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Love at first sight? Is it nessecary?

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I would just go on a few more dates and see what happens. I think in order for a "fatal attraction" to develop that mental, emotional and physical aspects must be fullfilled..if he can make you have a "le petit morte", then there goes the physical part already!!! lol!
-sKy
 
I don't really believe in love at first sight anymore. Love is a very unsure feeling and most of the time it can come and go.
If you like him as a person (well, and for other purposes :)) and think it will work, just go for it and see how you feel about it in a couple of weeks.
 
So this is good--another date/relationship that you can use in the future.

Everyone you date doesn't have to be THE ONE. (They can't be, can they?!)

And maybe you will get more excited about him as his infatuation wears off (which it will inevitably do), and you will be forced to work to retain him. (Well, you don't want to have to work too hard; but every relationship is work, except maybe in the first 6 months.)
 
The first time I fell in love it wasn't at first sight, or second, or third. There was definitely an attraction, something that kept me interested in him, but it took a while for me to fall in love with him.
 
Hey patryk22,

There could be a few things going on here mate... You either really aren't into this guy or your self defense mechanism has kicked in...

My guess is that you're seeing a pattern repeat here... that this guy is really into you, the same way that you were really into your last bf... and you saw that realtionship become dying and strained as you put it. So some part of you is saying that its all going to go that way again and you should stay away, stay a little closed off and not get hurt again.

Its pretty normal patryk22... it's one way we protect ourselves. But if you're not careful its also a way of closing yourself off.

Take your time. Some of the best relationships grow from nothing... you have to allow yourself to open up and trust again... but you dont have to do it overnight. Get to know the guy a little, spend some time doing things before you make any sort of decision or commitment... just let things evolve.

The spark always dies down a little as a relationship goes on... it human nature. So by going into this a little wary and cautious you'll avoid the mistake of being too forgiving and too accepting of things that will drive you nuts later.

Just be aware that you're doing it though... dont be afraid to let yourself open up and trust over time, because if you become too cautious you end up alone. And you dont deserve that.
 
If it IS necessary, blind folks are so utterly screwed. :)

I've had two longish relationships, and with neither did I instantly fall head over heels in love with them. I met them, got to know them, our personalities meshed, and I fell in love. I know some people can't be bothered with that, but I'm glad I took the time. :)

Lex
 
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