Missed opportunity

[magicdick]

Ever have a missed opportunity in your past when you have said “If only I had.....” when it came to a gay or bi encounter?

ALL THE TIME. Men and women. For instance... A former gf's gorgeous, lovable 18 yo daughter once presented herself to me at 2 AM as I left the bathroom after taking a piss. She was outside bent over in the hall in front of the door in her panties and bra. (Why she was bent over I still don't know. She looked like she was scratching her foot or something. Her real intention was getting my attention.) And I walked away. Goddammit, I walked away. In my defense, her homicidal mother was in the bedroom sleeping 20 feet away.

Another time was when I first started sucking cock and hooked up with this huge uncut cock and I didn't have him fuck me. It took 20 years for me to get fucked and it is now all I think about.

 

[firsttimeagain]

Yes. I’ve told this story a few times here, but I don’t mind sharing again. Especially now that my journey is on a completely different level than back then. It happened over a period of time before this particular conversation surfaced that I wish I would have responded differently to… Yes I blew it.

I used to go to a gym for a few years where I would swim four days a week. I was on the same or very similar schedule as this guy that I used to see almost every time I was there. After swimming, I will definitely take a shower and this old school facility had an open shower room with two towers and four shower heads per tower. You could not hide, it was just what it was. If anyone else were there, you could not help but see. It was not particularly busy during this time of day and the same guy and I always ended up being in the shower about the same time. Many of those times it was just the two of us. We would have small talk and finish taking a shower and step in to the dressing area to dry off and getting dressed together.

Both of us have a very similar build, fairly lean swimmers build and similar cocks as well. I told you it was hard not to notice in this open format. It was easy to see, and he had to know I was looking because I was. I tried not to make it obvious, but I loved seeing him naked in the shower. I caught a glimpse every time I could, and though I was sneaky, he surely had to know. That’s all I had on my mind, so much so that I would feel the arousal could happen anytime. I never had an erection, but it could only be moments away if I wasn’t careful. Several times I had to turn and step out of the shower to grab my towel to cover up before I embarrassed myself. My mind was always racing. The small talk was just that, small talk.

But, on this particular day, while we were getting dressed, that small talk went in a direction that surprised me. He said that he ran into a guy a few days back in the shower that told him he had a nice cock. I was shocked to say the least. Stuttering and biting my tongue. Because, he definitely has a nice cock. Beautiful indeed. He asked me how I would have responded if it would have been me. I wanted to say that I agreed with him. You do have a nice cock. But, for some reason I could not respond like I wanted to. My tongue was tied and I was nervous and I told him I couldn’t believe that someone would be so bold to say that. That was kind of a conversation stopper as far as the direction went. we finished getting dressed and walked out together. I wanted so badly to tell him how much I enjoyed looking at his cock. Unfortunately, I was scared to do so. We saw each other numerous times after that, and once again, I wish I would have asked him about it, and guided the conversation back in that direction. I never did. A lot more small talk and a lot more niceties and a lot more admiring, sneaking a peek, and wishing I could spend time with him away from there. I wanted him so incredibly bad and did not know how to address it. Missed opportunity? Missed opportunities??? Unfortunately, I do not attend that gym now, nor do I have a clue where he is.

Yes, back then if I were where I am now, I would never miss that opportunity to at least find out if he were interested in me too. Because I think he was and I blew it.

Now my journey is on a different level. It has taken a while, and just the recent past, my perspective is so clear after finally admitting to myself that I am gay. Of course I knew it then and have always known it, I was just in denial and scared of what others would think if anyone knew I was gay. Now is completely different, I am out somewhat, or I am on my way out looking. So, I would not let this opportunity pass by now.

I can’t help but ask myself, what if? What if I would’ve responded differently? Would I actually be where I am today? Or would I be in a relationship with a guy now? Or at least finally having sex with a guy that I’ve always wanted? I do beat myself up over it from time to time, but I am where I am now and I am more open than I’ve ever been and in many ways more mentally prepared for it. Not sure why it has taken me so long to act on my true desires. It’s not like it’s new for me. I’ve always wanted it and always knew I was gay. It’s just taken me too long to get here. Admitting it to myself and making the decision to be true to myself and my desires have changed everything. I’m on my way and I’ll never let another opportunity be missed…

 

[magicdick]

Yes. I’ve told this story a few times here, but I don’t mind sharing again. Especially now that my journey is on a completely different level than back then. It happened over a period of time before this particular conversation surfaced that I wish I would have responded differently to… Yes I blew it.

I used to go to a gym for a few years where I would swim four days a week. I was on the same or very similar schedule as this guy that I used to see almost every time I was there. After swimming, I will definitely take a shower and this old school facility had an open shower room with two towers and four shower heads per tower. You could not hide, it was just what it was. If anyone else were there, you could not help but see. It was not particularly busy during this time of day and the same guy and I always ended up being in the shower about the same time. Many of those times it was just the two of us. We would have small talk and finish taking a shower and step in to the dressing area to dry off and getting dressed together.

Both of us have a very similar build, fairly lean swimmers build and similar cocks as well. I told you it was hard not to notice in this open format. It was easy to see, and he had to know I was looking because I was. I tried not to make it obvious, but I loved seeing him naked in the shower. I caught a glimpse every time I could, and though I was sneaky, he surely had to know. That’s all I had on my mind, so much so that I would feel the arousal could happen anytime. I never had an erection, but it could only be moments away if I wasn’t careful. Several times I had to turn and step out of the shower to grab my towel to cover up before I embarrassed myself. My mind was always racing. The small talk was just that, small talk.

But, on this particular day, while we were getting dressed, that small talk went in a direction that surprised me. He said that he ran into a guy a few days back in the shower that told him he had a nice cock. I was shocked to say the least. Stuttering and biting my tongue. Because, he definitely has a nice cock. Beautiful indeed. He asked me how I would have responded if it would have been me. I wanted to say that I agreed with him. You do have a nice cock. But, for some reason I could not respond like I wanted to. My tongue was tied and I was nervous and I told him I couldn’t believe that someone would be so bold to say that. That was kind of a conversation stopper as far as the direction went. we finished getting dressed and walked out together. I wanted so badly to tell him how much I enjoyed looking at his cock. Unfortunately, I was scared to do so. We saw each other numerous times after that, and once again, I wish I would have asked him about it, and guided the conversation back in that direction. I never did. A lot more small talk and a lot more niceties and a lot more admiring, sneaking a peek, and wishing I could spend time with him away from there. I wanted him so incredibly bad and did not know how to address it. Missed opportunity? Missed opportunities??? Unfortunately, I do not attend that gym now, nor do I have a clue where he is.

Yes, back then if I were where I am now, I would never miss that opportunity to at least find out if he were interested in me too. Because I think he was and I blew it.

Now my journey is on a different level. It has taken a while, and just the recent past, my perspective is so clear after finally admitting to myself that I am gay. Of course I knew it then and have always known it, I was just in denial and scared of what others would think if anyone knew I was gay. Now is completely different, I am out somewhat, or I am on my way out looking. So, I would not let this opportunity pass by now.

I can’t help but ask myself, what if? What if I would’ve responded differently? Would I actually be where I am today? Or would I be in a relationship with a guy now? Or at least finally having sex with a guy that I’ve always wanted? I do beat myself up over it from time to time, but I am where I am now and I am more open than I’ve ever been and in many ways more mentally prepared for it. Not sure why it has taken me so long to act on my true desires. It’s not like it’s new for me. I’ve always wanted it and always knew I was gay. It’s just taken me too long to get here. Admitting it to myself and making the decision to be true to myself and my desires have changed everything. I’m on my way and I’ll never let another opportunity be missed…

Here's a toast to the memory of things missed. Keep in mind, we're all suffering from this affliction, some just more than others. I am now committed to never missing another opportunity to make love.

 

[firsttimeagain]

Here's a toast to the memory of things missed. Keep in mind, we're all suffering from this affliction, some just more than others. I am now committed to never missing another opportunity to make love.

Trust me, I will never miss another opportunity without at least doing my part to let him know I’m interested. He may have been just having conversation and might have have been interested in me in that way. But, why else would he have asked me what I thought about it. I should have told him that I agreed that he has a nice cock. And I should have told him I would love to see it more intimately. At worst case, he would have walked away. At best case we could have shared on a deeper level. Did I mention he had a beautiful cock? I can only imagine what it looks like fully erect. I would have taken it anyway he wanted it and given him mine anyway he wanted it. Our cocks are very similar. Maybe that is another reason I loved looking at it and wanted so bad. His body too. Nice and trim in good shape with a nice ass too. That might be weird too, but it’s true, I like what I like. Lol. Sorry, I’m torturing myself again about what if…

 

[magicdick]

Yes. I’ve told this story a few times here, but I don’t mind sharing again. Especially now that my journey is on a completely different level than back then. It happened over a period of time before this particular conversation surfaced that I wish I would have responded differently to… Yes I blew it.

I used to go to a gym for a few years where I would swim four days a week. I was on the same or very similar schedule as this guy that I used to see almost every time I was there. After swimming, I will definitely take a shower and this old school facility had an open shower room with two towers and four shower heads per tower. You could not hide, it was just what it was. If anyone else were there, you could not help but see. It was not particularly busy during this time of day and the same guy and I always ended up being in the shower about the same time. Many of those times it was just the two of us. We would have small talk and finish taking a shower and step in to the dressing area to dry off and getting dressed together.

Both of us have a very similar build, fairly lean swimmers build and similar cocks as well. I told you it was hard not to notice in this open format. It was easy to see, and he had to know I was looking because I was. I tried not to make it obvious, but I loved seeing him naked in the shower. I caught a glimpse every time I could, and though I was sneaky, he surely had to know. That’s all I had on my mind, so much so that I would feel the arousal could happen anytime. I never had an erection, but it could only be moments away if I wasn’t careful. Several times I had to turn and step out of the shower to grab my towel to cover up before I embarrassed myself. My mind was always racing. The small talk was just that, small talk.

But, on this particular day, while we were getting dressed, that small talk went in a direction that surprised me. He said that he ran into a guy a few days back in the shower that told him he had a nice cock. I was shocked to say the least. Stuttering and biting my tongue. Because, he definitely has a nice cock. Beautiful indeed. He asked me how I would have responded if it would have been me. I wanted to say that I agreed with him. You do have a nice cock. But, for some reason I could not respond like I wanted to. My tongue was tied and I was nervous and I told him I couldn’t believe that someone would be so bold to say that. That was kind of a conversation stopper as far as the direction went. we finished getting dressed and walked out together. I wanted so badly to tell him how much I enjoyed looking at his cock. Unfortunately, I was scared to do so. We saw each other numerous times after that, and once again, I wish I would have asked him about it, and guided the conversation back in that direction. I never did. A lot more small talk and a lot more niceties and a lot more admiring, sneaking a peek, and wishing I could spend time with him away from there. I wanted him so incredibly bad and did not know how to address it. Missed opportunity? Missed opportunities??? Unfortunately, I do not attend that gym now, nor do I have a clue where he is.

Yes, back then if I were where I am now, I would never miss that opportunity to at least find out if he were interested in me too. Because I think he was and I blew it.

Now my journey is on a different level. It has taken a while, and just the recent past, my perspective is so clear after finally admitting to myself that I am gay. Of course I knew it then and have always known it, I was just in denial and scared of what others would think if anyone knew I was gay. Now is completely different, I am out somewhat, or I am on my way out looking. So, I would not let this opportunity pass by now.

I can’t help but ask myself, what if? What if I would’ve responded differently? Would I actually be where I am today? Or would I be in a relationship with a guy now? Or at least finally having sex with a guy that I’ve always wanted? I do beat myself up over it from time to time, but I am where I am now and I am more open than I’ve ever been and in many ways more mentally prepared for it. Not sure why it has taken me so long to act on my true desires. It’s not like it’s new for me. I’ve always wanted it and always knew I was gay. It’s just taken me too long to get here. Admitting it to myself and making the decision to be true to myself and my desires have changed everything. I’m on my way and I’ll never let another opportunity be missed…

I would have made a point of letting him see me devouring his cock with my eyes. I've done so many times and it has always resulted in me dropping to my knees and grabbing him by his nice ass as I pulled him into my mouth.

I would have told him he indeed had a nice cock and that I wanted it in my mouth. I'm not shy about such things, babe. He was hitting on you for a blowjob. But we all react differently. Just use this wisdom and knowledge you've gained for future reference. Go for it!

P.S. Thank you for sharing.

 

[firsttimeagain]

I would have made a point of letting him see me devouring his cock with my eyes. I've done so many times and it has always resulted in me dropping to my knees and grabbing him by his nice ass as I pulled him into my mouth.

I would have told him he indeed had a nice cock and that I wanted it in my mouth. I'm not shy about such things, babe. He was hitting on you for a blowjob. But we all react differently. Just use this wisdom and knowledge you've gained for future reference. Go for it!

P.S. Thank you for sharing.

Yea I realize now he was hitting on me. We could not have done anything there in a public place though. Thats one reason I was hesitant to make a move. People were in and out. But, at that time we were alone. He just caught me off guard and I froze. It’s unfortunate I reacted as I did. I’ve replayed it over and over in my mind and I choked. But I will not again. Thank you for sharing and listening. The wisdom and knowledge will not escaped me. Also, I was very much in the closet at that time. I’ve grown a lot and coming out is not an issue now. I’m not worried about it anymore. I know who I am now and I am very comfortable and much more confident than I used to be back then. I knew what I wanted then, but I did not want to let it out. Now it’s totally different. When I let go and that realization occurred, it is indescribable how good I feel. Back then I was terrified for anyone to know I was gay. Now I’m not worried about that. I will speak up now and own it. I wanted that cock in my mouth then, but now I’m open to speak freely, and boy I’m already. Thanks again…

 

[magicdick]

Yea I realize now he was hitting on me. We could not have done anything there in a public place though. Thats one reason I was hesitant to make a move. People were in and out. But, at that time we were alone. He just caught me off guard and I froze. It’s unfortunate I reacted as I did. I’ve replayed it over and over in my mind and I choked. But I will not again. Thank you for sharing and listening. The wisdom and knowledge will not escaped me. Also, I was very much in the closet at that time. I’ve grown a lot and coming out is not an issue now. I’m not worried about it anymore. I know who I am now and I am very comfortable and much more confident than I used to be back then. I knew what I wanted then, but I did not want to let it out. Now it’s totally different. When I let go and that realization occurred, it is indescribable how good I feel. Back then I was terrified for anyone to know I was gay. Now I’m not worried about that. I will speak up now and own it. I wanted that cock in my mouth then, but now I’m open to speak freely, and boy I’m already. Thanks again…

Yes, I understand the predicament you were in. I should have expressed more empathy. Love between two men is a beautiful thing. Those who haven't experienced it, those who have never felt the attraction will likely never understand or accept it. I've experienced the physical attraction. I have satisfied it on many, many occasions. (Yes, I am promiscuous. And proud of it.) But I confess that I've yet to feel any heavy emotional attachment. I want to. I'm just waiting for the right guy.

I'm glad you feel liberated. It's good for the soul. Good for you. I wish you the best, babe.

 

[firsttimeagain]

Yes, I understand the predicament you were in. I should have expressed more empathy. Love between two men is a beautiful thing. Those who haven't experienced it, those who have never felt the attraction will likely never understand or accept it. I've experienced the physical attraction. I have satisfied it on many, many occasions. (Yes, I am promiscuous. And proud of it.) But I confess that I've yet to feel any heavy emotional attachment. I want to. I'm just waiting for the right guy.

I'm glad you feel liberated. It's good for the soul. Good for you. I wish you the best, babe.

I’ve seen a few for the physical attraction. However, that one was exceptional and undeniable. Absolutely made me feel like nothing ever has before. The butterflies the dry mouth almost weak in my stomach. It was an attraction that I’ve never felt before. I could not get him out of my mind. Yet when I would see him, I was out of my mind. Lol. In a good way of course back then it was nervous beyond what I’ve ever felt before. Not sure if I would be the same nervousness now? But it was in a good way. Seeing him undress walk in the shower when I was already in there, he had to know the way I looked at him. Pretty hard to hide such a cute ass, and then he would turn around where it was all in full view. We never caught eye contact because we were both trying to not make it so obvious. I made it a point to turn so he could see me at every angle. Crazy little game, trying to act like we were not both looking at each other. In retrospect or shall I say now I would make it a point that he caught me looking and staring and admiring. I would wash a little extra and stay a little longer on purpose just to share that extra time. Then we would grab towels and go to the dressing area. Always pretty close watching each other dry off and stepping into our underwear and getting dressed was kind of difficult because I really did not want to get dressed if you know what I mean. Not in a Public place simply could not go any further. I wish I would have asked him out for a drink or lunch or dinner or a cup of coffee at my place. how could I be so stupid?

For me, no on the promiscuous level. Got to be safe in every way. Never say never you say? I have to say never for the rough housing and non-respectful. I want it respect and I’ll give it respect. Firm and a good pounding yes, but respectful and loving for me.

I do want a long lasting relationship too. That may take a while and a few mistakes along the way but ultimately that’s what it’s about for me. it might take a few to find that. we will see you…

 

[Inandout]

Yes has happened to me and later I did deeply regret not taking advantage of the opporitunity.

 

[snakeeater1]

I missed one golden opportunity back when my mouth was still a virgin. It was winter in NY and I was in my early 20s. I was in a straight small town bar having a drink when a big guy in a long overcoat came in and stood next to where I was seated on a bar stool. We talked a bit and he bought me a drink. After a bit he looked around to see if anyone was watching then turned towards me and opened his coat! He had a huge hard-on sticking out of his open fly and said to me “come with me and I’ll let you suck on this!”

Even today I don’t think I could have got all that cock in my mouth, and back then it scared the hell out of me just to look at it! I said NO and went back to my drink. He waited a minute, finished his drink and walked out the door… I wonder even today what might have happened if I had said “OK, lets do it” ??

 

[cumlover91]

most of my missed opportunities were before i lost my virginity when i was growing up. Wasn't comfortable yet with liking guys so i didn't take advantage of the opportunities. There were a couple of guys that i liked and I knew they liked me but i had to act like i was "straight". I often wonder where they are now as i would totally hook up with them today.

 

[Kyanimal]

Most of our regrets come from what we DIDN'T Do!

I have several, not a lot, but several, stories of situations that I purposefully set up, then didn't follow through with. One involved an entire week, in a hotel room, in New Orleans! We never got past just underwear.

They were generally younger guys, that I found attractive, and made it a point to befriend. I assumed they were straight, butt you never really know for sure. When the time(s) to cross sexual lines developed, and were available, exactly what I was aiming for, I backed off!

My excuse was that I didn't want to "corrupt" them. I was saving them from Me!

There were other times when I was the prey. There were even naked guys showing off their stuff! Those times I was stupidly concerned about my rep. I didn't want "word" getting around that I liked dick! I didn't know if those guys could be trusted to keep my secret that I really wanted them! "Gay" was not a label I could afford at the time.

There were other times I was just too stupid to recognize the amazing opportunities right in front of me! I can look back at certain times and think, "Damn! That gorgeous guy was coming on to me, and I was too dumb to see it!" Those are the ones I regret the most!

If only I had know THEN what I know NOW!

 

[Inandout]

Most of our regrets come from what we DIDN'T Do!

I have several, not a lot, but several, stories of situations that I purposefully set up, then didn't follow through with. One involved an entire week, in a hotel room, in New Orleans! We never got past just underwear.

They were generally younger guys, that I found attractive, and made it a point to befriend. I assumed they were straight, butt you never really know for sure. When the time(s) to cross sexual lines developed, and were available, exactly what I was aiming for, I backed off!

My excuse was that I didn't want to "corrupt" them. I was saving them from Me!

There were other times when I was the prey. There were even naked guys showing off their stuff! Those times I was stupidly concerned about my rep. I didn't want "word" getting around that I liked dick! I didn't know if those guys could be trusted to keep my secret that I really wanted them! "Gay" was not a label I could afford at the time.

There were other times I was just too stupid to recognize the amazing opportunities right in front of me! I can look back at certain times and think, "Damn! That gorgeous guy was coming on to me, and I was too dumb to see it!" Those are the ones I regret the most!

If only I had know THEN what I know NOW!

We all can say this !!

 

[bi4you]

I spent the summer after high school working for a family friend to make some extra money before leaving for college. It didn't take long to find a stoner buddy. We would usually just sit in his car after work, smoke out and bullshit for a while before going home.
He invited me to his friend's house one day where we had a pretty serious smoke session. We were sitting around pretty baked when the friend's roommate came home. The guy went straight to his porn stash to show us some magazines. We were each enjoying whatever random magazine we picked up from the pile and it was a good time.
After a while, the roommate opened a penthouse forums to a particular page and told me that I needed to read that story. The other two guys seemed to know what he was up to, but they didn't say anything. The story was about two roommates having sex with women and things of that nature. The only part I really remember is the best part. One of the guys woke up to the other guy sucking his cock. Not only did he not stop his roommate, he got into it and came in his mouth and it became a regular thing. Good story.
Well, the guy who gave me the magazine said if he woke up to his roommate, who was sitting right next to him, was sucking his cock, he wouldn't stop him either. I was really aroused and really baked, but I had just met these guys and didn't know how to react. I just said that was cool and started talking about tits and stuff.
The guy was obviously checking my reaction to man on man activities and I'm sure the other two were in on it. If that same thing happened today, I'd tell the truth about how hot a guy sucking his roommate's cock is. Then, I'd offer to suck all three of their cocks.
If I was a little more brave back then, I could have had a nice cock buffet that day.

 

[imariver]

Back when I was in my twenty's, I used to get my hair cut by a barber, who was a Hal Linden" look-a-like. Every once in a while, he would tell me Gay type jokes, not too often, but definetly on a regular basis. This guy was quite hamesone and impeccably dressed. To this day I always wonder, did I overlook an opportunity???