Me and this guy I met on aol

[ncdude19]

So, when I was in the 10th grade (I am in my solphmer year of college now) I met this guy on the internet. He was curious and so was I. So, we just phoned... but then started talking more about other stuff, like we actually cared for each other more than just jacking off to each others voice. Then for a while we did not talk, but now we have begin talking again more often. Even though I know he is really busy I really want to talk to him all the time! And did I also mention I have never met him or even seen a picture of him! Yet, I feel as though I love him? I just love talking to him, he is great. I have never really considered byself gay, I just guess I want to have sex with guys.. but with this guy I dont know? I want to tell him I want to meet him and spend more time with him. I want to tell him I love him! But i am afraid he will not feel the same or think I am stupid. He is a few years older than me and I guess I just want him to think I am cool. but I want to tell him I feel so bad.. so bad I can hardly hold it in sometimes.... what should I do?

 

[8tomtoms8]

I'd tell him you'd like to actually meet him or maybe you guys could trade pics first. I met this guy on a gay chat line and we talked on and off for three years before we ever met. Then we finally got up the nerve and traded pics. That was three years ago and we are together all the time now.

The great thing is you really know each other already so when you actually do meet you two know you'll hit it off. You may not tell him you love him yet but tell him you may be developing feelings for him and see if he feels the same thing. I'll bet you he feels the same way.

Good luck.

 

[ncdude19]

thanks man, that was great advice!

 

[ncdude19]

why doesnt anyone leave advice?

 

[MarkDW]

"I have never really considered byself gay, I just guess I want to have sex with guys.."


Huh?

 

[StlKj]

why doesnt anyone leave advice?

Because 8tomtoms8 already said it. If you want to get to know him better, then you have to start small by exchanging pics and then proposing to meet some time in public just to see if there is any chemistry there beyond the phone.

But keep your proclamations of love to yourself--right now you're very infatuated with the man you've talked to on the phone. First see if he's willing to be more than a voice on the phone, and then begin figuring out if there is even more about him to like.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>why doesnt anyone leave advice?

It takes a while for us to notice a new thread, and post our advice sometimes.

>>>I have never really considered byself gay, I just guess I want to have sex with guys..

Oh, well, there's a couple terms for people like that. The main one is "gay".

It seems like you hit it off with this guy quite well, so chances are good you might be quite compatible. But I wouldn't rush into the declarations of love just yet. Nudge it forward. Almost everyone in college is on myspace or facebook. Ask if he can add you as a friend there. Then you'll probably have pictures to go on, as a starting point.

And don't let your college know that that's how you're spelling "sophomore". They may kick you back down to Freshmen status.

Lex

 

[Tizinsane]

Wow!!! You haven't even traded pics yet and u love him? That seems unusual to me...

I wouldnt take it any further until u exchange photos. Maybe your feelings will change?....

 

[G-Lexington]

^ Not that unusual. I met my partner online, and started falling for him before I knew what he looked like. He had described himself (extremely well, I might add), but I hadn't seen a photo before the feelings were getting fairly intense. Once I got the photo, it didn't change anything other than now I had a better picture of him in my mind.

I can certainly relate more to that than people who fall in love with people based soley and completely on a picture. ("I saw this guy in a magazine, and I can't stop obsessing about him!")

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

It would seem that- in 4 years of knowing someone, chatting with them and doing phone sex- if this guy wanted to meet with you he would have done so.

More than likely there's a reason why you've never met- as in, he's married, he's older than he has let on or he's got some other big secret that he hasn't shared.

But you're not going to be able to move on until you get it out there and let him know that you're ready to move this relationship out of the world of telephony and into the real world.

Hopefully, no matter what the outcome you'll be able to move on to a real relationship with someone that you can actually put your arms around and wake up with the next morning.

 

[chance1]

^ perhaps

perhaps not

i wouldn't assume the worst - but be prepared

for sure do everything u can to complete the circle - meet with him - see if there is still a connection

until u have actually met him ..........

there really is no real relationship

my 2 cents

 

[rareboy]

I'm still trying to get my head around you connecting with some guy in 10th grade and getting to your sophomore year in college and jacking off while talking to each other but not taking the time or effort to ever get together.....and you want sex with guys but don't think you're a homosexual.

Too much to process.

Exchange pictures, arrange to meet and start living in the real world instead of the virtual world. Maybe you'll like one another more, maybe it will kill the passion dead, but at least you'll both be dealing with the person rather than the disembodied voice .... it sounds like that would be a good place to start.