Lost love

[dodo2761]

When I came out at the grand old age of 40- I fell in love with a guy who meant the world to me- he loved me too- but for various reasons the relationship couldnt progress.
We had a fall out due to the stress of it all and lost contact.
This was about 3yrs ago.
Since then I have been seeing someone else and I know he has moved on.

Trouble is I think about him every day and wonder how he is though have no way of knowing where he now is. I even know he had been quite ill.

I know his parents moved and I know their address.
I have written but had no reply, but I have no idea about what his address is or where he is now.

I only want to know how he is. I cant write to his parents as he wasnt out.
His brother knows but I dont know him and have never spoken to him.
Do you think I should leave it or maybe write to his brother to see if he would tell me about him.

 

[Redambrose48]

Yes, write his brother and inquire.
You don't have to out him.

 

[8591paul]

Most definitely write him..you can say your were friends and lost contact..no need for further explanation...It is good to see someone who wants to know how his "ex" is doing!

 

[Bruski-101]

True friends are forever take what stepps that you need to do

 

[dodo2761]

I have written.....

 

[G-Lexington]

Is this someone from your past you've lost touch with? Or is this, as you labeled this thread, a "lost love"? Do you just want to catch up? Or are you hoping for something more?

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Since then I have been seeing someone else and I know he has moved on.

But have you moved on?

 

[dodo2761]

But have you moved on?

not totally

 

[G-Lexington]

Then "catching up with him" doesn't sound like a good idea at all. It's one thing to contact an old flame to touch base. But it sounds more like you're doing a "So, you single yet?" sort of move.

Lex

 

[dodo2761]

Then "catching up with him" doesn't sound like a good idea at all. It's one thing to contact an old flame to touch base. But it sounds more like you're doing a "So, you single yet?" sort of move.

Lex

Not at all- in my letter I specifically said I didnt want to know where he was- only how he was

 

[megustamyn]

When you love someone, that person becomes a part of your life. I believe that you never forget. You will always wonder where he is and how he’s doing. Over time, you think of him less often but you never forget. That has been my experience, at the age of 59. There are even times when I ask myself ‘what if.’

I’ve been love with 5 men and 2 women over the years. And there are others who have passed through my life over the years. Actually one of them came back a few years ago and pursued me for a few weeks but I made it clear that I was not interested. I know I am over them because I can look at the man I have now, who I’ve been with for 10 years, and I know I wouldn’t trade him for any of them. My man is not the best-looking or best lover or wealthiest I’ve had. He is the one who has loved me the best and comforts me when I need it and takes care of me the best way he can and I do the same for him; so I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him.

Always look forward. It never helps to look back. If someone in the past had been the right one, you’d be with him now. If the guy you’re with now is not the right one, be assured that the right will come along.