Me and My Married Daddy

[James Sawyer]

Hello people! Im new here, Im 21 yo. Im bi, discret.
Around 5 months ago I met an older married guy on SD who is in his 50ies.
He is married, has daughters and he is bi discret too.
We have been talking A LOT during these months, almost everyday on Skype.
We got to the point that we fall in love and im going to the USA to work this winter and we are going to meet. BTW, i live in Southamerica
Like 2 monts ago i found out that i had been cheating on me. He met 2 guys and sent LOTS of private msgs on SD looking for guys to meet.
I told him about this and we talked. He was really sorry, devastated and i was angry, but finally everything was back to normal. He closed his SD and BiggerCity account and i did the same.
The story is pretty amazing, is like perfect, and im really in love with him and i cant wait to see him.
However, sometimes i think that he could keep on cheating on me, and that would bother me A LOT.

Which is your opinion people?

 

[James Sawyer]

LOL, thanks for your sincerity

We talk everynight on Skype after "the problem" we had. We have spent MANY nights together sleeping with the cam opened. I think he really loves me too.

 

[James Sawyer]

Well, thats what i think. I dont know if thats true, but its what he makes me think.
And he is going to spend a lot of money to meet me on January, so this is one of those little things that make me believe that he truly loves me.

 

[bankside]

Just make sure he always spends more on you than on his wife. That way, you'll know that he truly loves you and not her.

Blargh.

 

[crzyrazn]

I really think you need to reevaluate this whole situation. You do realize that this won't, can't, end well.

 

[James Sawyer]

Why not? Im not thinking of getting married or going to live with him.
He loves his wife, he loves me, i love my GF and i love him.
I had good sex with my GF and i believe that im going to have good sex with him too. And its not only about sex, we share a lot of things that we enjoy doing, reading, movies, tv shows.

But i really appreciate your opinions guys! Thanks!

 

[texan_slant]

...so what do you expect to get out of this if you don't want to get married or live with him? ...just sex?

He's cheating on you with his wife;
He's cheated with you, and his wife, with other guys;
You're cheating on your girlfriend;
You live in a different country;

...yet you've fallen in love with him and you've never even met, nor spent any real time together?

...even if this was just for the sex, how desparate are you? Is all this time, energy, and money even worth a fling?

Well, the good thing is, you'll soon find out whether or not this is a reality.

 

[James Sawyer]

A friend with benefits, a relationship, sex, love, friendship. Thats what im looking for with him.

 

[Tee-Jay]

I don't mean to be rude, but are you sure that you are playing with a full deck of cards? Everyday I am amazed at the ludicrous stuff that is posted here. I think you need to quickly realize that your illusions of grandeur is just that and nothing more. Too often we never take the time to consider the innocent by-standers that get caught up in the cross-fire of our fleeting and fickle passions. We just merely write them off as collateral damage and we continue to engage in insiduos behaviour. Why would you be upset that he is seemingly cheating on you, if you are doing the same exact thing on your girlfriend? Did you really think you could trust a married man with children to be faithful to you, if he clearly has no regard for the vows that he made? You really thought that he was your one and only? C'mon wake up it's 2010 and you should know by know that some men will say and do anything to get what they want. It would be one thing if you both were upfront with your respective partners about your sexual preferences. But if I am to take you at work, your posting states that you are both discreet, which means that you are both leading double lives. I could never understand why people would do this especially when children are involved. If you want to fuck both men and women then fine, but don't make a commitment to a woman and have children with her and engage in this type of behaviour. You want a man then be a man yourself and be truthful and know when to walk away instead of stringing people along. Also since when did spending money on someone equate to them loving you? All that means is that you're cheat and easily swayed. Sorry to say but this is another ploy used by men. So if this guy didn't have a red cent to his name, would you still feel the same way? To me you both are opportunists who use people to satisfy their whims. In closing I wish you all the best, but I'd like to think that we each have the propensity to be decent human beings. I wouldn't stake my life on it though because then I may be in for a rude awakening.

 

[Telstra]

mmmm i see sugar daddy and you which is fine as long as you both agrees .

 

[James Sawyer]

I don't mean to be rude, but are you sure that you are playing with a full deck of cards? Everyday I am amazed at the ludicrous stuff that is posted here. I think you need to quickly realize that your illusions of grandeur is just that and nothing more. Too often we never take the time to consider the innocent by-standers that get caught up in the cross-fire of our fleeting and fickle passions. We just merely write them off as collateral damage and we continue to engage in insiduos behaviour. Why would you be upset that he is seemingly cheating on you, if you are doing the same exact thing on your girlfriend? Did you really think you could trust a married man with children to be faithful to you, if he clearly has no regard for the vows that he made? You really thought that he was your one and only? C'mon wake up it's 2010 and you should know by know that some men will say and do anything to get what they want. It would be one thing if you both were upfront with your respective partners about your sexual preferences. But if I am to take you at work, your posting states that you are both discreet, which means that you are both leading double lives. I could never understand why people would do this especially when children are involved. If you want to fuck both men and women then fine, but don't make a commitment to a woman and have children with her and engage in this type of behaviour. You want a man then be a man yourself and be truthful and know when to walk away instead of stringing people along. Also since when did spending money on someone equate to them loving you? All that means is that you're cheat and easily swayed. Sorry to say but this is another ploy used by men. So if this guy didn't have a red cent to his name, would you still feel the same way? To me you both are opportunists who use people to satisfy their whims. In closing I wish you all the best, but I'd like to think that we each have the propensity to be decent human beings. I wouldn't stake my life on it though because then I may be in for a rude awakening.

What if he wants to have a family and at the same time he wants to be with a man? I want the same!
I think that relationship with a man is different that a relationship with a woman. Thats why i dont consider that im cheating my GF with him.
Maybe i believe that this is wonderful and great and everything, and as you say, it really isnt, but it makes me feel good, and he makes me feel good.

 

[James Sawyer]

Thanks Telstra! I think the same way!

 

[QuinnRider]

If this is real, I feel terrible for his wife and children. When they find out about their father and husband, and they will, things are going to fall apart in his life, and the lives of his children and wife, and that is a god damned shame, and you are partially to blame for that. It makes you happy, but at what cost? The lives of three people are going to be tossed in a oven because of your actions and his own, thats nice, I can't feel happy for you. I am pretty disgusted at the thought, again, I hope this is bs.

 

[bankside]

What if he wants to have a family and at the same time he wants to be with a man? I want the same!
I think that relationship with a man is different that a relationship with a woman. Thats why i dont consider that im cheating my GF with him.
Maybe i believe that this is wonderful and great and everything, and as you say, it really isnt, but it makes me feel good, and he makes me feel good.

Oh, if is is not cheating, then there is nothing to be discrete about, right?

Your GF is going to travel too? Then maybe you can have a nice foursome. Kinky! But if you all agree to it, then great!

 

[hopnung]

What if he wants to have a family and at the same time he wants to be with a man? I want the same!
I think that relationship with a man is different that a relationship with a woman. Thats why i dont consider that im cheating my GF with him.
Maybe i believe that this is wonderful and great and everything, and as you say, it really isnt, but it makes me feel good, and he makes me feel good.

Why don't you ask you girlfriend how she feels about the whole thing... I'm assuming she knows you're falling in love with a man in another country, yes? On the same level, the man you're talking about should probably ask his wife how she feels about all of this, too. I guarantee you that they would disagree with you that this isn't cheating. But hey, then you both would be single and could live happily ever after together, because your girlfriend and his wife would probably leave you both...

 

[Storybook_Man]

Just make sure he always spends more on you than on his wife. That way, you'll know that he truly loves you and not her.

Blargh.

hahaha thats hilarious

 

[galesbi]

What if he wants to have a family and at the same time he wants to be with a man? I want the same!
I think that relationship with a man is different that a relationship with a woman. Thats why i dont consider that im cheating my GF with him.
Maybe i believe that this is wonderful and great and everything, and as you say, it really isnt, but it makes me feel good, and he makes me feel good.

I'm married, have a child, and am bisexual. With a few big differences, I respect my wife and love my family more than anything, therefore I am honest with my wife. Also I take my vows seriously, and will not cheat on my wife. Here's a decent litmus test for cheating...if you have to lie about it, than you are cheating on your partner.

 

[Krakenbwool]

For his wife's sake, I hope he's getting himself checked.

 

[nate78]

Hello people! Im new here, Im 21 yo. Im bi, discret.
Around 5 months ago I met an older married guy on SD who is in his 50ies.
He is married, has daughters and he is bi discret too.
We have been talking A LOT during these months, almost everyday on Skype.
We got to the point that we fall in love and im going to the USA to work this winter and we are going to meet. BTW, i live in Southamerica
Like 2 monts ago i found out that i had been cheating on me. He met 2 guys and sent LOTS of private msgs on SD looking for guys to meet.
I told him about this and we talked. He was really sorry, devastated and i was angry, but finally everything was back to normal. He closed his SD and BiggerCity account and i did the same.
The story is pretty amazing, is like perfect, and im really in love with him and i cant wait to see him.
However, sometimes i think that he could keep on cheating on me, and that would bother me A LOT.

Which is your opinion people?

This is a very very very very very very bad idea. That having been said, you can not fall in love on the internet or on Skype. Until you meet and spend REAL time together, like months, you DO NOT really know each other well enough to assess whether you really have love for this person. Believe me, I've been there more than once. Hell, even after you spend months with someone and share their space, its still hard to pin down love. Lust, yes. Love nooooo.

This is exciting for you because its something new, a little dangerous, and someone is giving you all their attention. If anyone else has not said it before, YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE. It may feel like love, but it isn't, I promise you. And if he's already "cheated" on you...you're already walking into a bad situation that just got a lot worse. Go to the US and work, but don't meet him. You're young, and naive and you should REALLY listen to people who have been in your shoes. But ultimately, you'll do what you want. I'm just trying to spare you the trouble. Oh, and there's trouble a brewin'. Good luck to you.

 

[PoppaJunk]

Uh, find someone closer to home. This is a trainwreck waiting to happen.