, but waited. I'm glad I did.

Point is, you don't know what tomorrow holds.

Do what you feel is right.

 

[SizzlingStar07]

Hmm..not sure what to say. If you're waiting for the right guy, and he seems like a great guy, I don't see why not. Or you could always be a "half-virgin" and by that, u could pop your cherry, but not use your penis 'til later.

 

[confusedboy23]

Follow your heart....

 

[SilverRRCloud]

In all honesty, no one here can really tell you, what's right for you.

Only you know that.

The only thing we can do is to share our thoughts and experience with you and hope that you might learn something out of it and come up with a right decision for you.

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Sadly, there is no guarantee in life that you (or anybody else for that matter), will ever meet that elusive RIGHT ONE. Some people are blessed and they do, and some are not, and they don't. You have not made a binding contract with Destiny to that effect. I do not know of anyone else, who has.

If I had spent all of my life waiting for the RIGHT ONE, it would have been the life of very solitary exploration, to put it down very mildly. It would not do much for me.

Just like most other men, I have managed to learn how to differentiate between sexual lust and love. And yeah, I have absolutely no problem in admitting that I'd have sex with a cool dude, whom I find appealing without ever falling in love with him.

You are in your prime now. Your time is passing, too.

Romantic as the notion of loosing virginity may sound to some guys, few men really expect their bfs to be virgins in their mid-20s.

Frankly, I am not sure that being a virgin would really warm me up for someone in his mid-20s. I'd probably think, something must have been wrong with the dude, like with a low self-esteem, or he was playing too hard to get or anything.

Nope, I do not expect that my BFs sexual history really begins with me. And frankly, I am more than happy with the fact that I do not have to start showing him the ropes from Lesson #1..., if you are catching my drift.

Good Luck,

SC

 

[KingofFaeries]

It seems to me that if you are asking us this, that you aren't ready.

Whether or not you will or won't meet Mr. Right is up in the air. But as I said if you have to ask then you are not ready for it with this guy or any other at the moment.

Personally I like that all but one of my boyfriends have been virgins, granted I'm not but still. I like going through things with them, and helping them find what they like and what they don't.

As was said above if you do chose to give it up for the guy your with, make sure he has physically prepared you for it, and you use LOTS!!! of lube.

 

[huntercub]

thanks guys. i'll keep you posted.

 

[huntercub]

Well. I did it.
This weekend I decided to just jump in and I have officially lost my virginity. Thank God. That's all I can say.
It was awkward but good. He was great and very patient. We used a condom (of course) and A LOT of lube but the problem was he hasn't had sex in so long he was practically a virgin too. It took a very long time for him to ease down onto me and after awhile we had to stop because he was getting frustrated and the lube was running out. Part of the problem (blessing) is my size so we're working on how far we'll be able to go. But it was great and I'm glad we did it. Hopefully it only gets better. A couple of time he bent my cock back and forth which was a bit painful but I think in time we'll be fucking like porn stars. Thanks guys.

 

[blueboi05]

A couple of time he bent my cock back and forth which was a bit painful but I think in time we'll be fucking like porn stars.

Intermittently?