Meeting Gay Lads

[TheMackem]

Hi, I'm new.

I'm 19 and live in North East England. I've never been with a guy because I've never wanted to put myself out there, no-one knows I'm bi. I can't afford to be seen in the gay scene so I'm not sure where to look. I really want to try sex with a lad to see if I like it and if not I wont have any wild oats to sow and I'll finally be able to commit in a relationship.

Any help appreciated, thanks

 

[saymyname]

in order to meet other gay people you have to come out

common sense

 

[hotb0d]

you have to sacrifice before you can gain anything, especially with being gay and all. You can't expect a relationship or anything meaningful until you are out. The only thing you can do is to have meaningless sex with random hook ups...and I'm not sure that is what you want lol.

maybe try a gay dating site?

 

[G-Lexington]

Welcome to JUB!

>>>The only thing you can do is to have meaningless sex with random hook ups...and I'm not sure that is what you want lol.

I only have the one short post to go on, but I have a feeling that's precisely what you want. Consider. You're bisexual but closeted. You don't even want to "put your face" in the gay scene at all. And there's at least a good chance that you having sex with a guy is simply a chance to "get it out of your system", if I can put words in your mouth.

In short, you don't want to deal with relationships and "feelings" - you want to fuck a guy (or get fucked by a guy). In other words, you want a random meaningless hook-up.

So get yourself a random meaningless hook-up. Write an online ad. Here's your template - alter it as you see fit. "Straight but curious 19-year-old guy in NE England looking to try out the other side. Looking for a nice, friendly guy to show me a good time. Interested in mutual j/o and oral to start off with. Safe play an absolute must."

Don't say bisexual - say straight. It'll triple the number of responses. When you start getting responses, start chatting with a few. Look for someone friendly who understands precisely what you're looking for. ("You need a good fucking and I'm the guy to give it to you"? Not him.) Arrange a public meeting in a coffee shop or something first, to see if you have good chemistry. Look up safe sex guidelines, and practice putting on condoms and lube until you can do it smoothly. Then, go fool around once, twice, or a hundred times. And have fun, damnit.

Lex

 

[slnattak]

Just be honest about what you want. Make sure the other person clearly understands you're not looking for a relationship or to get emotionally attached. There are a plethora of guys looking to have some fun on the internet.

Look at each other online via cam to see if there's chemistry. (or share pics) Meet in public place for safety first, absolute must. And just trust your instincts. If something inside of you seems 'Off' about this guy, then don't meet him.

Btw, there is no one gay scene. There are MANY gay social events. There are gay bars, gay coffee shops, gay video game arcades. There are many avenus of where gay men hang out. If you really are gay, then you might want to consider getting over your personal fear about the whole gay thing but that will come in time.

For now, just enjoy some hot man sex! It's your human birth-right.

 

[saymyname]

Welcome to JUB!

>>>The only thing you can do is to have meaningless sex with random hook ups...and I'm not sure that is what you want lol.

I only have the one short post to go on, but I have a feeling that's precisely what you want. Consider. You're bisexual but closeted. You don't even want to "put your face" in the gay scene at all. And there's at least a good chance that you having sex with a guy is simply a chance to "get it out of your system", if I can put words in your mouth.

In short, you don't want to deal with relationships and "feelings" - you want to fuck a guy (or get fucked by a guy). In other words, you want a random meaningless hook-up.

So get yourself a random meaningless hook-up. Write an online ad. Here's your template - alter it as you see fit. "Straight but curious 19-year-old guy in NE England looking to try out the other side. Looking for a nice, friendly guy to show me a good time. Interested in mutual j/o and oral to start off with. Safe play an absolute must."

Don't say bisexual - say straight. It'll triple the number of responses. When you start getting responses, start chatting with a few. Look for someone friendly who understands precisely what you're looking for. ("You need a good fucking and I'm the guy to give it to you"? Not him.) Arrange a public meeting in a coffee shop or something first, to see if you have good chemistry. Look up safe sex guidelines, and practice putting on condoms and lube until you can do it smoothly. Then, go fool around once, twice, or a hundred times. And have fun, damnit.

Lex

Wonderful advice.

SNLattack - I'm not sure if viewing each other on cam is a way to establish if there is chemistry. You can establish that way better by meeting up for a drink. Or two.

 

[rareboy]

I can't afford to be seen in the gay scene so I'm not sure where to look.

So are you royalty or something? Why can't a 19 year old 'afford' to be seen in the gay scene.

Either get comfortable with yourself and start living an adult man's life, or get ready for a future of furtive hook-ups and anonymous bj's in the bushes.

 

[TheMackem]

Welcome to JUB!

>>>The only thing you can do is to have meaningless sex with random hook ups...and I'm not sure that is what you want lol.

I only have the one short post to go on, but I have a feeling that's precisely what you want. Consider. You're bisexual but closeted. You don't even want to "put your face" in the gay scene at all. And there's at least a good chance that you having sex with a guy is simply a chance to "get it out of your system", if I can put words in your mouth.

In short, you don't want to deal with relationships and "feelings" - you want to fuck a guy (or get fucked by a guy). In other words, you want a random meaningless hook-up.

So get yourself a random meaningless hook-up. Write an online ad. Here's your template - alter it as you see fit. "Straight but curious 19-year-old guy in NE England looking to try out the other side. Looking for a nice, friendly guy to show me a good time. Interested in mutual j/o and oral to start off with. Safe play an absolute must."

Don't say bisexual - say straight. It'll triple the number of responses. When you start getting responses, start chatting with a few. Look for someone friendly who understands precisely what you're looking for. ("You need a good fucking and I'm the guy to give it to you"? Not him.) Arrange a public meeting in a coffee shop or something first, to see if you have good chemistry. Look up safe sex guidelines, and practice putting on condoms and lube until you can do it smoothly. Then, go fool around once, twice, or a hundred times. And have fun, damnit.

Lex

Thanks for the advice, I'll give it a go

 

[TheMackem]

So are you royalty or something? Why can't a 19 year old 'afford' to be seen in the gay scene.

Either get comfortable with yourself and start living an adult man's life, or get ready for a future of furtive hook-ups and anonymous bj's in the bushes.

All my friends are staight, lads lads. Don't want to risk them finding out if it ends up that I don't like it and wont go back for more. If I do like it and would consider a relationship with a guy then I will tell them because that will be how I will want to be like for the rest of my life.

All I'm saying is that I don't want anyone finding out whilst I am still finding out whether or not this is for me, otherwise it could mean changing peoples perception of me for nothing.

 

[rareboy]

I think you may have some other issues to think about.

Being a homo isn't only about where you put your cock.

Are you looking for sex or are you looking for emotional depth and bonding here?

I'm not sure I understand how you can take such a dispassionate approach to your entire emotional future. What if the first guy isn't the right guy? Do you just decide 'no more homo' and go back to thinking straight?

I can understand your desire to keep your sexual life private wile you're testing the waters, but not at the cost of starting a pattern of hiding yourself from your friends.

If they're that cool that you will be able to announce you are gay to them and then not worry about how they will treat you, surely they will react just as positively when you explain that you're trying to decide which team to play for.

 

[KaraBulut]

I really want to try sex with a lad to see if I like it and if not I wont have any wild oats to sow and I'll finally be able to commit in a relationship.

If I understand your post, you want to try sex with a guy so that you can commit to a woman.

I don't know if there is a cure for bi-curiosity but I am pretty sure that cock is not going to cure what ails ye.

 

[Lube]

All my friends are staight, lads lads.

I'll bet they're not.

All I'm saying is that I don't want anyone finding out whilst I am still finding out whether or not this is for me, otherwise it could mean changing peoples perception of me for nothing.

I felt that way before coming out. But, really, if you're curious and you're this inhibited, you're probably gay.

Hell, one or more friends probably has a huge crush on you.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>All my friends are staight, lads lads. Don't want to risk them finding out if it ends up that I don't like it and wont go back for more. If I do like it and would consider a relationship with a guy then I will tell them because that will be how I will want to be like for the rest of my life. All I'm saying is that I don't want anyone finding out whilst I am still finding out whether or not this is for me, otherwise it could mean changing peoples perception of me for nothing.

A good chunk of my friends are "lads lads", to use your term. I number among my friends hard rock musicians and guys who play contact sports for a living. And you know what? They don't fucking care. They don't look at me as some limp-wristed fairycake. I'm just Lex. And I like to fuck guys. Big deal.

If your friends are friends, they'll do the same.

Lex

 

[thrive]

Thanks for the advice, I'll give it a go

Let us know how it goes!

 

[Yeehaw]

Try to find some clean fit lads and have them ragdoll you sideways xoxo.