Met this guy online need advice on it...

[Gooey45]

So a couple of days ago I met this guy online he seems to have the same personality as me but hes a couple years older.He's had multiple relationships with men but i have had none.

I feel like he is too experienced for me and im afraid that i wont do the right thing.He was talking love shit too soon for me and we are meeting this tuesday.He was with a much more older guy who played him with women and men at the same time.He also is opened to his friends but not to his family.Im not open to anyone at all.

Do you think we would click or is the experience thing too much of a problem.

also id like to ask does vers and vers work together he sais he is more prone to bottom but i feel the same way . Maybe im just to insecure and need a boost of ego.

 

[Homoerectus]

Go on your date or "get-together". Find out what you like about him and he likes about you. It isn't required you have sex on the first date. If you like him, then you will know what to do. Don;t ever let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don;t want to do. I think is is good he has experience since you do not. He can make your first time a wonderful experience to remember.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I would not read too much into the love thing at this stage. Some cultures are very relaxed when it comes to the four-letter words and the others are rather tight there... Might be a cultural issue.

It is GOOD that he has some experience, whereas you might be somewhat lacking in this field. Two dudes w/o experience can be fun to watch but you want to be on the outside, doing the watching thing.

Leave all your prejudice and open your mind. Meet up the dude and THEN draw your conclusions.

The easiest thing in the world is to disqualify people at the slightest notion that some aspect of their personality or their looks may not be to our absolute liking. You want to think twice about it and do not declare ephemeral issues to be the deal-breakers. However, if a deal-breaker pops up, pay for your coffee and move on without looking back.

SC

 

[G-Lexington]

Just be clear about what you want, and what you hope to get out of it. You're looking for a good first sexual experience, and looking for someone to help you through your first time, but you don't think you're set for a full-fledged "relationship".

Lex

 

[Gooey45]

Well i was talking to him more in depth and i found out that he feels alot like me he doesn't want to be played he wants a 1-1 relationship. He sais he respects my decisions in what to do on our first meet i decided to just hang out he is picking the place since its his town.He is like me in alot of ways.

hes serious but funny a softy and he goes to school for culinary arts.What i found out tho is he hasn't had sex in a year and doesnt go out much. Im very outgoing so i asked him if it would be an issue. He said no that he just wans intimacy is not about with who he just wants to be with someone who loves him without games.

Im so nervous....We cant have sex until my roomate/ brother goes out of town again.So i let him know thats not what im looking for at all. I want a relationship for at least a year. But yeah i already have a crush on him. Well guys ill let u know how the date went.

and again he asked me if i mind that we are both vers/bottm and if it caused an issue i said i dont care that i am versatile and if u like to get fucked then so be it depending on the move.Im so stupid >< well here goes this is my first time stepping out of this closet and hopefully it goes good.Is funny how the other week im at home crying begging god to make me forget the best friend and bam this guy IM's me and after that my best friend doesnt really mean much anymore i needed that wakeup call

merry xmas

 

[Gooey45]

to clear up i been in love with someone who wasnt in love with me played with my head and left me out to dry.I want real love like if i start early and skip all the orgies and all that stuff maybe ill find someone quicker. I need experience but is not exactly what im looking for if things go well i think i can come out the closet. Cuz ill have someone to support me no matter what but by myself i cant im just too weak-hearted.

 

[Gooey45]

Ok so i went on the date . We went to see I am Legend . Great movie btw.. He didnt like it but i loved it and i found out im not 100% into fem guys im like hood as int he way i dress talk etc...I like to play sports and play video games i like cars and bikes etc.. hes not really into anything like that. The thing that upset me was he kept thinking he was making me feel uncomfortable.I wasnt uncomfortable because of him he were in a theater full of people i really didnt want to be looked at weird on that of that he dresses like way too tight and i just dont fit with him.

i keep talking to him as if im interested because he really likes me but i dont know this date just sent me into a wild spiral of confusion.If you really are almost a virgin only trying things not really going all the way is it fair to claim your sexuality.Like if i never tried having sex with a girl if i try now ... >< i just dont feel like i know myself anymore.wtf happened to me ><

well if anyone got any advice as to this feeling id appreciate it.But i tried to get out there but the sparks werent there should i pursue it more until at least a friendship is created this guy texts me too much and i feel guilty now.

 

[kayman23]

I think it is best you two just break it off. If there wasn't any connection and commonality between you two after the first time meeting then it is going to quite difficult for you to develop much. It would be nice to be friends, but if you guys aren't on the same page it is probably futile.

 

[youngnihilist]

yeah if there's no sparks don't waste time. i've met guys i thought were attractive in pics (and they were more or less) but there were no sparks in person so why bother.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

There is no point in leading that dude on. You seem not to be into him and you have only confirmed your initial doubts that he was not your kinda guy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

In all fairness to him, send him a polite 'Dear Joe' note and move on. He says, he has had some experience, so it is safe to assume that this would not be his first rejection. Even if it were, this comes with the dating, and the dude will do himself a huge favor by learning to live with it.

SC

 

[Gooey45]

Ok to update ...

I decided not to just cut him off. Because his attention is boosting my self esteem so much.One day i was drunk and mad at the world. So i sent him a message telling him my life so far.And he called me we talked for a long time. And he is so supportive of me he really likes me and thats what i think what the fear in it was.Now i told him i dont really like fem people and he sais he dresses tight and isnt into macho things but that he isnt fem he isnt a shop aholic or nothing like that.

little by little day by day i started to find the spark and i cant say it was my initial judgement but im into this guy alot FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

my world has changed so much because nw i got someone who thinks of me just as much as i think f them.I call him almost every day and i get so many good vibes that the confusion is gone

One peace of advice to everyone dont go only on first impression get to know someone cuz u might find a diamond in the rough.

2008 looking like the year where everything in my life will be changed.

 

[Moss]

if everything you are saying is genuine, then good for you.

but because you seemed to be 'lonely' before the friendship with this guy...plus the fact you just (im guessing) split with someone you were in a relationship with.

I just hope you aren't forcing anything your not comfortable with, I guess.