Manipulative girls :@

[sniper90]

Long time lurker here
Ok so I've got a messed up situation. I'm not out BTW

I go to a college that's 70% girls which is unfortunate for me haha but ok. I became good friends with this girl A ages ago. It was fun, just hanging out, going concerts etc. But she became leechy like whenever we went our separate ways to go home, she would take an extra hour just to go home on my route. She didnt go out with our friends unless I went as well. She was going to base her next college on one close to my next one, regardless of like how good it was. She constantly texted and later on her friend said she liked me. I just thought *facepalm*... I enjoyed just being friends. So I told her I wasn't looking for anything atm because I would move away soon anyway. A lot of people made rumours we were going out and this pissed me off because it would like deter any guy I like. Also it was just weird because her close friend, girl B, would ask me "hey why don't you take girl A home", "you two would make a perfect match" etc even after I told people we were just friends... it made it awkward

So I started avoiding her because her clingliness was so irritating and it seemed like she didnt get the idea I only wanted to be friends. It worked! Anyway girl C comes along and its great. Nice friend like girl A. After a few weeks she got clingy and emo too, like when I said I was going sleep she was like "nooo if ur my friend you won't go sleep". Kept texting, asked if me and girl A was a thing etc. I heard from her close friends she kept talking about me a lot. I don't mind thst but when she started lying ... wow.. like she said to her friend that on Valentines I will take her out. We never spoke of Valentines... even after that she said to her friends I got her a necklace. WTF. Why lie? So now girl A heard about it and she started telling me about girl C, what she says about me, etc. I asked girl C if the things people say she says is true but she denied it all and asked who said that (I refused to say as I didn't want more people involved). Her friend told me she likes me and who would I choose between girl A and C (she said oh ofc it doesnt mean anything, she won't tell etc) but I said I won't choose. I told girl C I am glad we are friends but she is still acting the same. Girl A just talks rubbish about girl C...all this back biting is making me just want to ignore both of them...

I'm not sure how to lose them but remain friends. I don't want to hurt them as they are good people but its just annoying that I can't have a good girl friend who is just a friend. Sorry for the lengthy post and coming out is not an option atm.

Thanks, any advice?

 

[sniper90]

that's the key line.

you're in the closet and, intentionally or not, probably leading them on.

If I come out I would probably get kicked out of the house :/ when I get my own place when I move colleges, I will come out then. In the mean time, how shall I resolve this? For me I just enjoyed spending time with them but I guess because I spent so much time, they got the wrong idea ??

 

[anchihiro]

Hahaha

Girls ay, who'd have 'em.


Well the solution is simple.....come out. Then you won't have all these catty women fighting over you mr handsome.

 

[anchihiro]

Really? You're parents would get rid of you for being gay? I'm sorry man.


Maybe then, just distance yourself more with girls instead of spending too much time together, try hanging out with the guys abit more.

 

[sniper90]

Really? You're parents would get rid of you for being gay? I'm sorry man.


Maybe then, just distance yourself more with girls instead of spending too much time together, try hanging out with the guys abit more.

I guess you're right and yeah they're very homophobic so I'm not even going to risk it.

do the girls know your parents? spend a lot of time hanging out at your house?

if the like the girls enough to spend so much time with them, do you think they'd out you to the entire world?

Nope they don't know my parents
Erm what do u mean by the second bit? :s

 

[sniper90]

how does you coming out of the closet to these girls translate into your parents kicking you out of the house if the girls wouldn't tell your parents (and, in fact, have no real way of getting in contact with them even if they wanted to?)

Because my younger sister also comes here and I'm pretty sure one of my friends would slip and that news would travel around lol I'm not willing to take that risk yet

 

[TX-Beau]

This is a high school drama.

You just tell all of them you're not interested.

Why is that a problem? Unless you're worried that someone might figure it out?

 

[TX-Beau]

Plus if you’re worried that they're blocking you from guys, well, you can’t find a guy around them in the first place because your little sister would be SURE to hear about that and your cover is blown anyway. Why would your little sister rat you out if you asked her not to? Is she a religious fanatic?

They’re not keeping you from guys, your closet is.

It's your frikkin life, take charge of it.