Mixed Signals

[godson112]

I know I keep posting threads, and most of them have been about different guys, but I am just being so so unlucky as every single one of them has a problem.
This latest one has been giving me mixed signals.

Again, he's a friend and we've both admitted we like eachother on some level although neither of us are looking for a relationship, just a bit of fun.

And again like most of the others, we flirt a bit and we've told eachother the kinds of stuff we like and what we'd like to do to eachother.

Anyway, we stopped flirting for a while because I told him that if it's not going to go anywhere, I don't want to continue these charades, but then recently he started flirting again.

This happened a few times and it was really in your face flirting and he wasn't trying to disguise it. I flirted back and he sort of invited me to come over his next week but not properly invited (he asked if I had money to get to his next week), and I said I did but we haven't mentioned it since.

Then all of a sudden his flirting became less and less and then it just stopped and I was pulling all the stops, flirting a lot, and he was basically just ignoring it, and he does this ALL the time. I know that in a few days/weeks he'll be back on form flirting like crazy, telling me he's horny, telling me he's hard and stuff.

I just don't know what to do with him. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks

 

[G-Lexington]

Let me drag out this old chestnut.

Don't ask us.
Ask him.

Cutesy flirting is fine if you both enjoy it, but if it confuses the hell out of you as far as what his real intentions are, stop flirting and start asking. "Did you really want to hook up? I think it sounds like fun." If he seems positive, set a time and place. "How about my place on Friday night?" If he seems coy, or not sure, say (with a smile) "Well, just know the offer's still good. Let me know if you change your mind."

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Let me drag out this old chestnut.

Don't ask us.
Ask him.

Lex, ya beat me to it this time.

 

[godson112]

Hehe!
Well I said to him today if he meant it when he asked if I had money to go to his, and he said "Yeah everyone can come over sometime during the holidays" and I said "That's wasnt really what you meant the other day though was it" and he said "I know what you're talking about, we'll have to talk about it before" and I just said "Well as always, the offers always there", he said "Thanks" and we left it at that.
Now do I just wait for him to say something? What if he doesn't? The mind boggles.

 

[godson112]

Tell him how you feel. Ask him how he feels.

You can't really be mad about this situtation if you said you didn't want anything more than a little bit of fun.

If you want more, you gotta tell him.

Well, I would like more, but I know he doesn't want more, and I've been illicit that I don't want more either.
As I said, I'd love to be with him, but I don't like him so much that I couldn't handle just a fling. Who knows where it might go in the future, but for now I just wanna be close to him and have a bit of fun while I can. (If I can that is, if he allows it).

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Well, I would like more, but I know he doesn't want more, and I've been illicit that I don't want more either.

Then stop expecting more.

Lex

 

[godson112]

>>>Well, I would like more, but I know he doesn't want more, and I've been illicit that I don't want more either.

Then stop expecting more.

Lex

I meant more than sex
I'm not expecting anymore than that.
Like I said, we've both said we think sex between us would be amazing and we'd love to do it, he just like...hasn't given us a chance to do it.