Making New Friends

[Jase201]

So, I have finally admitted to myself over time that I am gay, very very gay
Most, okay ALL (no joke) of my friends are extreme conservatives who don't know that I am gay, who have extreme homophobia. When I seek out friends, it seems I attract the super conservatives. I really want to broaden my horizons with some possibly gay or more liberal friends, who would be accepting of who I am. I go to a college that doesn't seem to have a lot of gay people either, only a few people are members of the Gay and Straight Alliance the only gay friendly club in the school.

I guess I'm tired of having friends who will never like me for me. Where / how would any of you recommend finding friends that share my interests and have more in common? I haven't met many other gays in the area, it'sa somewhat conservative area. I don't drink or do drugs, so I don't really get out to bars or anything. Any other ways to attract some different friends. Don't get me wrong, I don't dislike conservatives, but these particular ones I have found out, really, really hate gay people and I just can't keep surrounding myself around people who don't really like me.

*Takes a breath* So shoot any advice you might have for me! I need some real friends.

 

[JasMuney]

move to a big city and go to another college

 

[Jase201]

Sigh. Not going to happen.

I live about 40 minutes from Chicago though, I don't make it in much.

 

[JasMuney]

well if you live in a conservative area then thats youre biggest problem...and if you want to meet non conservative people then start trying to talk to the non conserves in youre classes or watever

 

[Jase201]

I did say somewhat, not totally conservative. The problem is, I don't ask someone's political ideology when I get to know them. It just tends to come out sooner or later that they are ultra-conservative. I'm not sure how to distinguish between those in my class who are more liberal minded vs. conservative unless some kind of debate is held that reveals their views...

 

[Jase201]

Further, maybe someone else has experiences with this. Should I try making friends at a bar even though I don't drink? Probably not a smart thing to do?

 

[hotatlboi]

Further, maybe someone else has experiences with this. Should I try making friends at a bar even though I don't drink? Probably not a smart thing to do?

Being at a bar sober with a bunch of drunk people doesn't sound like a lot of fun to me.

 

[bluepheonix]

join the young democrats?

 

[mydrew1]

join the young democrats?

If he's political and a US Democratic Party supporter, maybe.

 

[rareboy]

I have to agree. Join the organizations and clubs where you're going to find more liberal people.

I suspect that the reason that you gravitate to young white republicans is that most of them are also closeted homos.

And you know what? If you want to blow their minds if not their cocks, tell them you like dick.

 

[KaraBulut]

Perhaps the place to start is to figure where and how you're meeting all of these conservatives in an area of the country known for moderate to liberal views?

 

[Lube]

I have to agree. Join the organizations and clubs where you're going to find more liberal people.

I suspect that the reason that you gravitate to young white republicans is that most of them are also closeted homos.

And you know what? If you want to blow their minds if not their cocks, tell them you like dick.

Damn, Rareboy beat me to it.

There are conservatives and then there are ultra-conservatives. Conservatives can be normal people, but ultra-conservatives are usually hiding from themselves. Many of them are, in fact, gay.

 

[megustamyn]

The best place is probably that gay/straight alliance. It may not be a large group but everyone in it probably has friends outside the group. You make friends with a few and they introduce you to other friends. It’s how most people, gay or straight, do it. It’s called networking. It doesn’t happen overnight. It takes a little work and a lot of patience.