My ass really bleeds everytime I get bottomed

[Moryse]

I have been having sex since I was 14 (21 now) and I have always topped cause bottoming to me felt so feminine, but lately with my new fwb who is straight/bi i have to bottom cause he refuses to do it, and I have such a huge crush on him that I don't dare say no. Well everytime we have sex he is the one that does the fucking and it is so hurtful and i moan and yell and stuff but apparently that makes him go faster and it feels good but after he stops and we ejaculate. My ass starts feeling sore. I leave his house, get home and fall asleep naked and wake up with my sheets covered in blood. This has happened everytime I bottomed. I have used lube, wet fingers, everything but it keeps happening. I have yet to tell him because it sounds nasty. I didn't know where to put it so I put it here cause the other stuff is for stories and this is not fiction.

 

[NotHardUp1]

Perhaps you have hemorrhoids. In any case, it is not a casual event. See your doctor. Get examined.

And thanks for sharing honestly.

 

[Level27]

Despite the prevalence of dick-meets-shitter that gay porn has led us to believe, the OP's experience is actually very common, according to some study I read some time ago. Many gay men really don't enjoy the feeling of fucking. I bled like crazy the first few times that it was done to me. I bled when my predator uncle did it to me once when I was 13.

Honestly, I don't think I will ever be ready for it; couldn't be happier for my sexual life.


Rest assured, there are other things that define a gay male and his role in bed, even with the absence of fucking.

 

[KaraBulut]

I didn't know where to put it so I put it here cause the other stuff is for stories and this is not fiction.

We moved your thread to H&W where there's some Sticky threads about anal sex that you might find helpful.

...after he stops and we ejaculate. My ass starts feeling sore. I leave his house, get home and fall asleep naked and wake up with my sheets covered in blood. This has happened everytime I bottomed.

It's not uncommon for there to be a bit of blood on your toilet paper for a couple of days after a good pounding but you shouldn't be finding blood on your sheets every time.

Usually in cases like this, it's one of three things (or a combination of) lack of experience bottoming, lack of foreplay/experience by the top or internal hemorrhoids. If you're having this much bleeding from anal sex, then we would also expect that you would have bleeding when passing stool.

You don't say how often the two of you are having anal sex, but you should take a break for a while and let yourself heal. For at least a couple of weeks, you should eat extra fiber in your diet, soak your ass in a hot bath (as hot as you can take it), use a hemorrhoidal cream with hydrocortisone and use a moist wipe instead of toilet paper.

While you're giving yourself a butt break, you might do some shopping for a buttplug. Once your butt has recovered, practice relaxing with the buttplug. You can insert the plug slowly, focus on staying relaxed while you're inserting it and leave it in for a while. It should not hurt while you're inserting it and with time you should be able to relax enough to insert it without force and you should be able to stay relaxed enough that it doesn't hurt and you shouldn't feel like you want to push it out.

The goal is to reach a point where you can take a real cock and stay relaxed enough that there isn't enough friction on the inside of your ass to cause trauma. Since your friend is straight/bi, he may not be experienced enough to know how to prep a guy for anal. You may need to teach him. A great way to teach him is to top him- this will provide both the instruction on relaxing and it will give him an idea of what rushing things feels like. Preparation for anal makes all the difference.

If none of these things make a difference and you still see bleeding either from using a buttplug or from anal sex, then you should see your physician.

 

[Vannie]

Here is my common sense advice.

Your health,both physical and mental should come first before a crush.You are allowed to say no,if you are not comfortable,in pain or being taken advantage of from someone who should care about your well being and feelings.Especially since you are giving him your body so freely.You have every right to tell him to be "a bit more gentle" until you are more
comfortable with whats going on sexually.There is only 1 you.Stay safe and have fun

 

[Hidden Element]

i too have had blood before but like mentioned only on tissue paper after wipping. Finding sheets full of blood sounds a little unusual to me. I would also reccomend getting checked out. It might be worth talking to ur partner, maybe ask him to go slower? buy some small sex toys and use them first to warm urself up maybe

 

[ShadowCat]

It sounds like it could be more like an anal fissure. Use tons of lube Take your time and open yourself up with graduated dildos or butt plugs the Colt Anal Trainer kit is very popular>adammale.com. Just know what your toys are made of you can't use silicone lube with silicone toys (use water based). I had blood when I was first trying to get my new average Dildo in my vigrin hole. I could get my first small slim 5 inch Dildo in no problem but my 6 inch average guy was a pain in the ass (literally ;P) it took me an hour to get loose enough fingering and using my slim jim Dildo before I could try my new buddy, but it went in and it was awesome.

 

[palemale]

You should probably see a doctor (or find a more attentive lover). I rarely bleed from bottoming. My first guy had a thick, 9" cock, and no blood or discomfort, and I never used a Dildo or butt plug before bottoming.

 

[offthewall14420]

I have been having sex since I was 14 (21 now) and I have always topped cause bottoming to me felt so feminine, but lately with my new fwb who is straight/bi i have to bottom cause he refuses to do it, and I have such a huge crush on him that I don't dare say no. Well everytime we have sex he is the one that does the fucking and it is so hurtful and i moan and yell and stuff but apparently that makes him go faster and it feels good but after he stops and we ejaculate. My ass starts feeling sore. I leave his house, get home and fall asleep naked and wake up with my sheets covered in blood. This has happened everytime I bottomed. I have used lube, wet fingers, everything but it keeps happening. I have yet to tell him because it sounds nasty. I didn't know where to put it so I put it here cause the other stuff is for stories and this is not fiction.

You been to the doctor yet?