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I have spent the last week feeling like crap since my first boyfriend ever dumped me via text message. I have never been so distracted in my life. I can't do my schoolwork, I can't focus on regular work, dammit. I'm so lonely and depressed. Anyone help? :confused:
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It's ok and normal to feel the way you do, especially since he was your first. Just let it pass by with time. Try to use your school and work as a way to help think of other things. Then reward yourself after school and work by looking for other guys. Don't get discouraged if it takes time, you found your first, I am sure you can find a second.
 
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on. He doesn't deserve you. Anyone who is so shallow and cowardly as to break up in a text message is a loser. Remember...sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your Prince Charming. Hold up your head and get back out there.
 
There's so much involved in a break-up. Read up on the grieving process and understand that the stages are more like waves and can come in any order and repeatedly. Self-esteem can be at stake as well. In the beginning make sure you are showering and brushing your teeth and eating more than junk food. Get to class and force yourself to take notes even if you are not doing the reading or studying. Get to the library or cafeteria or coffee shop and open a book there. Being alone and trying to study can be impossible.

Watch a movie, but stay away from love stories and stay away from the angst of songs about break-ups, which is pretty much three quarters of pop music.

Get good sleep and cruise to your heart's content. In the future remember that any partner should be just as grateful to have you as you are to have him. I don't know if that applies here--just throwing it in.

Best wishes. Look in the mirror and smile at least once a day.
 
I haven't done much in the dating area, but I do feel I had my heart broken on one occasion. I have also had terrible luck at times, and I have often thought it is similar as a heart break.

So what I have done in my heart break and bad luck instances was I just went to a coffee shop by myself (Starbucks Addict!) and sat there with my coffee and watched out the window. I noticed that the world doesn't stop no matter what. I would hurt inside then I would just sit there and watch more. Just me and my thoughts.

I then would realize what I truly wanted or was after. What did I want in life? What do I truly value? I would then decide I would start working at rebuilding and working toward what I wanted/valued. I would let the feelings take their course and go back to working toward what I was after. I would tell myself I wasn't allowed to quit. I focused on being me again.

So I guess deal with the natural feelings and go back to what you value? I think its safe to assume you value love of another. Go work toward that again and find one that wants to work toward love the same. GOOD LUCK!
 
You've received some good support above. I hope this video brings you a little relief and humor. A lot of people have experienced the same situation:

 
Cute... But not lol at the moment. My neighbor back home actually knows the guy in the video.
 
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