Hey all,
My life has taken a very strange turn recently and I need some help on how to proceed. It starts with my best friend Tom. We've known each other for the better part of 4 years now, and I've been attracted to him since day one. I'm bi or pansexual (or whatever you wanna call it) but am straight acting and over time I've suspected Tom might be gay or bi but never really brought it up. It was always in subtle and sometimes not so subtle ways he would joke. I'd ask what he wanted to do that day and he would reply "dirty butt sex" or something dumb like that and we'd laugh. Sometimes he would ask odd hypothetical questions like what would happen if we where caught making out.
Tom is a bit of a play boy and is a known ladies man and from the outside, the last person you'd expect to have a gay bone in his body. He has known I'm bi for a while now but its more or less ignored and never really brought up. It was his nonchalant reaction to the news that really made me realize what a good friend he is. That and he's the only one that knows. But with all that said, I can tell that when the subject is brought up he feels oddly tense and uncomfortable so I do avoid it.
About 2 years ago, before he knew I was bi, he texted me saying that he thinks we should have sex at least once, just to see whats its like. We went so far as to make the plans and arrange the place but chickened out by the end. We agreed to never speak of it.
About a year ago I was driving him home, we where both high and he got quiet. I asked what was up and he asked if I remembered the text he had sent me. I said yes and he said, "well, if you want... I could give you road head". I was floored, it was finally happening! Next thing I knew I'm driving around the neighborhood getting my dick sucked by my best friend. It was awesome but short lived. He said it was horrible and did not like it, once again we agreed it had never happened.
Then a couple months ago he asked me to do him a big favor, something not at all sex related. When I asked how I'd be compensated for the favor he asked if I'd be willing to accept a bj, of course I thought he was kidding and he wasn't. He tried hard to make it sound like he was only doing this to avoid having to pay me for said favor, but I knew better. But as at that point there was very little blood left in my head I accepted. I did him the favor and we went to a vacant rental house of mine and he sucked my dick while I jacked him off. It was almost funny. He kept trying to act like he wasn't enjoying himself even though he was grinning from ear to ear upon arrival. When he started sucking he said that it wasn't as bad as he thought it'd be no less than 3 times and got very enthusiastic. I have to say he was better than most of the girls that I've had. And even though it was me getting sucked he came first.
A week or two ago he asked for another favor and requested to pay be back the same way, of course I accepted. Now here is the kicker. Tom is rather good at avoiding a subject so all this time I've rarely pressed him on the subject, he mentioned in passing during the text conversation that he finds some aspect of men attractive but then acts otherwise. And can and if needed will convince himself that hes not actually enjoying this and set me back another year.
We where gonna meet up Friday night but plans fell through due to weather. He texted me this "Can we possibly wait until Wednesday? Its weird but I find myself actually wanting to hang out there. Its not bugged me as much as I thought it would, you know? So I don't want you to think I don't want to because I do. I am both ways, you know?" both ways being how we've described my bisexuality many times in the past.
I accepted, thanked him for finally being honest about it and it ended there.
Its been a couple days and though I've tried bringing up the subject he immediately changes the subject, so he is still very uncomfortable with his feelings. The fact that there where admitted at all is something I simply never thought would happen. And I dont want to chase him away by being too persistent.
Should I just let the pretense continue in day to day only talking about it when he sees fit or should I be more direct and risk a sort of confrontation? I was thinking best rout of action is to wait until we meet on Wednesday and after we are done I ask what this means for our friendship. Or maybe next time we are alone to bring it up subtly. With Tom and something this sensitive every move needs to be very calculated and any help or advice would be very helpful.
Thanks!
My life has taken a very strange turn recently and I need some help on how to proceed. It starts with my best friend Tom. We've known each other for the better part of 4 years now, and I've been attracted to him since day one. I'm bi or pansexual (or whatever you wanna call it) but am straight acting and over time I've suspected Tom might be gay or bi but never really brought it up. It was always in subtle and sometimes not so subtle ways he would joke. I'd ask what he wanted to do that day and he would reply "dirty butt sex" or something dumb like that and we'd laugh. Sometimes he would ask odd hypothetical questions like what would happen if we where caught making out.
Tom is a bit of a play boy and is a known ladies man and from the outside, the last person you'd expect to have a gay bone in his body. He has known I'm bi for a while now but its more or less ignored and never really brought up. It was his nonchalant reaction to the news that really made me realize what a good friend he is. That and he's the only one that knows. But with all that said, I can tell that when the subject is brought up he feels oddly tense and uncomfortable so I do avoid it.
About 2 years ago, before he knew I was bi, he texted me saying that he thinks we should have sex at least once, just to see whats its like. We went so far as to make the plans and arrange the place but chickened out by the end. We agreed to never speak of it.
About a year ago I was driving him home, we where both high and he got quiet. I asked what was up and he asked if I remembered the text he had sent me. I said yes and he said, "well, if you want... I could give you road head". I was floored, it was finally happening! Next thing I knew I'm driving around the neighborhood getting my dick sucked by my best friend. It was awesome but short lived. He said it was horrible and did not like it, once again we agreed it had never happened.
Then a couple months ago he asked me to do him a big favor, something not at all sex related. When I asked how I'd be compensated for the favor he asked if I'd be willing to accept a bj, of course I thought he was kidding and he wasn't. He tried hard to make it sound like he was only doing this to avoid having to pay me for said favor, but I knew better. But as at that point there was very little blood left in my head I accepted. I did him the favor and we went to a vacant rental house of mine and he sucked my dick while I jacked him off. It was almost funny. He kept trying to act like he wasn't enjoying himself even though he was grinning from ear to ear upon arrival. When he started sucking he said that it wasn't as bad as he thought it'd be no less than 3 times and got very enthusiastic. I have to say he was better than most of the girls that I've had. And even though it was me getting sucked he came first.
A week or two ago he asked for another favor and requested to pay be back the same way, of course I accepted. Now here is the kicker. Tom is rather good at avoiding a subject so all this time I've rarely pressed him on the subject, he mentioned in passing during the text conversation that he finds some aspect of men attractive but then acts otherwise. And can and if needed will convince himself that hes not actually enjoying this and set me back another year.
We where gonna meet up Friday night but plans fell through due to weather. He texted me this "Can we possibly wait until Wednesday? Its weird but I find myself actually wanting to hang out there. Its not bugged me as much as I thought it would, you know? So I don't want you to think I don't want to because I do. I am both ways, you know?" both ways being how we've described my bisexuality many times in the past.
I accepted, thanked him for finally being honest about it and it ended there.
Its been a couple days and though I've tried bringing up the subject he immediately changes the subject, so he is still very uncomfortable with his feelings. The fact that there where admitted at all is something I simply never thought would happen. And I dont want to chase him away by being too persistent.
Should I just let the pretense continue in day to day only talking about it when he sees fit or should I be more direct and risk a sort of confrontation? I was thinking best rout of action is to wait until we meet on Wednesday and after we are done I ask what this means for our friendship. Or maybe next time we are alone to bring it up subtly. With Tom and something this sensitive every move needs to be very calculated and any help or advice would be very helpful.
Thanks!
