Marriage Proposal

[Zenomorphology]

So my excitement sometimes gets the better of me and needed to tell someone...so what better way to do that then to tell it here as no one knows me!

After being together for 14 years, living together for 10 years, I decided it was time to cook the meal or get out of the kitchen.

So I set the date for January 9th for about 9:30pm.

The place, will be a local Pub, and that night my friend and singer and songwriter will be performing with her band...she wrote a new love song, never heard it before and will premier it that night. Is she famous...she was she was in a band called 22 brides with her sister and she did the whole CD production and tours and opening acts for Cindy Lauper and a few other famous singers.

You can hear her music here...www.carriejohnsonmusic.com shes a Nashville singer song writer as well. I am JUMPING out of my skin.

so far 10 of our friends will be there for the event, ... we arrive at 8pm, the band starts at 9pm and at about 9:30 the big question...I am even doing a video log of it as I get things accomplished....

This is it...the I mean this really means putting all the cards on the table

We have been through a lot, I myself have been hospitalized twice due to heart attack with two stents placed, both hips replaced by artificial ones, him now alcohol free...no adult beverages for over 7 months and signed a promissory note that he will not drink again....because if they test him (and they do random checks) they will kick him from the program, regardless of the treatments being offered. He has come a LONG way...I can't even imagine what he is going through...but everyday is better, every day he is the person I met ...

Today I got the Ring, and so time clicks by till January 9....I am so excited...nervous, scared and the emotions that come with this are unbelievable.

So if any one else has gone through this emotional roller coaster, sharing your experience might help me get through mine.

 

[Seasoned]

I'm extremely happy for you. Congratulations! I understand your singer friend has done you a tremendous favor in composing a song, but is it smart or fair to be celebrating in a pub, given his alcoholism?

My husband has been sober for 30 years and even now his sobriety is not guaranteed. It can't be. That is the nature of the illness. An alcoholic can't make promises. All they can do is live in sobriety a day at a time.

What have done to educate yourself on the disease of alcoholism and the companion illness from which you suffer, co-dependence?

I do not wish to be a wet blanket. I'm just concerned that there could be some real heartache ahead should be relapse. In my own 32 year relationship, the most difficult period was after his treatment program. He kept relapsing for a year before sobriety became a way of life, but, like all recovering alcoholics, he's only a drink away from a relapse. There's nothing you can do to prevent his drinking again but it makes sense to look at your own drinking and how you entertain.

 

[Zenomorphology]

I'm extremely happy for you. Congratulations! I understand your singer friend has done you a tremendous favor in composing a song, but is it smart or fair to be celebrating in a pub, given his alcoholism?

Thank you for your reply,

We got out to dinner twice a week where the first thing out of the waitresses mouth is, would you like a glass of wine to start of this evening....wine was his choice, 5L box in two days, on top of the vodka.

He has remained CLEAN for just over 7 months. He has also has Hepatitis B, I am immune to it due to a vaccination years ago. Ive been tested for every disease under the sun due to an autoimmune disease...so my titers have been tested and have come back higher than normal.

He is in a liver transplant program, and in order for him to continue treatment he had to sign a promissory note stating that he would comply with all rules, regulations of being in the program, which includes no unsubscribed medications, no alcohol beverages...they do routine, surprise checks with deadlines..they do both urine and blood work...if he fails a single test then he gets kicked from the program.

We have gone to pubs, restaurants and other places where adult beverages are served, and he chooses to drink non alcohol beverages.

Last night being Christmas eve, we sat down and talked and told him that the greatest gift he ever gave me, was not what was under the tree, but that he has chosen to not drink. He says hes come close a few times, but said NO, and he continues to fight his dragon.

What I do know after 4 years of a bad drinking habit is that it was his choice, not mine, and that I had no control over it, and that it was his behavior that got him to the point where he is today...and through the grace of higher powers he continues to move forward, day by day by day.

My husband has been sober for 30 years and even now his sobriety is not guaranteed. It can't be. That is the nature of the illness. An alcoholic can't make promises. All they can do is live in sobriety a day at a time.

As far as my drinking habits, well that's easy, because of my autoimmune disease I am allergic to certain things, one of them being alcohol. so I don't drink...

thanks....

 

[Seasoned]

I am happy for you and I hope you know my reply was in the interest of sharing my experience. I wish you and your future husband all the best. I'd be happy to share more anytime you'd like to pm me.

 

[Zenomorphology]

I am happy for you and I hope you know my reply was in the interest of sharing my experience. I wish you and your future husband all the best. I'd be happy to share more anytime you'd like to pm me.

Well we shall see if he says YES when I pop the question....its all going to happen on the 9th of January...

As of this morning I am having thoughts...mind is racing...contemplating the two possible answers...of YES and NO...more worried about the answer NO

But as Maude said to Harold...."Reach out, take a chance...other wise you got nothing to talk about in the locker room."

Harold And Maude
Paramount Pictures
Color/91 Minutes/1971 /GP

 

[Seasoned]

Best wishes. Keep us posted!

 

[Zenomorphology]

HE SAID .... YES

Planning June 18 2016

Best wishes. Keep us posted!

 

[Seasoned]

Been away from the Internet on and off for a couple of months. Congratulations and best wishes!!!

 

[Eagle653]

CONGRATULATIONS!!! Best wishes to you and your soon-to-be husband!

 

[puppetmaster]

Congrats bro! I wish you the best